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Anonymous wrote:
Hmm. My DH is "literally curing cancer" and our kids aren't on social media. I would talk to my children about not posting pics of themselves on Instagram and not allowing others to do so. Monitor the situation and if it happens again, then you approach the parents.

What's the point of this? Any time you're out in public, people have the right to take a picture of you and post it anywhere they want. So why do you care if their face is on a friend's Instagram account?

Not that poster but what kids do in the semi privacy of a house is far different than just taking random pics in public.

Your kids can't "not allow others" to post pictures of them, unless the pictures were taken on the private property of someone who does not allow photography. So, for example, pictures taken of your children on your property, maybe you could prevent those being posted. Although it's pretty difficult to control the actions of other people.

But any time you or your kids are on someone else's property or in public that's fair game to have pictures taken and posted anywhere.

We don't particularly mind that pictures of our kids show up online in general, we only mind the content of what pictures of us or our kids are ever actually taken.

Literally the only way to not have a picture of whatever you're doing end up online is to not do it unless you're on your own property in private and know no one is taking pictures.

That's what we advise our kids. Don't do anything outside of our home you're not prepared to see on CNN or similar, and be prepared to potentially see anything you do anywhere other than family property on CNN or the like someday.

What's the problem with the funny videos or childish nonsense being posted?

Anonymous wrote:
Hmm. My DH is "literally curing cancer" and our kids aren't on social media. I would talk to my children about not posting pics of themselves on Instagram and not allowing others to do so. Monitor the situation and if it happens again, then you approach the parents.

What's the point of this? Any time you're out in public, people have the right to take a picture of you and post it anywhere they want. So why do you care if their face is on a friend's Instagram account?

Hmm. My DH is "literally curing cancer" and our kids aren't on social media. I would talk to my children about not posting pics of themselves on Instagram and not allowing others to do so. Monitor the situation and if it happens again, then you approach the parents.

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Anonymous wrote:The doctors next door (he is literally curing cancer) have a no restrictions media diet for their kids aged 12 and 8. My kids (7 and 8) love playing over there (duh) and I mostly don't have a problem with them enjoying a little crappy TV or playing video games together. But yesterday they came home saying the 8yo has an Instagram account, and they are posting funny videos, posting 8yo boy nonsense, etc.

I'm going to talk to the parents, and of course we have talked with our kids about how to be safe on the Internet (not that we let them do anything on it), but I mostly want to ask you - is this crazy? I suppose if it's a private account it's less bad, but if it's not private I think it's totally crazy. But maybe I'm overreacting?

What the kids next door post on Instagram is not your business unless it involves your kids.

That's the whole point of the OP's post, isn't it?

Anonymous wrote:The doctors next door (he is literally curing cancer) have a no restrictions media diet for their kids aged 12 and 8. My kids (7 and 8) love playing over there (duh) and I mostly don't have a problem with them enjoying a little crappy TV or playing video games together. But yesterday they came home saying the 8yo has an Instagram account, and they are posting funny videos, posting 8yo boy nonsense, etc.

I'm going to talk to the parents, and of course we have talked with our kids about how to be safe on the Internet (not that we let them do anything on it), but I mostly want to ask you - is this crazy? I suppose if it's a private account it's less bad, but if it's not private I think it's totally crazy. But maybe I'm overreacting?

What the kids next door post on Instagram is not your business unless it involves your kids.

Op here - Thanks for the feedback. I guess I'm the Luddite crank my children accuse me of being.

My dd has had Instagram since she was ten. We follow each other on it. No big deal.

You can't parent the world only your own. Keep an eye on the boy's Instagram and if you see anything about or by your kid on it, limit your kid playing at that house.

I don't know what you're looking to get by talking to the parents. It seems like the neighbors are probably ok with this since you said they don't limit electronics so if you're not ok with your child doing this I guess tell him not to participate or don't let him go there? Do you expect the parents next door to monitor this for you when he's over there? I'd let it go.

I would no talk to the parents. I would tell the 8 year old that your child is not allow on instagram and he is not to post anything about your child or family/home on it without permission. If it continues, he will no longer be welcome in your home. Your home, your child, your rules.

Just call them and say you heard they were posting stuff to instagram. You wanted to check with them because you don't want "your" child doing that. I guess that means not letting them take pics of your kid and posting? Otherwise, it doesn't really impact your kid. But you could approach it that way.

Op here - All I meant was that I was going to ask them what the kids are doing on Instagram and if it was even true. I guess I'm not ok with my 8yo posting stuff online on his friends account. But yeah, I'm trying to figure out the right way to approach it.

How about leave the job of parenting their children up to them (the parents), and you get to parent your own kids? I'd be really annoyed if you "talked" to me. I'd think you were stuck up as hell.

The doctors next door (he is literally curing cancer) have a no restrictions media diet for their kids aged 12 and 8. My kids (7 and 8) love playing over there (duh) and I mostly don't have a problem with them enjoying a little crappy TV or playing video games together. But yesterday they came home saying the 8yo has an Instagram account, and they are posting funny videos, posting 8yo boy nonsense, etc.

I'm going to talk to the parents, and of course we have talked with our kids about how to be safe on the Internet (not that we let them do anything on it), but I mostly want to ask you - is this crazy? I suppose if it's a private account it's less bad, but if it's not private I think it's totally crazy. But maybe I'm overreacting?