My parents "redshirted" my brother when we moved across country - having him repeat the 4th grade. It was a good year for him to get a good foothold ion the basics and obviously a perfect time as there was no stigma attached since no one in his new school knew he'd been held back. The other positive was that he turned out to be an amazing athlete and being a year older helped (not at all on my parents radar).

Why does his dad want to for it? Is he going tons Gonzaga or Prep?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, we need more information. I think of redshirting as waiting an extra year before sending a kid to kindergarten. You are not talking about redshirting. You are talking about repeating a grade. What are your reasons for considering this?

I posted to question to gain insight on how other parents felt. I personally do not wish to redshirt my son but his father believes its a great opportunity for him to reach his dreams. He's a honor roll student and is developmentally on top of his school work and has great social skills. I am in totally disagreement to do this and can't even begin to fathom the mental stress he will have to endure at such a young tender age of 11. He's goin to 7th grade is doing well. I am afraid the set back my hurt him instead of helping him. Thanks for your response.

Will the school even let you do that? At least in public, you typically need to have the school agree to holding the child back, and they typically only allow it where there are substantial special needs. I'd be surprised if you could find a private school that would do it either. A child who is so clearly ready to move on is more likely to end up bored and getting into trouble if they repeat a year for no reason.

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I posted to question to gain insight on how other parents felt. I personally do not wish to redshirt my son but his father believes its a great opportunity for him to reach his dreams. He's a honor roll student and is developmentally on top of his school work and has great social skills. I am in totally disagreement to do this and can't even begin to fathom the mental stress he will have to endure at such a young tender age of 11. He's goin to 7th grade is doing well. I am afraid the set back my hurt him instead of helping him. Thanks for your response.

What are his dreams? And are they actually his dreams, or are they his father's dreams?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, we need more information. I think of redshirting as waiting an extra year before sending a kid to kindergarten. You are not talking about redshirting. You are talking about repeating a grade. What are your reasons for considering this?

I posted to question to gain insight on how other parents felt. I personally do not wish to redshirt my son but his father believes its a great opportunity for him to reach his dreams. He's a honor roll student and is developmentally on top of his school work and has great social skills. I am in totally disagreement to do this and can't even begin to fathom the mental stress he will have to endure at such a young tender age of 11. He's goin to 7th grade is doing well. I am afraid the set back my hurt him instead of helping him. Thanks for your response.

Your son's or the father's dreams? Athletic dreams?

If your son is in public school and isn't struggling then more than likely he won't be given the option. If he's at a private school, I know quite a few families who do this later (6th or 8th grade) essentially for sports. Your kid won't be labeled b/c he wouldn't be the only one to do this (sadly).

What does your kid want to do? Are athletics really important to him? Is going to college pinned on getting a athletic scholarship of some sort?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, we need more information. I think of redshirting as waiting an extra year before sending a kid to kindergarten. You are not talking about redshirting. You are talking about repeating a grade. What are your reasons for considering this?

I posted to question to gain insight on how other parents felt. I personally do not wish to redshirt my son but his father believes its a great opportunity for him to reach his dreams. He's a honor roll student and is developmentally on top of his school work and has great social skills. I am in totally disagreement to do this and can't even begin to fathom the mental stress he will have to endure at such a young tender age of 11. He's goin to 7th grade is doing well. I am afraid the set back my hurt him instead of helping him. Thanks for your response.

If he's already doing well, then he will be bored if he has to repeat a grade. If you read all the articles/books about how to get your kid to excel in life, it is all about challenging your kids and letting them fail, not making things easier for them.

Anonymous wrote:OP, we need more information. I think of redshirting as waiting an extra year before sending a kid to kindergarten. You are not talking about redshirting. You are talking about repeating a grade. What are your reasons for considering this?

I posted to question to gain insight on how other parents felt. I personally do not wish to redshirt my son but his father believes its a great opportunity for him to reach his dreams. He's a honor roll student and is developmentally on top of his school work and has great social skills. I am in totally disagreement to do this and can't even begin to fathom the mental stress he will have to endure at such a young tender age of 11. He's goin to 7th grade is doing well. I am afraid the set back my hurt him instead of helping him. Thanks for your response.

OP, we need more information. I think of redshirting as waiting an extra year before sending a kid to kindergarten. You are not talking about redshirting. You are talking about repeating a grade. What are your reasons for considering this?

Anonymous wrote:It's not redshirting at six grade. It's repeating a grade and should not be taken lightly.

+1 Is your kid going to go to school in a different district? Otherwise, your kid's friends will all know s/he repeated the grade. That label will stick all throughout the school years.

Anonymous wrote:Would you be willing to redshirt your sixth grader? Pros and cons please

No. My child is not behind or struggling academically. Neither she nor we as her parents have expectations of huge sports achievements (also, the pay-off for redshirting for sports isn't as clear for girls as it is for boys). She manages socially ok. She would hate to be redshirted.

A family friend did redshirt his 6th grader. He was struggling a bit academically and the child and parents had big hopes for college athletics. He has always had excellent social skills so that wasn't an issue. The child agreed with redshirting, along with a change in schools, in pursuit of his athletic dreams.

It's not redshirting at six grade. It's repeating a grade and should not be taken lightly.

Anonymous wrote:Would you be willing to redshirt your sixth grader? Pros and cons please

As the PP says, it doesn't matter whether or not I would be willing to redshirt my sixth-grader. The question is, why are you considering redshirting your sixth-grader?

Only for really extreme circumstances.

Who gives a flying crap what strangers on the Internet would do.

OP, does your child face academic or social issues that could be addressed by repeating a year? Speak to his teachers. Get him tested if necessary. Make your own decision based on what your kid needs.

Would you be willing to redshirt your sixth grader? Pros and cons please