Anonymous wrote:I am feeling like a micromanager here, but I completely monitor my kids going to sleep. they are 10 and12 and I really aim for complete lights out by 9:20 during year and 9:45/ 10 pm in summer, although of course this slips due to outings etc. maybe I should let them self-regulate, but I think they would stay up forever reading!

Life long reader here, some of my favorite memories were of reading late into the evening in summers when I didn't have anything else required of me. If your kids are reading, I'd let them stay up as late as they want. TV, not so much.

I had to be in bed with lights out by 9:30 until I graduated high school (not all that long ago). Which meant that I snuck headphones into bed and listened to late night talk radio until midnight when I actually fell asleep.

I am feeling like a micromanager here, but I completely monitor my kids going to sleep. they are 10 and12 and I really aim for complete lights out by 9:20 during year and 9:45/ 10 pm in summer, although of course this slips due to outings etc. maybe I should let them self-regulate, but I think they would stay up forever reading!

Anonymous wrote:Pp how many kids do you have? You read aloud to your teens? I couldn't follow your post.

24/7 nanny for 7 kids, ages 3 to 15. And reading aloud every evening is one of the first things that I instituted. The youngest 3 choose the first book, the other 4 choose the second book. The oldest kids are 13 and 15 yo girls who like spending time with their younger siblings and I, but they don't have much time during the day to do so, and this gives them an excuse.

My 12 and 14 go up stairs with no electronics at 9 but no one monitors when the lights go out etc.

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Anonymous wrote:Pp how many kids do you have? You read aloud to your teens? I couldn't follow your post.

I know, wtf. I think Michelle Duggar or her kin may be posting

Reading books together is wtf worthy? Really? I think it's nice for as long as everyone is enjoying it. PP's post wasn't that hard to follow.

I do a group read with my teens - we each take turns reading aloud. It gives me the opportunity to see how they've progressed with their reading over the school year. We have our own little group discussion too.

By 7th and 8th grade they both had no set bed time. If they stayed up later than they should have they were the ones who paid for it by feeling tired all day not me. Both are in sports and they know how important sleep is.

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Anonymous wrote:Pp how many kids do you have? You read aloud to your teens? I couldn't follow your post.

I know, wtf. I think Michelle Duggar or her kin may be posting

Reading books together is wtf worthy? Really? I think it's nice for as long as everyone is enjoying it. PP's post wasn't that hard to follow.

I have a 13 and 15 year old. There are times when they stay up later that I do but on school nights they don't stay up late.

Anonymous wrote:Pp how many kids do you have? You read aloud to your teens? I couldn't follow your post.

I know, wtf. I think Michelle Duggar or her kin may be posting

About 14/15. They started staying up until midnight or later occasionally (sometimes I'd hear a giggle at 2am), which I understand is biological (based on teenage shifting of the circadian rhythm). Mostly they were just reading or talking at that late hour, so what can you do? I certainly didn't enforce anything at that age, and they were bringing home straight As, so I thought, if it ain't broke, don't fix it!

They are in their 30s now and have turned out fine despite a few years of being extreme night owls. Now they have little ones and have to wake up at 6am while I can sleep in. Oh, how the tides have turned

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And I think it's great PP still reads to her teens.

Pp how many kids do you have? You read aloud to your teens? I couldn't follow your post.

I enforce curfew, when they will be in their rooms and when the lights will be off. I read one chapter from one book, then a chapter from another book. By the time the second chapter is over, they only kids still awake are tweens and teens who then head towards their rooms. Eventually they will sleep, but their bodies are trying to tell them to stay up later, so we compromise. As long as they get a chance to unwind and so do I, we all are happy, and they may sleep until the bathroom is available (ie. after the younger rascals are out of the way).

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