Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Has anyone asked your MIL what she wants? I'm not trying to be snarky just wondering what her idea of her final years is.
I totally feel you in the other stuff though. My own mother has decided that she will live with me for 6 months at the time (I did not agree to this) and she feels like she is an equal co parent, money manager, and takes over the kitchen. Drives me absolutely insane. I love my mom and will help her but it will not mean living with me for the rest of her life. She is also Eastern European if it means anything.
if she's 68, she could live another 30 years - I think it would be very odd to agree to live with someone who wouldn't visit you or let you visit her. i'm sure it would be trying under the best circumstances but it seems like your MIL has some issues so I don't think it would be great for your or your marriage to agree to this without a lot more research/thought.