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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We rarely do, but if they are in their own zones and need to change coarse we use it for that. Just a swat on the but to get them to pay attention and realize the severity of the situation. It works for us so we do not care what others say about this. I do not like having to repeat myself a hundred times or yell, this helps with that.

I posted this. The thing is you can never spank out of anger.

I disagree. I think a parent who loses control and spanks their kid on a very rare occasion is probably OK. it's like yelling - really not a good discipline strategy in the long run and doesn't do much but get immediate attention, but sometimes we all have those moments. On the flip side, a parent who's totally calm, rational, loving, etc. STILL hitting their kid? That's pretty effed up to me. Almost kind of pervy.

A parent loosing their shit and spanking with a hot temper is better than a parent that is clam???? Really??

I really wish threads like this would just get deleted. People who spank won't change their minds no matter how much evidence they are confronted with that spanking isn't the right thing to do. These threads just make me incredibly sad for all the kids who get hurt at their very own homes instead of those homes being the one place on earth where they are free and safe from any harm.

Not listening, not cleaning up after oneself, not having sex on demand, perceived slights. That is when he hits me.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We rarely do, but if they are in their own zones and need to change coarse we use it for that. Just a swat on the but to get them to pay attention and realize the severity of the situation. It works for us so we do not care what others say about this. I do not like having to repeat myself a hundred times or yell, this helps with that.

I posted this. The thing is you can never spank out of anger.

I disagree. I think a parent who loses control and spanks their kid on a very rare occasion is probably OK. it's like yelling - really not a good discipline strategy in the long run and doesn't do much but get immediate attention, but sometimes we all have those moments. On the flip side, a parent who's totally calm, rational, loving, etc. STILL hitting their kid? That's pretty effed up to me. Almost kind of pervy.

A good parent instills respect, not fear

Anonymous wrote:We rarely do, but if they are in their own zones and need to change coarse we use it for that. Just a swat on the but to get them to pay attention and realize the severity of the situation. It works for us so we do not care what others say about this. I do not like having to repeat myself a hundred times or yell, this helps with that.

I posted this. The thing is you can never spank out of anger.

I spanked my first two kids when they were little, but not my second two kids at all.

With the first two, I'd spank them when they weren't listening or when they did something against the rules. I stopped when I noticed how angry I was when I was doing it, and was worried if I didn't hold one of their arms while spanking that they'd go flying. I stopped when the younger of the first two was around five. It didn't fix the problems anyway.

The oldest remembers, but his sister doesn't.

Anonymous wrote:We rarely do, but if they are in their own zones and need to change coarse we use it for that. Just a swat on the but to get them to pay attention and realize the severity of the situation. It works for us so we do not care what others say about this. I do not like having to repeat myself a hundred times or yell, this helps with that.

My brother follows this with his girls. While, I'm making repeated requests to mine, his listen the first time. At first I thought he'd just been blessed with miracle children, then he confided early spankings did the trick.

We rarely do, but if they are in their own zones and need to change coarse we use it for that. Just a swat on the but to get them to pay attention and realize the severity of the situation. It works for us so we do not care what others say about this. I do not like having to repeat myself a hundred times or yell, this helps with that.

No spanking here either.

We don't spank in our house - we just do loss of privilege.

Anonymous wrote:Ive read some of the spanking thread, Im of the mindset with a 3yo that an occasioanal swipe on the butt is ok but nothing more than that.
Im curious for those of you that spank, what did you spank for? and did you kid do the same thing again?
had you tried time out or loss of privilege first and it didnt work?

You are mistaken. Instead of hitting your child why not try some actual parenting? I am pretty sure you are the OP of the spanking thread. Corporal punishment only resorts in one thing: your child being afraid of you. Of course fear is a very powerful teacher - however it doesn't teach what you actually want to be learned. It teaches a child to try to avoid getting hit. It doesn't teach a child right from wrong, manners, good behavior or social skills.

If you ever only hit a child once in their life for breaking a car window - yes most likely that child will never break a car window again. That still doesn't mean there is no other way than to hit your child. One that doesn't break your child's trust in you. One that doesn't involve taking advantage of a helpless human being.
If you hit your child every time he/she misbehaves it won't do anything but damage your relationship. The more often you hit the less effective it gets. Your child learns that hitting is acceptable. Your child also learns to fear you. Either your child withdraws from you or your child rebels against this. Either way you will not end up with a well adjusted adult with good social skills, coping skills, anger management skills, problem solving skills etc.

We don't spank, sorry. Nothing warrants a spanking. Kids are 6 and 10, not perfect, but well behaved.

Oops. Thought this was the explicit forum. I'll just show myself out then. Alright. See ya.

Ive read some of the spanking thread, Im of the mindset with a 3yo that an occasioanal swipe on the butt is ok but nothing more than that.
Im curious for those of you that spank, what did you spank for? and did you kid do the same thing again?
had you tried time out or loss of privilege first and it didnt work?