Anonymous wrote:This was my DH too, right down to leaving his prior career, doing this full-time and starting right when we had a baby. It has not been easy. He is 4 years out from his top 20 MBA program and has been able to patch together some very good consulting gigs, but has not been able to land a FT job. I am the primary breadwinner and, thankfully, can support us comfortably.
Here's what I suggest: he needs to be taking full advantage of EVERY opportunity he can get through the career office. Those services will end at some point after he graduates and he needs to be in their face every day until then. It sounds like he needs some serious career coaching to become more specific about what he wants. If the career center can't help, then you may need to get referrals to a dedicated job/career coach who can.
The two of you need to have very candid talks around the following issues:
- what is your respective willingness to move/relocate for a job. How far away is he willing to look for a job?
- What is the plan for supporting your family, esp. vis-a-vis health insurance & other benefits. Can you go FT with benefits somewhere? Or does it have to be him? Be CLEAR about your expectations here, and be really willing to hear his expectations/plans too.
- Look at your finances and plan how you're going to manage if he is unemployed at 3 mos out, 6 mos out, etc. Put it on paper so you're both looking at the same numbers, neutrally.
- What are your expectations around childcare if he remains unemployed for some period of time. Should he pick up some of those responsibilities? Or can you afford to have FT child care so he searches FT as well? Can you put time limits on the latter if it is not working out? This was probably the source of greatest tension for us.
Good luck. He's fortunate to be coming out at a time that the market is picking up. But it is still tough to have any kinds of gaps in the resume. He should be focused on keeping those gaps filled, if he can, while searching for FT work.
OP, here ---> THANK YOU. I really needed to hear this.