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Anonymous wrote:To keep this short. My parents live in florida ( I was born and raised there), so my 2yr old DD has already been to Disney, as well as we know we will be going again probably many times in her life. Living in florida I grew up going often, and personally love Disney. DH never went to disney and his parents always made comments about a "waste" it was. However upon his MIL last visit she mentioned that this year they were looking to take his sister and her two children. Is it wrong to assume on family trips that grandparents pay for they should include ALL grandchildren ( my two as well)? Yes--this is a constant with MIL very much so favoring the other 2 grandchildren, which usually I say nothing about ( other smaller trips, gifts, time spent..etc), however this seems like a bigger trip that should include all. Do i not say anything and let it go --would this upset you, or am I being overly sensitive.

I desperately do want my children to have a better relationship with her other grandparents, when they ask for gift ideas for anything all I ever ask for is for them to come and stay with us and spend time with DD and DS. I am always the one trying to call, face time and keep them "involved" in the kids lives. So yes I will admit part of this is that it sounds like a great/fun trip and I would enjoy it with my children/cousins as a great experience--but the bigger part is honestly just feeling as if we are not included/part of the family.

When you write DD and DS, and then say your DD is 2, my assumption is that your DS is younger than 2. Is that right?

Are the other kids also under 3? I can't really imagine taking 4 kids under 3 to Disney.

Anonymous wrote:I have made a conscious and dedicated decision not to keep score within my family and inlaws. It never ends up bringing any good to the table. It just makes people bitter and distant which is what you don't want for your kids. I highly recommend adapting this strategy its very freeing!

Anonymous wrote:I would be hurt in the circumstances you describe, because it sounds like this is ongoing. I'm sure the DCUM harpies will descend on this thread shortly telling you that you're not owed anything telling you that your kids are probably brattier than you realize...blah blah blah. But I get that it isn't about the money or Disney, it's about your in-laws relationship with your kids. This dynamic, for whatever reason, happens in a lot of families.

That said, I think you need to let it go. My in-laws aren't kind to my kids or us. I've decided that they aren't worth my energy!

Anonymous wrote:I think it's very possible she thinks she's making up for something that she feels SIL's kids lack. Are you generally better off than them too (or appear to be)?

I don't expect "equal" support financially. Just equal consideration as needed.

Anonymous wrote:To keep this short. My parents live in florida ( I was born and raised there), so my 2yr old DD has already been to Disney, as well as we know we will be going again probably many times in her life. Living in florida I grew up going often, and personally love Disney. DH never went to disney and his parents always made comments about a "waste" it was. However upon his MIL last visit she mentioned that this year they were looking to take his sister and her two children. Is it wrong to assume on family trips that grandparents pay for they should include ALL grandchildren ( my two as well)? Yes--this is a constant with MIL very much so favoring the other 2 grandchildren, which usually I say nothing about ( other smaller trips, gifts, time spent..etc), however this seems like a bigger trip that should include all. Do i not say anything and let it go --would this upset you, or am I being overly sensitive.

I desperately do want my children to have a better relationship with her other grandparents, when they ask for gift ideas for anything all I ever ask for is for them to come and stay with us and spend time with DD and DS. I am always the one trying to call, face time and keep them "involved" in the kids lives. So yes I will admit part of this is that it sounds like a great/fun trip and I would enjoy it with my children/cousins as a great experience--but the bigger part is honestly just feeling as if we are not included/part of the family.

Anonymous wrote:If you want to build a closer relationship, don't look for reasons to be annoyed. People don't want to spend as much time with family members who try to guilt-trip them or otherwise add drama to their lives.