Anonymous
Post 07/17/2015 17:36     Subject: Re:Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:This isn't something she said, but something my MIL did that I'm just finding odd. I am 4 months pregnant, my husband is an only child and this will be her first (and only) grandchild and she's yet to either call/text/email me about the pregnancy. She and I aren't particularly close, but do reach out to each other on birthdays and when other big things happen (her companion went to hospital, so I called to check in, etc). Maybe protocol is that I should be reaching out to her as grandmother-to-be, but just struck me as odd never got even a text saying how thrilled she is at the news (which she is, according to my husband).

Wow, I'm very surprised there wasn't at least an initial congratulatory call or text. Is she scared to reach out for some reason, doesn't want to feel like she's bothering you? Doesn't make sense to me either.
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2015 17:33     Subject: Re:Rude things your MIL has said
This isn't something she said, but something my MIL did that I'm just finding odd. I am 4 months pregnant, my husband is an only child and this will be her first (and only) grandchild and she's yet to either call/text/email me about the pregnancy. She and I aren't particularly close, but do reach out to each other on birthdays and when other big things happen (her companion went to hospital, so I called to check in, etc). Maybe protocol is that I should be reaching out to her as grandmother-to-be, but just struck me as odd never got even a text saying how thrilled she is at the news (which she is, according to my husband).
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2015 17:15     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She told my husband "when a son marries, a mother loses a son, when a daughter marries a mother gains a son". On the way to church on our wedding day.

I hate her guts for doing this.


My MIL said something similar to me the day after the wedding. The worst part was that she said it so matter of fact, as if it wasn't offensive.


DIL here whose MIL never said that but I genuinely do not understand why this is so offensive. I find that it's pretty true that most men when they marry switch their first allegiance to their wife (as they should), get involved in their new family's life (once again, as they should), and will usually take their wife's side over their mother's in any dispute (which, once again, fine). I think that statement, cliché as it is, is pretty on-point.


I agree. It's a little 'poor me' for a wedding day, but There's nothing rude or mean about it.
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2015 16:56     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She told my husband "when a son marries, a mother loses a son, when a daughter marries a mother gains a son". On the way to church on our wedding day.

I hate her guts for doing this.


My MIL said something similar to me the day after the wedding. The worst part was that she said it so matter of fact, as if it wasn't offensive.


DIL here whose MIL never said that but I genuinely do not understand why this is so offensive. I find that it's pretty true that most men when they marry switch their first allegiance to their wife (as they should), get involved in their new family's life (once again, as they should), and will usually take their wife's side over their mother's in any dispute (which, once again, fine). I think that statement, cliché as it is, is pretty on-point.
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2015 16:51     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:She told my husband "when a son marries, a mother loses a son, when a daughter marries a mother gains a son". On the way to church on our wedding day.

I hate her guts for doing this.

Did she say this to your husband in front of you? If not, it was probably not meant for you to know.
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2015 16:47     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:She told my husband "when a son marries, a mother loses a son, when a daughter marries a mother gains a son". On the way to church on our wedding day.

I hate her guts for doing this.


This is an old saying OP. I wouldn't be offended at all.
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2015 16:46     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:She told my husband "when a son marries, a mother loses a son, when a daughter marries a mother gains a son". On the way to church on our wedding day.

I hate her guts for doing this.


My MIL said something similar to me the day after the wedding. The worst part was that she said it so matter of fact, as if it wasn't offensive.
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2015 16:20     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
Too many to list.
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2015 16:18     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
This is my mother, my husband won the lottery with this one as a MIL...

I called her right after he proposed. Her IMMEDIATE words.....it's about damn time! I was gonna pull the last three hairs out of his head! (He was balding....but just such a mean thing to say....AND.....we've only been dating for SIX MONTHS! ). I was speechless. I never told him what she said. It was so cruel.

Shockingly. ...we've cut her out of our lives for other good reasons.
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2015 16:12     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She told my husband "when a son marries, a mother loses a son, when a daughter marries a mother gains a son". On the way to church on our wedding day.

I hate her guts for doing this.

You hate her for saying this really? geez


yeah, wow. maybe she was trying to reach out and tell you how hard it was for her.
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2015 16:10     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:She told my husband "when a son marries, a mother loses a son, when a daughter marries a mother gains a son". On the way to church on our wedding day.

I hate her guts for doing this.

You hate her for saying this really? geez
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2015 15:55     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
She told my husband "when a son marries, a mother loses a son, when a daughter marries a mother gains a son". On the way to church on our wedding day.

I hate her guts for doing this.
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2015 15:51     Subject: Re:Rude things your MIL has said
No. My MIL has been my savior. I love her more than life itself. She is my best friend.
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2015 15:41     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
No I actually like my MIL.
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2015 15:31     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
If you are a MIL, you can make your own thread. THIS one is for DILs.

I need to know I am not alone with a rude, narcissistic, selfish, self involved MIL who doesn't even respect herself.