Anonymous
06/24/2015 06:54
Subject: Have you ever been tempted to cheat?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yep, on a girls trip to Puerto Rico. I was in a horrible marriage, extremely lonely and some guy at the bar started talking to me so nice, I'm hot, fun, sweet etc etc etc. My self esteem was so bad (a lot to do with my ex ALWAYS point out the stuff I did wrong in his eyes, which was mostly anything and everything I did or didn't do.)
I made out with the guy. Felt guilty as hell but it awoke something inside me, that I am desireable. I'm not a horrible person that my ex referred to me as. Long story short, this incident was the first step towards me getting the balls enough to leave my shitty marriage. I'm still friends with the dude today and I thank him for help start the ball rollling. He knows his roll in it too, and he's proud of unwittingly helping me out. I told him a couple of years later and said thanks.
No regrets at all here.
I will say - I had been on numerous girls trips and while I may have flirted I never did anything. Felt too guilty, and at that point, I still loved my husband and he treated me good and I felt loved. Fast forward a few years and things change. I acknowledge I was in a very vulnerable state with that hook up happened. But what I do know, is that when I'm in a healthy relationship and communication is good, the idea of hooking up with a random dude is silly. And before that guy, NEVER was even on my radar. Go figure.
Did you have sex with him?
Nope
Anonymous
06/24/2015 06:50
Subject: Have you ever been tempted to cheat?
I thought about it, sure. But never did it. During a particularly rough portion of my marriage/life, I reached out to a HS sweetheart, and we chatted. It could have gotten physical if she was nearby, but I was not up to travel then (cancer), and she could not have come here...
One other time was on a Business trip: I was in Hawaii at Dukes...I was chatting with a woman (about 40-45, my age at the time). She was in to me -- she kissed me passionately (and unexpectedly)...but I was with colleagues...about an hour latter, I kicked myself
One other time was on a Business trip: I was in Hawaii at Dukes...I was chatting with a woman (about 40-45, my age at the time). She was in to me -- she kissed me passionately (and unexpectedly)...but I was with colleagues...about an hour latter, I kicked myself
Anonymous
06/23/2015 20:27
Subject: Have you ever been tempted to cheat?
Anonymous wrote:Yep, on a girls trip to Puerto Rico. I was in a horrible marriage, extremely lonely and some guy at the bar started talking to me so nice, I'm hot, fun, sweet etc etc etc. My self esteem was so bad (a lot to do with my ex ALWAYS point out the stuff I did wrong in his eyes, which was mostly anything and everything I did or didn't do.)
I made out with the guy. Felt guilty as hell but it awoke something inside me, that I am desireable. I'm not a horrible person that my ex referred to me as. Long story short, this incident was the first step towards me getting the balls enough to leave my shitty marriage. I'm still friends with the dude today and I thank him for help start the ball rollling. He knows his roll in it too, and he's proud of unwittingly helping me out. I told him a couple of years later and said thanks.
No regrets at all here.
I will say - I had been on numerous girls trips and while I may have flirted I never did anything. Felt too guilty, and at that point, I still loved my husband and he treated me good and I felt loved. Fast forward a few years and things change. I acknowledge I was in a very vulnerable state with that hook up happened. But what I do know, is that when I'm in a healthy relationship and communication is good, the idea of hooking up with a random dude is silly. And before that guy, NEVER was even on my radar. Go figure.
Did you have sex with him?
Anonymous
06/23/2015 19:42
Subject: Have you ever been tempted to cheat?
I fantasize about sex with other people...does that count?
Anonymous
06/23/2015 18:51
Subject: Have you ever been tempted to cheat?
I fully believe everyone is tempted at some point. It's just about how you handle it.
Anonymous
06/23/2015 18:44
Subject: Have you ever been tempted to cheat?
Almost - and I've posted about it before. My DH has had an affair and I don't think I've ever completely gotten over it.
My near miss was was at a work event. Every year my company has a kickoff meeting and coworkers show up from various global offices. As it turns out, one of my Italian counterparts is extremely hot. He's about 6'2" and is in great shape. Anyway, we had a work event and then grabbed some drinks in a loud bar. We were several drinks in, the flirting was getting heavy and he was having to talk into my ear because the bar was so loud. His accent was really sexy. He kept saying that I was making him hot. I said I didn't believe him and he puts my hand on his HUGE erection. Then he whispered in my ear that he wanted to take me to his room and "F me until I scream".
