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Anonymous wrote:At least you aren't 43 with little kids. You are 37 with a 5&10yr old.

What difference do those six years make?

As a man, a woman 37 is much more attractive to me than a woman 47 with the same aged kids. If I'm 45, I'm probably dating a 37yr old. if I'm looking for a life partner I don't want one who is still dragging around young children in her 50s. The 37 yr old will have much more flexibility in her later years.

This is the OP. yes I am a DW. I am ok looking. I look very young. My DH was my first and only boyfriend. I met him at 21, so I would not even know where to start with dating or meeting people. My plan is to ensure that the kids are ok before starting to date.

Anonymous wrote:Nah. You've hit the wall in looks and you are encumbered with two kids and the baggage from the marriage. Get yourself a high-quality vibrator.

dafuq?

Yes there is hope! And it helps that your kids are out of the baby/toddler stage.

Anonymous wrote:At least you aren't 43 with little kids. You are 37 with a 5&10yr old.

What difference do those six years make?

At least you aren't 43 with little kids. You are 37 with a 5&10yr old.

OP, do you use the women's room? If yes you will have no problem dating. The ex-DH will be the one with the issues.

Nah. You've hit the wall in looks and you are encumbered with two kids and the baggage from the marriage. Get yourself a high-quality vibrator.

Absolutely. You will have plenty of divorced men in your age range (some with younger kids) to date and many still single men. When your kids move out, you will have plenty of other empty nesters.

Yes, it is harder to date with kids (and more expensive if you need babysitters). But there are plenty of guys out there that don't mind you having kids.

I am slightly older with a 13 year old, and have been able to date pretty easily. I am in decent shape and while not super beautiful, I am smart, kind and fun to be around -- which, I think, makes me pretty attractive.

In all honesty, you may not want to date for a while anyway. But don't let that be a reason to keep you in a bad marriage.

You could get into a new relationship while married with 2kids what makes you think it'd be tougher once you divorce?

Of course you have a chance. Look around-- all kinds of people with all kinds of situations find someone who wants to be with them. Of course, like anyone, it may not work out, but that is always true. If you would prefer being single with the POSSIBILITY of a new relationship, then totally get divorced. Just don't get divorced on the assumption that you'll meet a new partner immediatly and everything will be wonderful.

Of course there is. Don't listen to the jerks on the board who wil tell you that unless you are Barbie you won't find love. You will probably go through stages after the divorce where you'll seek out a new relationship right away. Don't jump into anything. You need to give yourself time to figure out what you want in a partner.

What's wrong with being single? Focus on the children. This may be a hard transition for them.
Take it slow and make new friends. Let a new love interest happen in its own time. You are young and plenty of time for a second marriage or dating.

is there hope for a new relationship?

Depends on how attractive you are.

I am planning on separating from my husband. By he time the divorce is final I will be 37 with a 10 year old and a 5 year old. What are my prospects for finding a new relationship? Assume I fairly average looking, financially stable, Pleasant to be around. Give it to me straight please . Right now he choice is between being single and being in a very uNhappy marriage.