Anonymous
05/27/2015 18:53
Subject: do you ever bend the rules so your kid can just feel cool
Anonymous wrote:
As a European, I confess you prudish Americans amaze me. What's wrong with this swimsuit, for crying out loud?! It's super cute, and not sexy at all.
Personally, I feel that any bathing suit that requires hair removal from the upper region is skimpy. I agree it's a cute bathing, but I disagree that it's not sexy.
Anonymous
05/27/2015 18:53
Subject: Re:do you ever bend the rules so your kid can just feel cool
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:op here...its this one...
http://www.ae.com/aerie/browse/product.jsp?productId=0752_8749_527&catId=cat6900034&bundleCatId=cat7400013
For her age, no. Your husband knows what the boys will have in mind.
So what? That's the boys' problem, not hers. She shouldn't have to cover up to make the boys (or their parents) more comfortable.
Separately, you should talk to her about her body and appropriate boundaries around it, but that's not a reason not to wear this swim suit.
Anonymous
05/27/2015 18:51
Subject: Re:do you ever bend the rules so your kid can just feel cool
Anonymous wrote:op here...its this one...
http://www.ae.com/aerie/browse/product.jsp?productId=0752_8749_527&catId=cat6900034&bundleCatId=cat7400013
For her age, no. Your husband knows what the boys will have in mind.
Anonymous
05/27/2015 18:51
Subject: Re:do you ever bend the rules so your kid can just feel cool
It doesn't put anyone or anything in danger and it makes her feel good about herself. I would have made the same decision, OP.
Anonymous
05/27/2015 18:50
Subject: do you ever bend the rules so your kid can just feel cool
As a European, I confess you prudish Americans amaze me. What's wrong with this swimsuit, for crying out loud?! It's super cute, and not sexy at all.
Anonymous
05/27/2015 18:48
Subject: do you ever bend the rules so your kid can just feel cool
Anonymous wrote:Yes. Video games (Call of Duty before middle school at a party). Very sweet and geeky son who just wanted to fit in. Sometimes you have to help them socially when they are on the outside.
PS, He really didn't like it and hasn't really asked to play it since.
Just saw the link. Yikes! 13? Is this a coed party or an all girl party?
My parents (ie dad) we VERY uptight about swimsuit modesty when I was that age. He would go on and on about the boys, etc. What he didn't understand was that it wasn't about tye boys; it was about fitting in with the other girls.
If this is hanging out with just a bunch of girl friends, no biggie. If this is a coed party or a neighborhood pool, my vote is with your husband. The top is not an issue but those bottoms definitely are. Very innapropriate cut for a middle school girl. I would say differently if this were a high school junior.
Anonymous
05/27/2015 18:47
Subject: do you ever bend the rules so your kid can just feel cool
A few years ago I went swim suit shopping with my friend and her 13 yr old dd. omfg the bikinis are so tiny. Like wow. Her dd is teeny tiny and her bikini barly covered her nipples literally and you could almost see her ass crack. They need to start making 2 pieces again and not skimpy teeny tiny bikinis for young teens.
Anonymous
05/27/2015 18:46
Subject: do you ever bend the rules so your kid can just feel cool
Which rule did you bend, Op?
Anonymous
05/27/2015 18:44
Subject: do you ever bend the rules so your kid can just feel cool
This is a good call IMO. Ultimately not very harmful but gives her a nice boost and the opportunity to feel cool. I think this is totally fine and give you credit for being willing to help give her some confidence.
Anonymous
05/27/2015 18:43
Subject: do you ever bend the rules so your kid can just feel cool
Yes. Video games (Call of Duty before middle school at a party). Very sweet and geeky son who just wanted to fit in. Sometimes you have to help them socially when they are on the outside.
PS, He really didn't like it and hasn't really asked to play it since.
PS, He really didn't like it and hasn't really asked to play it since.
Anonymous
05/27/2015 18:43
Subject: Re:do you ever bend the rules so your kid can just feel cool
Anonymous
05/27/2015 18:43
Subject: do you ever bend the rules so your kid can just feel cool
Your daughter needs a responsible mother, not a girlfriend.
Anonymous
05/27/2015 18:42
Subject: do you ever bend the rules so your kid can just feel cool
I have no idea where Powhatan came from
Anonymous
05/27/2015 18:41
Subject: do you ever bend the rules so your kid can just feel cool
Powhatan does it look like? Teeny bikini or a tankini? One. Piece? Bikini top with full coverage bottoms? That does matter. Some are better than others.
Anonymous
05/27/2015 18:37
Subject: do you ever bend the rules so your kid can just feel cool
Obviously this sounds like terrible parenting but hear me out. Background: my 13 year old dd is so sweet and amazing and talented and...well...very awkward at times too. I was totally that kid back in the day so I get it and have a lot of empathy and try my best to help her socially when I can. She is VERY excited about this end of the year pool party another classmate is hosting at her house. She literally skipped downstairs to my room the day she got the invite. She has been talking about it for weeks now and getting the perfect swimsuit has been the main focus of the past month. Long story short I ended up letting her get a suit that Im not thrilled with...its a little skimpier than I would of liked. Part of me was exhausted (this was our third shopping trip this month...all of them a few hours/multiple stores so we both were about to strangle each other at times) and part of me just wanted to give in so she could feel awesome at her party. Its nothing too scandalous and I am sure there will be worst at the party but DH isn't thrilled. He accused me of living vicariously through DD and reminded me "I am no longer in middle school" and now I am second guessing my judgement. Anyone been in a similar situation? I have a feeling this is an entry level example of whats ahead in our household.