Anonymous wrote:Sex matters.

Guy spends close to decade with woman who won't give oral or anal or whatever and he tries to convince himself that he loves her (and might actually love her), but is not willing to never have oral and anal... A very real reason to not marry a woman. Sorry.

Then he gets with th next woman who is an oral/anal fiend and he marries her to keep that sex (which doesn't always work out either).

But yeah, no... No ring for the "only vaginal sex" women, as far as I'm concerned.

Damn, then why do all these foolish women agree to marry men who can't even make them orgasm?! High standards, PP, since I'm betting from your immature tone that you don't know shit about how to make a woman feel good.

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Anonymous wrote:Women who don't give Me the kind of sex I want would never be marriage material. I won't play that lottery.

That said, some women stop doing shit as soon as marriage happens. Once you've lived that, the next woman who say, "No honey, I won't stop doing that after marriage" will just seem like a statistic.

But I give sex. I've never refused. I put out, and by all accounts give stellar "benefits".

So the fact I clean, do laundry, etc. before marriage penalizes me because I might stop later?

OP, sounds like you're lacking self esteem. Maybe that's why. Or, you know, this guy just isn't for you. Set yourself free!

Sex matters.

Guy spends close to decade with woman who won't give oral or anal or whatever and he tries to convince himself that he loves her (and might actually love her), but is not willing to never have oral and anal... A very real reason to not marry a woman. Sorry.

Then he gets with th next woman who is an oral/anal fiend and he marries her to keep that sex (which doesn't always work out either).

But yeah, no... No ring for the "only vaginal sex" women, as far as I'm concerned.

Anonymous wrote:Women who don't give Me the kind of sex I want would never be marriage material. I won't play that lottery.

That said, some women stop doing shit as soon as marriage happens. Once you've lived that, the next woman who say, "No honey, I won't stop doing that after marriage" will just seem like a statistic.

But I give sex. I've never refused. I put out, and by all accounts give stellar "benefits".

So the fact I clean, do laundry, etc. before marriage penalizes me because I might stop later?

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Anonymous wrote:Too good to leave, but not good enough to get married.

This is what I'm asking about.

What makes one the marrying type, but the other the cohabiting type?

One person's not marrying type may be another person's the one and only and 'knew I want to marry her at hello' type.

I am sure that you too either went out or dated someone who was good enough but something just didn't click. Or was at a job that was good but was not fulfilling in some other ways.

It is luck of the draw. It is also knowing what you want and communicating it. It is also to paraphrase from a song 'being able to leave the table, when [what you want: love / marriage / friendship]'s no longer being served'. If it is not what you want, leave. Don't stay too long trying to mold yourself and the other person into what the two of you are not.

I guess this is it.

But what seems to make some women able to get spouse after spouse, and others nothing? Is it the leaving if they don't get thing?

Women who don't give Me the kind of sex I want would never be marriage material. I won't play that lottery.

That said, some women stop doing shit as soon as marriage happens. Once you've lived that, the next woman who say, "No honey, I won't stop doing that after marriage" will just seem like a statistic.

Stupidity.

Sorry.. "Friend" who has been married 3 times, and she's difficult. Co-worker who is about to be on her fourth... Doesn't seem to be any shining star either. She's a negative, miserable human being and has had almost 4 husbands. Her new partner can't wait to marry her.

I guess I'm the milk giving cow. And it just sucks.

Age: On the brink of 40. In what's a "happy" long term relationship. But he'lll never marry me, and I know that.

Yes, part of my sadness is partly hitting a milestone birthday.

I just wonder what makes some women the marrying type, and others not. I've been had others before who didn't ask me either. I have a friend who has been married 3 times, and she's

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Anonymous wrote:Too good to leave, but not good enough to get married.

This is what I'm asking about.

What makes one the marrying type, but the other the cohabiting type?

One person's not marrying type may be another person's the one and only and 'knew I want to marry her at hello' type.

I am sure that you too either went out or dated someone who was good enough but something just didn't click. Or was at a job that was good but was not fulfilling in some other ways.

It is luck of the draw. It is also knowing what you want and communicating it. It is also to paraphrase from a song 'being able to leave the table, when [what you want: love / marriage / friendship]'s no longer being served'. If it is not what you want, leave. Don't stay too long trying to mold yourself and the other person into what the two of you are not.

TBH, I didn't realize women still think this way. How old are you, OP?

Anonymous wrote:Too good to leave, but not good enough to get married.

This is what I'm asking about.

What makes one the marrying type, but the other the cohabiting type?

Too good to leave, but not good enough to get married.

sounds like he was a user. Wasn't all that into you but was too busy/stressed/broke to want to break up and have to find someone else. Easy access to someone to sleep with and spend time with is just enough for some guys to stay with until they are in a better position. At least that's what I've seen from what's happened to friends

We all know the story. The gal who bends over to make you happy. Years pass.... Things seem happy.. But , no ring. Things deteriorate. Next gal, you jump in with both feet. Ring. It's often not the sacrificer when things are tough, but the "next" gal who gets the ring. Is it the push? The ultimatum? Or are you genuinely happier? Or is it just because life is more stable then and you think it's a better time?

What makes you put a ring on some girls, and not necessarily the one who give it all up for you?