Anonymous
06/24/2015 16:56
Subject: how much to spend on wedding gift?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How much are you comfortable spending, OP? How much do you usually spend? How much can you afford? These are the relevant questions.
This.
In a very similar situation we gave the couple $2500, but that is the norm for us and I know it isn't the norm for everyone.
Do they have a registry? Is it a second or more marriage? What did he get you for your wedding?
$2500? That is uncomfortably excessive. I would say $250.
OP asked how much we would spend. I told her what we did in a similar circumstance. I also said it wasn't the norm for everyone and asked other questions. In this situation it was not uncomfortably excessive.
I was talking about on the receiving end.
How do you know this about your husband's childhood friend?
It wasn't at all, nor was it the largest gift given.
Whoops - I messed up the quoting. How do you know this about a childhood friend of your husband?
OP - given your additional info, I would spend $100-150 on a gift from the registry.
Anonymous
06/24/2015 16:55
Subject: how much to spend on wedding gift?
Anonymous wrote:We would give $100.
That's insanely low. I would be embarrassed to give that.
Anonymous
06/24/2015 16:54
Subject: how much to spend on wedding gift?
Your travel expenses are irrelevant to me.
What did he give you for your wedding?
What did he give you for your wedding?
Anonymous
06/24/2015 16:53
Subject: how much to spend on wedding gift?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How much are you comfortable spending, OP? How much do you usually spend? How much can you afford? These are the relevant questions.
This.
In a very similar situation we gave the couple $2500, but that is the norm for us and I know it isn't the norm for everyone.
Do they have a registry? Is it a second or more marriage? What did he get you for your wedding?
$2500? That is uncomfortably excessive. I would say $250.
OP asked how much we would spend. I told her what we did in a similar circumstance. I also said it wasn't the norm for everyone and asked other questions. In this situation it was not uncomfortably excessive.
I was talking about on the receiving end.
How do you know this about your husband's childhood friend?
It wasn't at all, nor was it the largest gift given.
Anonymous
06/24/2015 16:53
Subject: Re:how much to spend on wedding gift?
OP here:
answer to question of what he got us for our wedding: $50 cash, as best we can recall. I should have included that in the original post, I suppose.
So, part of me immediately thinks we should also get them a $50 gift although as our peer group gets older and more established as adults, it seems that people tend to spend more on wedding gifts than they did 5 years ago when we were married and all our friends were 25-ish.
To the PP who gave $2500, we are not in the same universe in our thoughts on wedding spending. My husband and I spent 10k on our entire wedding, to give you a little perspective. We are from upper middle class families, we just didn't want to spend a ridiculous amount on our wedding. If anyone other than our parents or grandparents had given us a gift that large, I would have been absolutely astounded.
We are comfortable (financially speaking) spending several hundred dollars on a gift but I don't know that I want to spend that much $$ considering the travel costs, etc.
answer to question of what he got us for our wedding: $50 cash, as best we can recall. I should have included that in the original post, I suppose.
So, part of me immediately thinks we should also get them a $50 gift although as our peer group gets older and more established as adults, it seems that people tend to spend more on wedding gifts than they did 5 years ago when we were married and all our friends were 25-ish.
To the PP who gave $2500, we are not in the same universe in our thoughts on wedding spending. My husband and I spent 10k on our entire wedding, to give you a little perspective. We are from upper middle class families, we just didn't want to spend a ridiculous amount on our wedding. If anyone other than our parents or grandparents had given us a gift that large, I would have been absolutely astounded.
We are comfortable (financially speaking) spending several hundred dollars on a gift but I don't know that I want to spend that much $$ considering the travel costs, etc.
Anonymous
06/24/2015 16:41
Subject: how much to spend on wedding gift?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How much are you comfortable spending, OP? How much do you usually spend? How much can you afford? These are the relevant questions.
This.
In a very similar situation we gave the couple $2500, but that is the norm for us and I know it isn't the norm for everyone.
