OK well your SIL should have taken a car service from the airport.

But other than that - OP, you are being a miserable B. Your SIL is apparently making a HUGE effort to come to your family for Easter, taking a redeye, and working remotely. Let her catch up on some sleep, geez!

It's possible that it's going to be too much for your mom to run after the toddler, but that's her fault for agreeing to the plan. I have a feeling that SIL would have been perfectly happy staying at home while your brother visited on his own, but that she got pressured not to do that.

Anonymous wrote:She needs to sleep for a few hours so that her brain is clear enough to work. Red eye with no sleeping toddler than eight hours of work?

You do realize that you added to your moms workload by having her help with the baby today, right?

+1 You've had a week of grandma's help with your infant. Maybe dial that back a little now. There is no reason your mother should have gotten up at 4:30 to help you with baby, if she's been doing that all week. Before you went to bed your should have insisted that your mom sleep in and not get up to see you off to the airport. And maybe you should have done a drive through for breakfast. I mean, if your REAL issue here is how to make things easier on your mom, you have things YOU can do too.

How old is your mom? Is it possible that she feels younger and more capable of handling this then you think she does?

Can you get by on one hour's sleep? I hope you realize you're being ridiculous.

Why don't you out this on your brother instead - why didn't he keep the toddler with him or come out with them? Why is it your sister in laws fault?

She needs to sleep for a few hours so that her brain is clear enough to work. Red eye with no sleeping toddler than eight hours of work?

You do realize that you added to your moms workload by having her help with the baby today, right?

And why can't you offer to help out a little with your nephew? Are you working too? Or are you playing the new mother card? By the way, most 10 week olds are still sleeping pretty dang well at that point. I think you're looking for reasons to be annoyed with our sister. I don't blame her at all for taking a "nap" which by the way is her "night's sleep."

OP, chalk up your grouchiness to the fact you need some sleep. If your mom needs help, she needs to ask for it.

It sounds like she worked out ahead of time that your mom would be watching her kid all day. If that was a problem, she should have said so. Instead, she worked it out that way with your SIL and your SIL has no idea that she has a problem with it (if she in fact does - this sounds like your problem).

It sounds like you are jealous of the 4 hour nap. It's totally understandable, but lets be real about what your real issue is. Your mother can stand up for herself. This is not your problem to solve, unless you would like to watch the child yourself.

A red-eye with a non-sleeping toddler, and your kvetching that she's sleeping a few hours? Sorry, you are the unreasonable one. Are you planning to help your mom with the toddler?

You've been lounging at your mom's for a week already. Your poor sister needs a break too, not just the "new mom" (i.e. you). Sounds to me that you are concerned about losing some of your mom's attention and aide, but you're planning it 100% on concern for your mom. Maybe offer to cover watching the 2.5 year old (YOUR NEPHEW) a little bit too? Have you always been in jealous competition with your sister?

He's coming later in the week. But pp you are so correct. My mom never stands up for herself.

I think it is up to your mom to say if she is being treated unfairly. She can ask your SIL to wake up if she feels it is necessary. What is your brother (or sister, as applicable depending on who your SIL is married to) doing to help with the kids?

Family is gathering this week for Easter. I've been here for a week with DS who is ten weeks. My SIL is coming into town and my mom will be watching her 2.5 year old from 12 to 8 every day while SIL works (working remotely on west coast hours). My SIL took the red eye in from the west coast this am. I got up w baby at 4.30 am and then picked up her and her 2.5 year old son this am at 6. My mom also got up early to feed and change baby when I left for the airport. When we got back from the airport my mom made smoothies and breakfast for everyone. My SIL then went to bed, leaving my mom to watch the 2.5 year old. She's still sleeping. My mom is exhausted and still has 8.5 more hours to go with the 2.5 year old. I can't believe my SIL. I get that she's wiped after flying the red eye with a toddler (who had a meltdown and didn't sleep on the flight) but I feel it's wrong of her to just dump her DS on my elderly mom like this. If I was in her shoes I'd take a one hour nap and a shower, not a 4 hour nap! What say you DCUM?