Just. Have them sent to your phone or tablet. My husband set up my phone to go both to my phone and iPad.

Anonymous wrote:See if she's actually deleting them from the server or just locally. If she's just deleting them locally, you can basically just swipe up from the top of the text menu and repull them from the server.

Also, if you want to be a real snoop, just associate her phone number with one of your devices and then you'll receive all her texts on your phone.

(Though I'm solidly in the "stop reading her texts" camp, for whatever its worth).

Does it matter how old the child is?

Anonymous wrote:Why do you feel the need to monitor her texts? Genuine question here. My kids are still little.

We monitor our (young) children's texts because they tend to use them inappropriately, can be contacted by adults, may eventually cause an extension of any school drama into the home, etc.

See if she's actually deleting them from the server or just locally. If she's just deleting them locally, you can basically just swipe up from the top of the text menu and repull them from the server.

Also, if you want to be a real snoop, just associate her phone number with one of your devices and then you'll receive all her texts on your phone.

(Though I'm solidly in the "stop reading her texts" camp, for whatever its worth).

Why do you feel the need to monitor her texts? Genuine question here. My kids are still little.

Anonymous wrote:How old is she?

I still remember my mom listening in on my phone calls. It was a ridiculous invasion of privacy.

Phone calls are very, very different than texts. I would give my daughter total privacy for a personal diary and for phone conversations. But anything sent electronically would and should be supervised by an adult.

Anonymous wrote:How old is she?

I still remember my mom listening in on my phone calls. It was a ridiculous invasion of privacy.

+1 back off

How old is she?

I still remember my mom listening in on my phone calls. It was a ridiculous invasion of privacy.

We actually have a very good relationship and generally I trust her. I'm reluctant to confiscate the device because I do think she needs the outlet to connect with and vent to her friends. And I'm well aware that she can outsmart me technologically at every turn. Just wondering if there is an easy way to do something on the device that prevents deletion of texts.

Do you have an iPad or iPhone? I think you can set it up so that you receive iMessages to more than one device. However do know that there are so many texting apps that kids use now to hide stuff. Very hard to stay one step ahead of them, so address the hiding/lying especially if there is something inappropriate/harmful being hidden

Anonymous wrote:We have a general rule that we're allowed to see her texts. But now she is deleting them. Is there anything we can do to prevent this?

Confiscate device. That's what I would do. It's a violation of our contract for having one.

Yeah. Take it the hell away. OH HELL NO that would not fly.

you could work on having a good relationship with her and trusting her.

Or google "spyware app iphone" and see what comes up.

FWIW, my mom had spyware installed on my computer growing up and I found ways around it when I wanted to, and also hated her and our relationship has never really recovered. We get along fine but we've never been close and she's not someone I call and talk to about my life.

Yes. Take away the iPod Touch until she is ready to abide by the rules.

We have a general rule that we're allowed to see her texts. But now she is deleting them. Is there anything we can do to prevent this?