Bit of advice- don't have kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you discuss religion as it pertains to your future children before you got married?

We have discussed it just not in very great detail. We know we will celebrate christmas and eid and have a christmas tree. we have talked about introducing the children to both mommys faith and daddys faith.

Yeah, this is basically not discussing it.

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you discuss religion as it pertains to your future children before you got married?

We have discussed it just not in very great detail. We know we will celebrate christmas and eid and have a christmas tree. we have talked about introducing the children to both mommys faith and daddys faith.

Anonymous wrote:What does your family think of this? I'm a Christian woman married to a Muslim man and as you know Islam allows men to marry Christian and Jewish women. But not vice versa. I know if his sisters or his daughters wanted to marry a non-Muslim man, things would be very tense.

In all clarity, the Quran isn't definite about the prohibition on muslim women marrying non-muslim men. All the Quran says is that muslim men can marry women from among "people of the book", that is, christians and jews. It does NOT explicitly state that muslim women CANNOT do that. Muslim scholars have so far interpreted the lack of such an address to women to mean that NO permission is given. I'd like to think its left ambiguous on purpose so that the Muslim community can interpret it to fit the times and best apply its meaning to their unique situation.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you both religious, or more Muslim/Christian in the "cultural" sense?

Do you have kids? How are you raising them?

We are both faithful people and believe that we pray to the same God although differently. We are alwsys surprised by how many values we share and how little our differences are. He is catholic and I think it is a beautiful way to understand God.

We don't have children yet and haven't seriously talked about the logistics of raising them yet.

How could you marry anyone without having that discussion?

+1

This is a really critical question to discuss no just before having kids, but before getting married. Doesn't matter what religion anyone is, but you've gotta really have an honest discussion before committing to someone. I find it really odd that OP and her spouse haven't talked seriously about it.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you both religious, or more Muslim/Christian in the "cultural" sense?

Do you have kids? How are you raising them?

We are both faithful people and believe that we pray to the same God although differently. We are alwsys surprised by how many values we share and how little our differences are. He is catholic and I think it is a beautiful way to understand God.

We don't have children yet and haven't seriously talked about the logistics of raising them yet.

How could you marry anyone without having that discussion?

Do you wear a scarf on your hair and loose clothing? If not, what do you think of those that do? I was friends with a muslim woman at work, and her family wouldn't have allowed her to marry a non-muslim. As I got to know her over time, I was surprised at how much say her husband had in her clothing (loose), hair covering, money that she carried, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you both religious, or more Muslim/Christian in the "cultural" sense?

Do you have kids? How are you raising them?

We are both faithful people and believe that we pray to the same God although differently. We are alwsys surprised by how many values we share and how little our differences are. He is catholic and I think it is a beautiful way to understand God.

We don't have children yet and haven't seriously talked about the logistics of raising them yet.

As a non-Muslim married to a Muslim man, I urge you to discuss this and come to an agreement before you stop birth control. Children bring out emotions you didn't know you had.

How did your family take it, and where on the Muslim continuum is your family?

What was the wedding like?

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you discuss religion as it pertains to your future children before you got married?

Maybe OP is Amal Clooney and they don't intend on having kids.

Why didn't you discuss religion as it pertains to your future children before you got married?

What does your family think of this? I'm a Christian woman married to a Muslim man and as you know Islam allows men to marry Christian and Jewish women. But not vice versa. I know if his sisters or his daughters wanted to marry a non-Muslim man, things would be very tense.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you both religious, or more Muslim/Christian in the "cultural" sense?

Do you have kids? How are you raising them?

We are both faithful people and believe that we pray to the same God although differently. We are alwsys surprised by how many values we share and how little our differences are. He is catholic and I think it is a beautiful way to understand God.

We don't have children yet and haven't seriously talked about the logistics of raising them yet.

that God chooses to operate though some men who abuse children and other men who protect the abusers?

Anonymous wrote:Are you both religious, or more Muslim/Christian in the "cultural" sense?

Do you have kids? How are you raising them?

We are both faithful people and believe that we pray to the same God although differently. We are alwsys surprised by how many values we share and how little our differences are. He is catholic and I think it is a beautiful way to understand God.

We don't have children yet and haven't seriously talked about the logistics of raising them yet.

Are you both religious, or more Muslim/Christian in the "cultural" sense?

Do you have kids? How are you raising them?

I am a Muslim woman and I married a Christian man. Ask me anything.