Anonymous wrote:I'm a mom of 2 boys and I feel sorry for me about it. I don't think so much about when I am older, though that is part of it. I took care of my mother while she was dying and my brothers were barely present. Moreover, I did things for my mother that she absolutely would not have wanted my brothers to do (nor would they have been willing). I mourn the daughter I never had. My boys are wonderful but they are so wild and crazy and loud and boisterous...girls can be like this too, but the chances are less and even when they are, it's usually not as crazy.

Yeah. You say that now. Just remember, if you had had a daughter, she would have ended up in therapy talking about you.

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Anonymous wrote:If it makes you feel any better my MIL is like my mom to me. We go shopping together, enjoy plays, grab lunch here and there, and have a full relationship outside of our family obligations. Just because you don't birth a female doesn't mean you will never have a mother/daughter relationship.

Are you close with your mom?

Yes totally..I should of said *second* mother. My MIL lives closer though so I do see her more.

That's great then. In my purely anecdotal experiences, women who are very close to their MILs, often don't have good relationships with their mothers. Good to know I was wrong.

Don't feel sorry for me! It would be wasted energy.

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Anonymous wrote:If it makes you feel any better my MIL is like my mom to me. We go shopping together, enjoy plays, grab lunch here and there, and have a full relationship outside of our family obligations. Just because you don't birth a female doesn't mean you will never have a mother/daughter relationship.

Are you close with your mom?

Yes totally..I should of said *second* mother. My MIL lives closer though so I do see her more.

What an AWESOME MIL! Treasure her.

If they don't have a son why would you listen to their opinions?! I love my son! I have one of each. My son is more sensitive than my daughter. I hate gender stereotypes!

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Anonymous wrote:If it makes you feel any better my MIL is like my mom to me. We go shopping together, enjoy plays, grab lunch here and there, and have a full relationship outside of our family obligations. Just because you don't birth a female doesn't mean you will never have a mother/daughter relationship.

Are you close with your mom?

Yes totally..I should of said *second* mother. My MIL lives closer though so I do see her more.

I'm a mom of 2 boys and I feel sorry for me about it. I don't think so much about when I am older, though that is part of it. I took care of my mother while she was dying and my brothers were barely present. Moreover, I did things for my mother that she absolutely would not have wanted my brothers to do (nor would they have been willing). I mourn the daughter I never had. My boys are wonderful but they are so wild and crazy and loud and boisterous...girls can be like this too, but the chances are less and even when they are, it's usually not as crazy.

Anonymous wrote:If it makes you feel any better my MIL is like my mom to me. We go shopping together, enjoy plays, grab lunch here and there, and have a full relationship outside of our family obligations. Just because you don't birth a female doesn't mean you will never have a mother/daughter relationship.

Are you close with your mom?

If it makes you feel any better my MIL is like my mom to me. We go shopping together, enjoy plays, grab lunch here and there, and have a full relationship outside of our family obligations. Just because you don't birth a female doesn't mean you will never have a mother/daughter relationship.

OP I feel just the opposite! My sisters and I are constantly fighting and none of us are close with our mother - meanwhile DH and his brother have always been and continue to be close with their mother and take good care of her in her old age now. They are really good to the their moms when raised properly. I am having a boy in May and am really happy about it!

eeeeeh fuck 'em.

You get what you get with kids. You could have either gender and be lonely. They are just justifying their lives.

I've heard parents of only boys say "oh tg, I wouldn't know what to do with a girl" and vice versa parents of only girls. People validate what they live.

Ha! Based on my experience with my two so far, my daughter will be off running wild, while her brother keeps tabs on me. There's no shaking that boy.

It's the expectations you place on your children that matter. My mother kept me tethered and was exhaustive in her attempts to undermine my independence. All the while, she gave my brother the means to start a life free of any obligation to her. I was their social security. A very gendered experience that I have no intention of repeating.

We'll see who's around to care for me in my dottage. But I very much doubt it'll be my little girl.

I always wanted boys only, never wanted girls. I have two boys and stopped at that. Didn't want to risk having girls.

I feel blessed not to have girls. They are Tasmanian Devils when puberty hits.

I overheard two women talking about how they were so glad that they had at least one girl and that they felt sorry for women who only had sons. They went on to talk about how lonely it would be to not have daughters when you are old. I have 2 boys and I keep thinking about these women and their comments.