Do they have a registry? Is it a second or more marriage? What did he get you for your wedding?
$2500? That is uncomfortably excessive. I would say $250.
OP asked how much we would spend. I told her what we did in a similar circumstance. I also said it wasn't the norm for everyone and asked other questions. In this situation it was not uncomfortably excessive.
I was talking about on the receiving end.
It wasn't at all, nor was it the largest gift given.
Anonymous
06/24/2015 16:39
Subject: how much to spend on wedding gift?
$150
Anonymous
06/24/2015 16:39
Subject: how much to spend on wedding gift?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How much are you comfortable spending, OP? How much do you usually spend? How much can you afford? These are the relevant questions.
This.
In a very similar situation we gave the couple $2500, but that is the norm for us and I know it isn't the norm for everyone.
Do they have a registry? Is it a second or more marriage? What did he get you for your wedding?
$2500? That is uncomfortably excessive. I would say $250.
OP asked how much we would spend. I told her what we did in a similar circumstance. I also said it wasn't the norm for everyone and asked other questions. In this situation it was not uncomfortably excessive.
I was talking about on the receiving end.
Anonymous
06/24/2015 16:38
Subject: how much to spend on wedding gift?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How much are you comfortable spending, OP? How much do you usually spend? How much can you afford? These are the relevant questions.
This.
In a very similar situation we gave the couple $2500, but that is the norm for us and I know it isn't the norm for everyone.
Do they have a registry? Is it a second or more marriage? What did he get you for your wedding?
$2500? That is uncomfortably excessive. I would say $250.
OP asked how much we would spend. I told her what we did in a similar circumstance. I also said it wasn't the norm for everyone and asked other questions. In this situation it was not uncomfortably excessive.
Anonymous
06/24/2015 16:36
Subject: how much to spend on wedding gift?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How much are you comfortable spending, OP? How much do you usually spend? How much can you afford? These are the relevant questions.
This.
In a very similar situation we gave the couple $2500, but that is the norm for us and I know it isn't the norm for everyone.
Do they have a registry? Is it a second or more marriage? What did he get you for your wedding?
$2500? That is uncomfortably excessive. I would say $250.
Anonymous
06/24/2015 16:35
Subject: how much to spend on wedding gift?
Anonymous wrote:
In a very similar situation we gave the couple $2500, but that is the norm for us and I know it isn't the norm for everyone.
Anonymous
06/24/2015 16:34
Subject: how much to spend on wedding gift?
Anonymous wrote:How much are you comfortable spending, OP? How much do you usually spend? How much can you afford? These are the relevant questions.
This.
In a very similar situation we gave the couple $2500, but that is the norm for us and I know it isn't the norm for everyone.
Do they have a registry? Is it a second or more marriage? What did he get you for your wedding?
Anonymous
06/24/2015 16:28
Subject: how much to spend on wedding gift?
We would give $100.
Anonymous
06/24/2015 16:27
Subject: how much to spend on wedding gift?
How much are you comfortable spending, OP? How much do you usually spend? How much can you afford? These are the relevant questions.
Anonymous
06/24/2015 16:25
Subject: how much to spend on wedding gift?
details that might factor into the decision:
wedding is in the Midwest (small town Michigan) where the couple also lives
groom is childhood friend of my husband's and was a groomsman at our wedding (but my husband is not a groomsman in this wedding)
we have never met the bride
we will be paying $600 or so for flights+hotel room+rental car
I don't know if all those things are relevant or not or if there is just some kind of standard/rule of etiquette for this type of thing...how much would you spend?
wedding is in the Midwest (small town Michigan) where the couple also lives
groom is childhood friend of my husband's and was a groomsman at our wedding (but my husband is not a groomsman in this wedding)
we have never met the bride
we will be paying $600 or so for flights+hotel room+rental car
I don't know if all those things are relevant or not or if there is just some kind of standard/rule of etiquette for this type of thing...how much would you spend?