Since that incident I've been really careful not to put myself into those situations.
My near miss was was at a work event. Every year my company has a kickoff meeting and coworkers show up from various global offices. As it turns out, one of my Italian counterparts is extremely hot. He's about 6'2" and is in great shape. Anyway, we had a work event and then grabbed some drinks in a loud bar. We were several drinks in, the flirting was getting heavy and he was having to talk into my ear because the bar was so loud. His accent was really sexy. He kept saying that I was making him hot. I said I didn't believe him and he puts my hand on his HUGE erection. Then he whispered in my ear that he wanted to take me to his room and "F me until I scream".
Since that incident I've been really careful not to put myself into those situations.
Anonymous
06/23/2015 17:49
Subject: Have you ever been tempted to cheat?
Never. The fantasy is better than the reality, IMO. I just want to think about making out with my hot swim buddy. I don't actually want to do it.
Anonymous
06/23/2015 17:15
Subject: Have you ever been tempted to cheat?
Nope. Always kind of thought of it as like...potentially thrilling like doing the wrong thing, but I'd be wracked with guilt. The kind of thing that only sounds good in fantasy world.
Anonymous
06/23/2015 17:03
Subject: Have you ever been tempted to cheat?
Yep, on a girls trip to Puerto Rico. I was in a horrible marriage, extremely lonely and some guy at the bar started talking to me so nice, I'm hot, fun, sweet etc etc etc. My self esteem was so bad (a lot to do with my ex ALWAYS point out the stuff I did wrong in his eyes, which was mostly anything and everything I did or didn't do.)
I made out with the guy. Felt guilty as hell but it awoke something inside me, that I am desireable. I'm not a horrible person that my ex referred to me as. Long story short, this incident was the first step towards me getting the balls enough to leave my shitty marriage. I'm still friends with the dude today and I thank him for help start the ball rollling. He knows his roll in it too, and he's proud of unwittingly helping me out. I told him a couple of years later and said thanks.
No regrets at all here.
I will say - I had been on numerous girls trips and while I may have flirted I never did anything. Felt too guilty, and at that point, I still loved my husband and he treated me good and I felt loved. Fast forward a few years and things change. I acknowledge I was in a very vulnerable state with that hook up happened. But what I do know, is that when I'm in a healthy relationship and communication is good, the idea of hooking up with a random dude is silly. And before that guy, NEVER was even on my radar. Go figure.
I made out with the guy. Felt guilty as hell but it awoke something inside me, that I am desireable. I'm not a horrible person that my ex referred to me as. Long story short, this incident was the first step towards me getting the balls enough to leave my shitty marriage. I'm still friends with the dude today and I thank him for help start the ball rollling. He knows his roll in it too, and he's proud of unwittingly helping me out. I told him a couple of years later and said thanks.
No regrets at all here.
I will say - I had been on numerous girls trips and while I may have flirted I never did anything. Felt too guilty, and at that point, I still loved my husband and he treated me good and I felt loved. Fast forward a few years and things change. I acknowledge I was in a very vulnerable state with that hook up happened. But what I do know, is that when I'm in a healthy relationship and communication is good, the idea of hooking up with a random dude is silly. And before that guy, NEVER was even on my radar. Go figure.
Anonymous
06/23/2015 12:11
Subject: Have you ever been tempted to cheat?
Tempted, yes. We had a huge fight right before we were supposed to leave for a weekend getaway. I went on the trip anyway, went out to the bar, chatted up a guy, then as we were about to leave I realized I just needed to blow off steam, not throw away a 2 year long relationship. I went back to my hotel alone. The next day I asked the desk girl at the hotel what I should do with my day, went on a great hike to a waterfall, and drove home. My head was in a much better place and so was my boyfriends. I'm glad I stopped when I did.
Anonymous
06/23/2015 11:54
Subject: Have you ever been tempted to cheat?
yes, joined her in her bedroom, made out.
Anonymous
06/23/2015 11:54
Subject: Have you ever been tempted to cheat?
No. Couldn't live with the guilt.
Anonymous
06/23/2015 11:49
Subject: Re:Have you ever been tempted to cheat?
never
Anonymous
06/23/2015 11:41
Subject: Have you ever been tempted to cheat?
This is gonna be the longest thread ever.
Anonymous
06/23/2015 11:40
Subject: Have you ever been tempted to cheat?
On a spouse or even bf/gf?
How far did it go?
How far did it go?