Anonymous wrote:OP here. Not about the grandparents, it's something we want. DC1 was baptized at the church where I was a teacher, but I don't work there anymore. DH and I were both raised catholic, although I tend toward the episcopalian faith more now. We just don't have the energy or time to attend church right now with two very young kids. It's a struggle to shower on a Sunday morning, much less get everyone dressed and to mass. It's not about finances- I'd be happy to contribute to a parish- it's the time involved in attending classes, going to mass, etc. I'd like to take the kids when they are a bit older and church could have some meaning for them. But I'd like to get DC2 baptized as a baby; I just didn't know if there were churches that would do that without the commitment of membership.
You do realize that all membership entails is giving them your name and address, right? They don't take attendance at mass. You might have to do a one hour class. If you aren't equipped to do that, then I guess you are SOL.