Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:There is a positive side to knowing that you are not meeting expectations.
There is also a negative side -- when the child can do nothing to improve and the point is just to make the child feel bad.
I think they are talking about the kind where you don't just let child know they are not meeting expectations, but they post it on a big board in the classroom so everyone sees the child wearing the scarlet letter for forgetting the math book that day.
I know... and I think there is a positive aspect to having it be known that you aren't meeting expectations (publicly). I don't consider that to be "bad shaming."
"Bad shaming" is when you are just putting the child in a position of being in the wrong with no way for the child to correct it. Then the only point is to damage the child's ego.
If the child is given a chance to improve and the knowledge of how to do that --- then shaming is/can be a GOOD thing.