Anonymous
06/04/2015 17:02
Subject: ivf without stimulation
OP, I am not saying this to be a jerk but at 42, run don't walk to the RE.
Anonymous
06/04/2015 16:16
Subject: Re:ivf without stimulation
You and DH need to go to an RE for consult and testing to try to get some answers.
I was really scared of the IVF process my first time, but I knew I would regret it if I let the fear stop me from doing what I needed to do to have a baby. It really helps to have a supportive DH (mine even gave me my injections because I couldn't deal with the needles myself), so its important to get your DH on board.
I was really scared of the IVF process my first time, but I knew I would regret it if I let the fear stop me from doing what I needed to do to have a baby. It really helps to have a supportive DH (mine even gave me my injections because I couldn't deal with the needles myself), so its important to get your DH on board.
Anonymous
06/03/2015 21:06
Subject: ivf without stimulation
Have you thought about Donor eggs?
Anonymous
06/03/2015 21:04
Subject: ivf without stimulation
Unfortunately at 42, the problem is with your eggs. I would absolutely go with medicated IVF and test the embryos. You just don't have the time to spend recovering from another miscarriage, sorry to say. That's what I'd do.
Anonymous
06/03/2015 21:00
Subject: ivf without stimulation
The truth of the matter is your eggs are 42 yo. Honestly, you don't have any time to waste. Be aggressive!
Anonymous
06/03/2015 17:44
Subject: Re:ivf without stimulation
Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm 42. I'm surprised I've been able to get pregnant easily. But having said that... it's not like I can try every month. The reality is, there's the weeks of conception, then 6-8 weeks pregnant, then spend another 5-8 weeks recovering physically from the miscarriage/D&C before I can try again. So it's a several month process each time I try.
At my age, I'm clearly running out of time and I am really trying to comes to grips with whether I should do IVF in order to take advantage of the process whereby they can identify and implant a healthy looking egg or keep trying naturally.
I'm afraid of the impact of spending all that money. I'm afraid of having bad/hard reactions to meds. I'm afraid of shots. I'm afraid of the procedures. I'm afraid of failing. ACK.
(1) Money - Assuming there is no insurance coverage, there is no way around this, because the specific procedures you would need to check the quality of the embryos is significant and it may take several rounds for you to get something healthy to even implant.
(2) Meds - Discussions regarding bad reactions to the meds are overblown. The main issue is OHSS, which happens when you have a ton of eggs. At your age, you probably won't, and most people who do still don't get sick.
(3) Shots - I hate shots, as in spent time in therapy because of needles. At the end of the day, I wanted a baby more. It still sucked, but it wasn't the end of the world. If you share your concerns, they can probably give you a protocol that allows for fewer needles (combining medications, avoiding intramuscular shots, doing vaginal inserts instead of PIO shots, etc.) but you have to speak up.
(4) Failing - It is always possible, particularly given your age. To me, the monetary part was the hardest aspect of possibly failing because I had clearly been failing on my own for a LONG time before turning to IVF. It would have been so much better to have a crystal ball before plunking down >$20K to KNOW it would work out and that being a pin cushion would be worth it.
I guess the bottom line is that it depends on how much you want a baby versus how happy you are childfree - a very personal decision.
Anonymous
06/03/2015 17:19
Subject: Re:ivf without stimulation
Anonymous wrote:Thanks, everyone. I guess I asked as a stupid question, but thank you all for helping out with the info. The truth is, I'm positively frightened of moving forward with IVF. And my DH is convinced "we don't need it" since I can get pregnant so easily. But I'm AMA and after a year of miscarriages, I think it's time to start thinking very seriously about the option.[/quote
It was not a stupid question at all. I understand the fear but it's really not scary! You will take an injection class which helps and you will have nurses and doctors available to answer your questions. I get what your husband is saying but if you cannot maintain a pregnancy you very well might need help. Hopefully IVF should be fairly easy since you are able to get pregnant.
Anonymous
06/03/2015 16:58
Subject: Re:ivf without stimulation
OP here. I'm 42. I'm surprised I've been able to get pregnant easily. But having said that... it's not like I can try every month. The reality is, there's the weeks of conception, then 6-8 weeks pregnant, then spend another 5-8 weeks recovering physically from the miscarriage/D&C before I can try again. So it's a several month process each time I try.
