Yes. And I wonder if someone was doing something to him that resulted in him behaving this way. I am sorry, OP.

Thanks, everyone. OP here. No I haven't spoken with him about it, but we rarely see each other as he lives across country. When we do see each other I can tell he remembers and feels the shame and remorse even without saying it. It's one of those unspoken looks that we exchange if that makes any sense. I don't think exposing it to the family or talking with him about it in a formal way will make things any better for me... it would probably cause a huge rift in the family actually. My parents were great parents and did the best they could. I'm sure they would feel extremely guilty for not knowing or not being able to protect me, and it's really not their fault, so I don't want them to have to carry that burden as well. To the other question -- yes he has several kids who are all loved by all of us. I think you're right, had it gone beyond the fondling and kissing I might have felt more traumatized.

Yes, sorry OP.

Anonymous wrote:When a 11-year old boy inappropriately kisses, touches, and fondles his 7-year-old sister? This happened to me for two or three years as a child when my parents were not present and I'm still not sure how to process it. Of course it made me uncomfortable, but this wasn't an adult, it was another child. Was I molested?

Yes. I'm so sorry OP. Incest is an awful burden that too many of us bear.

Yes. Does your brother have young kids now?

Have you spoken to your brother about this? How is your relationship with him now?

Yes you were molested.

Also, it is very possible that your brother was also molested or influenced by another child or porn.

The reason you might not feel the impact is because, according to what you shared, it didn't advance beyond the kisses and touching.

Anonymous wrote:If it made you uncomfortable and was unwanted, it doesn't matter who did it and whether it was an adult or another child. Yes, you were molested. I'm so sorry. If you're struggling with this, I would find a therapist to help you sort through this. Good luck.

I don't often think about it to be honest, which is why I haven't been seeking professional help. It hasn't impacted my life in so far as I can see... I'm happy. But the memory is there and I wasn't sure how common it was for a young boy to do that sort of thing.

Thank you for your responses. It seemed to stop when I was around 10. At least, I don't have memory of it going on beyond that.

If it made you uncomfortable and was unwanted, it doesn't matter who did it and whether it was an adult or another child. Yes, you were molested. I'm so sorry. If you're struggling with this, I would find a therapist to help you sort through this. Good luck.

Anonymous wrote:Yes. I'm so sorry. You might want to contain RAINN. They have wonderful resources to help you sort through this.

https://www.rainn.org/

So if it happened for two or three years, then it happened when he was 12, 13 & 14.

It made you uncomfortable.
He was older than you and physically stronger, so even though he was not an adult, he had power over you.

Yes, you were molested. He may have been acting out because he, himself, had been molested. I don't hold an 11 year to the same level of accountability as I would an adult. There's no way an 11 year has the cognitive and emotional development of an adult. Even with all that, you were still molested.

I'm sorry.

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Yes. I'm so sorry. You might want to contain RAINN. They have wonderful resources to help you sort through this.

When a 11-year old boy inappropriately kisses, touches, and fondles his 7-year-old sister? This happened to me for two or three years as a child when my parents were not present and I'm still not sure how to process it. Of course it made me uncomfortable, but this wasn't an adult, it was another child. Was I molested?