Anonymous wrote:I never understood why Michael Douglas's character shtupted Glenn Close since Anne Archer is so much hotter IMHO!

+1M No shit, huh? Looking for some strange...

In this case, the guy clearly married the psycho, but honestly, he also had the infamous 'emotional affair', which is a very risky thing to do when you are married to a bunny boiler. No sympathy here...big stupid mistake marrying a bunny boiler, and then compounding it with another whopper. Get a divorce guy.

Anonymous wrote:You started this clusterf*ck by having an inappropriate relationship.

Whether you admit it or not, you were having an emotional affair.

Four years???? It doesn't sound like you kept it very professional. It doesn't sound like the colleague was very professional. If it had been, this sh!t storm would have never hit the fan. I think you are minimizing the boundaries that were crossed while your wife may be maximizing.

IMO, your wife deserves some sympathy for the set up YOU created - not once as an isolated incident but over years.

Maybe you walk and quack like a duck, OP, so what else is your wife supposed to think? You're enjoying the flirting, socializing, and ego-boosting attentions of this other woman so much, while putting your wife down at the same time about how SHE doesn't do any of that with you anymore. In my experience, that's sliding down a slippery slope.

The funny thing is that the line you used to title the post and defend yourself is a pretty infamous lie. Freudian?

I never understood why Michael Douglas's character shtupted Glenn Close since Anne Archer is so much hotter IMHO!

If a wife sent me nasty e-mails and phone calls I would be pissed and might even get a no contact order against her if she kept doing it, but for sure I would stop going out for cocktails and walks on the Mall with her husband

OP, you may be a bit young, but did you ever watch the movie Fatal Attraction? That movie convinced my male college buddy to never cheat on his wife.

Anonymous wrote:If a woman was sending me texts and making harassing phone calls telling me to stay away from her DH, I sure as hell would get a no contact order against the psycho.

DH here may or may not have had an "inappropriate relationship" with his coworker, but his DW is off the hook.

I ended up divorcing my ex b/c he could not handle my having business trips with male coworkers.

out of sheer curiosity as I was perusing a different thread....did you cheat on your ex with any of the male coworkers? did he have cause to be concerned?

If a woman was sending me texts and making harassing phone calls telling me to stay away from her DH, I sure as hell would get a no contact order against the psycho.

DH here may or may not have had an "inappropriate relationship" with his coworker, but his DW is off the hook.

I ended up divorcing my ex b/c he could not handle my having business trips with male coworkers.

She got granted a no-contact order against your wife?? Your wife is a psycho!

She had the right to put you in the doghouse for being insensitive, and I probably wouldn't have believed you either...but getting a no-contact order is excessive.

You started this clusterf*ck by having an inappropriate relationship.

Spell check, punctuation and caps please. I had trouble reading this rant.

wut

... But i night as we'll have the way you Her? my DW tel the story. Over The last four years, I worked very closely with a ver attractive, smart, funny woman. We became fast friends as we were often on business trips together, and we often would do lunch or cocktails after work or walks along the Mall at lunch. We very much enjoyed each other's company. She is divorced. I am not. I will admit that our conversations could on occasion be playfully flirtatious, but there was never any sexual connotation. It was fun though to have a woman be coquettish, and she certain,y did boost my ego in a way my DW stopped doing long ago. If I didn't have an ounce of integrity, I might have tried to f**k her. And she also had the good sense to keep me honest, which I much admire in her. However, my DW decided she and I had a sexual relationship and she harps on this everyday. DW sent nasty emails and made phone calls to the point that she got a no contact order against my DW. I am, of course, mortified and if I wasn't considering a divorce before I might now considering my DW CPUs showing Her unstable colors.