At my age, I'm clearly running out of time and I am really trying to comes to grips with whether I should do IVF in order to take advantage of the process whereby they can identify and implant a healthy looking egg or keep trying naturally.
I'm afraid of the impact of spending all that money. I'm afraid of having bad/hard reactions to meds. I'm afraid of shots. I'm afraid of the procedures. I'm afraid of failing. ACK.
At my age, I'm clearly running out of time and I am really trying to comes to grips with whether I should do IVF in order to take advantage of the process whereby they can identify and implant a healthy looking egg or keep trying naturally.
I'm afraid of the impact of spending all that money. I'm afraid of having bad/hard reactions to meds. I'm afraid of shots. I'm afraid of the procedures. I'm afraid of failing. ACK.
Anonymous
06/03/2015 16:51
Subject: Re:ivf without stimulation
Anonymous wrote:Thanks, everyone. I guess I asked as a stupid question, but thank you all for helping out with the info. The truth is, I'm positively frightened of moving forward with IVF. And my DH is convinced "we don't need it" since I can get pregnant so easily. But I'm AMA and after a year of miscarriages, I think it's time to start thinking very seriously about the option.
What is frightening about it for you? I only ask because I also was scared and find the women here good at addressing the fears in a realistic way.
Anonymous
06/03/2015 16:49
Subject: Re:ivf without stimulation
Anonymous wrote:Thanks, everyone. I guess I asked as a stupid question, but thank you all for helping out with the info. The truth is, I'm positively frightened of moving forward with IVF. And my DH is convinced "we don't need it" since I can get pregnant so easily. But I'm AMA and after a year of miscarriages, I think it's time to start thinking very seriously about the option.
Since you're able to get pregnant easily, it really depends on your willingness to go through more miscarriages. You would likely eventually get pregnant with a healthy baby if you keep at it every month. Since you're AMA, if you go through with IVF, you could potentially end up with embryos to freeze for a sibling.
Anonymous
06/03/2015 16:22
Subject: Re:ivf without stimulation
Thanks, everyone. I guess I asked as a stupid question, but thank you all for helping out with the info. The truth is, I'm positively frightened of moving forward with IVF. And my DH is convinced "we don't need it" since I can get pregnant so easily. But I'm AMA and after a year of miscarriages, I think it's time to start thinking very seriously about the option.
Anonymous
06/03/2015 13:43
Subject: Re:ivf without stimulation
Anonymous wrote:If you did that, it would be the same as trying naturally, since you have no issues getting pregnant (b/c you'd only be getting one egg). If you stimulate using medications, then you will get more eggs-that way you could potentially test for genetic/abnormal embryos.
+1
Natural cycle ivf would make absolutely no sense for you. You could try mini ivf which uses clomid pill rather than injectibles.
Anonymous
06/03/2015 13:41
Subject: ivf without stimulation
The problem in your case is that it would take more time, because you'd only collect one egg per month. You'd end up spending months gathering a bunch of eggs/embryos to test. By stimming, you'd get a bunch of eggs at once (hopefully!), then test the embryos and, fingers crossed, have a healthy one to put back.
Anonymous
06/03/2015 13:24
Subject: Re:ivf without stimulation
If you did that, it would be the same as trying naturally, since you have no issues getting pregnant (b/c you'd only be getting one egg). If you stimulate using medications, then you will get more eggs-that way you could potentially test for genetic/abnormal embryos.
Anonymous
06/03/2015 12:53
Subject: ivf without stimulation
Anyone ever heard of going forward with IVF procedures, but skipping the injections and other medical egg "stimulation"? I have zero problem with accessing my eggs or fertilizing them. I've been lucky enough to get pregnant 3x, each time on the first try. But they all MC because of genetic issues. My OB has recommended going to IVF in order to take advantage of the egg selection/pre-implantation diagnosis stuff they can do nowadays. But I was wondering if anyone knew whether I could skip the time, expense and pain/hassle of all the meds/shots beforehand?