Anonymous wrote:We talk on the phone all the time. We have a good relationship for the most part. When I voice any anger or upset feelings, she shuts me out and tell me "not to tell at her." She's selfish. Guess I'll just walk away.

Who is the main initiator of the phone calls? If it's you then I say wait until she calls you.

Who do you live with? There may be a person or pet in your house that she doesn't like but doesn't want to tell you.

OP, for some reason she doesn't wants to see you.

I think you should let her know how this made you feel.

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry it has been a one-sided relationship -- from what you explain -- for years. Spend your time with friends.

+1

We talk on the phone all the time. We have a good relationship for the most part. When I voice any anger or upset feelings, she shuts me out and tell me "not to tell at her." She's selfish. Guess I'll just walk away.

I'm sorry it has been a one-sided relationship -- from what you explain -- for years. Spend your time with friends.

She doesn't like you. That's okay, we cannot choose family. Sorry.

My sister lives about 400 miles from me. She hasn't been to visit my city in 4 years.
I have driven to her dozens of times over the years.
She's in town to visit a friend of hers (not me!!). She called me when she was finished visiting her friend and I asked where she was. She told me and happened to be about 10 miles from where I live. I told her all she has to do is go up one exit and turn around and she'd be at my place in 15 minutes.
She told me she didn't feel like turning around and would just go to my Dad's house (an hour from me).
She's moving to the west coast in a month and will most likely never visit this area again.
Selfish. Vent over.