I'd be mad and I wouldn't trust her to do anything important in the future. That said, being mad won't change or fix anything so you may as well make peace with it.

It's understandable that you are mad. Really, WTF cousin! I would be mad too. But at this point, realistically, what are you going to do? Surely a rift between you and your cousin is not what she would have wanted, right?

I can understand ins a WTF way. Who loses something (one) like that? But you can't do anything about it.

Anonymous wrote:My cousin lost her grandma's (my god mother's) ashes. I'm kind of pissed off but then I think, those ashes are just her body and not her soul. Cousin thinks she's left them somewhere in the process of her travels over the last few years. I should get over this right?

If she had lost your mother's or grandmother's ashes, I could understand your being upset. But as the direct descendent, the ashes were hers to do with as she chose, including treating them casually.

Anonymous wrote:Pp's would you be okay if the funeral home lost a loved ones body?

Not the same thing, unless I expected the funeral home to just keep the body for years without payment.

A better analogy would be if my cousin buried grandma in her background and later lost the headstone and cant remember where grandma got buried.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, you should get over your cousin losing the urn containing her grandmother's ashes.

+1

Circle of grief, your cousin is one ring inside of you. Don't shit on the inner ring.

This. You can be mad, but don't say anything.

Anonymous wrote:Pp's would you be okay if the funeral home lost a loved ones body?

To me that's different because the loss would impact me, I wouldn't be able to have the burial or ash scattering that I wanted to say goodbye. OP is talking about he ashes of a person who passed years ago and whose ashes belonged to someone else, and the loss doesn't affect her in any concrete way.

She may be my cousins grandma, but she was very close to me. I know ashes don't mean much but it's kind of the symbolism I guess.

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you should get over your cousin losing the urn containing her grandmother's ashes.

+1

Circle of grief, your cousin is one ring inside of you. Don't shit on the inner ring.

Pp's would you be okay if the funeral home lost a loved ones body?

It wasn't your grandmother, and if it were, she is already lost to you. A bottle of burned bones is meaningless.

Yes, you should get over your cousin losing the urn containing her grandmother's ashes.

I would do my best to get over it. It was a mistake, not something she consciously did to someone. We're you expecting to get some portions of the ashes? I assume.not since it's been a few years now. I realize it stings, but ultimately it's not something that impacts you, and means nothing for how important she was to all of you.

How do you lose something like that. Very strange.

My cousin lost her grandma's (my god mother's) ashes. I'm kind of pissed off but then I think, those ashes are just her body and not her soul. Cousin thinks she's left them somewhere in the process of her travels over the last few years. I should get over this right?