The other PPs in this thread are ok with their children (of either sex) dating strippers?

Really?

Wow.

Great job mom!

Shot callers, Wasn't you a preacher?
You calling her a hooker? He without sin cast the first stone.
I met her on the subway, she gave me that VIP card
And told me if I ever have problems,
Don't hesitate to come by, yeah, yeah, yeah

Just 'cuz she dances go-go
It don't make her a ho, no
Maxine, put your dance shoes on
We going to the disco
We gonna eeeelope to Meeeexico
Called up my mama, said I'm in love with a stripper, yo.

Anonymous wrote:You have to decide - do you want a good, open relationship with your son or do you want to dictate how he lives his life and who he can see?

You have to get over your disappointment about the old GF. He decided - for whatever reason - that she wasn't right for him. If that was his decision, why aren't you supporting it? Why are you putting your desire for a certain kind of DIL over your son's needs or wants in a wife? His marriage isn't about you. His love life decisions aren't about you.

Either support him or be prepared to lose him. It's completely your call.

Yup. You either need to have faith that you raised a son with a good moral compass who can choose a solid life partner, or you can continue trying to play mother hen to a grown adult and risk pushing him completely away.

Is she a single mom?

Anonymous wrote:I've told DS and DD when they were young what kind of traits to look out for in a life partner, and yes I think I have a right to look out for DS's best interests when we all know that strippers are usually involved in a lifestyle....anyway, I don't want to turn this thread into a debate about strippers.

Thanks for the replies anyway.

WWJD? Since you are so "wholesome'?

is she even a stripper? i worked as a cocktail waitress in college and my MIL also claims I was a stripper too.

I've told DS and DD when they were young what kind of traits to look out for in a life partner, and yes I think I have a right to look out for DS's best interests when we all know that strippers are usually involved in a lifestyle....anyway, I don't want to turn this thread into a debate about strippers.

Thanks for the replies anyway.

There is no way my son would be stupid enough to date a stripper. I'm thankful for that at least.

Anonymous wrote:And I'm pretty furious.

My son is in his late twenties and we don't ever interfere in his private life since he generally has it all together. The only time we know when he's dating someone is if it gets serious and he brings her home. His last serious girlfriend lasted 5 years, and DH and I LOVED her. She was everything I could've wanted in a daughter-in-law...I prayed that DS would propose to her but he ended up having some sort of "only one woman forever?" crisis and broke up with her. Now he's apparently falling in love with a stripper, because he wants to bring her home to dinner. We have a rule that he can't bring girls home to dinner unless there is something serious going on, so he's serious about this one.

I don't want to entertain a stripper in my home. I don't care how that sounds. I'm not a "hater", I don't hate them, but I just cannot see someone with that unstable, train wreck, permissive lifestyle ever integrating with our family. We're a nice bunch but the words "wholesome" and "pretty traditional" are a good way to describe us. I don't know what got into DS's head but I think this woman is just a representation of the instability going on in his own heart and mind and I wish he'd recognize that.

I know that if I tell DS that I don't want him to bring this girl home, he'll get upset and not talk to me for months. WWYD?

Thats a stupid rule. I want my kids to bring whomever they please to our home. No commitment needed!

You have to decide - do you want a good, open relationship with your son or do you want to dictate how he lives his life and who he can see?

You have to get over your disappointment about the old GF. He decided - for whatever reason - that she wasn't right for him. If that was his decision, why aren't you supporting it? Why are you putting your desire for a certain kind of DIL over your son's needs or wants in a wife? His marriage isn't about you. His love life decisions aren't about you.

Either support him or be prepared to lose him. It's completely your call.

Why did he tell you she's a stripper? If it were me I would have lied. Maybe he's trying to push your buttons.

What is it with DCUM assuming everyone is a troll? No, this is a real person. Sorry!

Troll alert.

And I'm pretty furious.

My son is in his late twenties and we don't ever interfere in his private life since he generally has it all together. The only time we know when he's dating someone is if it gets serious and he brings her home. His last serious girlfriend lasted 5 years, and DH and I LOVED her. She was everything I could've wanted in a daughter-in-law...I prayed that DS would propose to her but he ended up having some sort of "only one woman forever?" crisis and broke up with her. Now he's apparently falling in love with a stripper, because he wants to bring her home to dinner. We have a rule that he can't bring girls home to dinner unless there is something serious going on, so he's serious about this one.

I don't want to entertain a stripper in my home. I don't care how that sounds. I'm not a "hater", I don't hate them, but I just cannot see someone with that unstable, train wreck, permissive lifestyle ever integrating with our family. We're a nice bunch but the words "wholesome" and "pretty traditional" are a good way to describe us. I don't know what got into DS's head but I think this woman is just a representation of the instability going on in his own heart and mind and I wish he'd recognize that.

I know that if I tell DS that I don't want him to bring this girl home, he'll get upset and not talk to me for months. WWYD?