Yes. But it is entirely related to the shit show that happens on the visits. There isn't enough alcohol that I could consume to make it better. And of course, I'm pregnant now, so I have no coping mechanisms left.

What is it about their visits or is it the mere fact they visit?

I think that you would have to be more specific about what, in particular, bothers you about having them in your house. Some people just can't stand having other people in their home, in their space. Other times it's just the things that people do that irritate you, like being very loud or complaining a lot.

Or are you just anxious about making their visit perfect or something?

Whenever my ILs call or email to start making plans for their next visit my anxiety skyrockets. Even if the visit is month in advance it just gives me so much anxiety. I don't want these visits to be so stressful for me (and for my DH) but I don't know how to calm my anxiety. The email pops up and my stomach is instantly in knots.

My DH is very understanding and supportive. We try to compromise so that something wouldn't be even more stressful for me. For example, if I know I am particularly stressed about their visit maybe instead of having them visit over that holiday weekend we pick a weekend before or after so it doesn't feel so overwhelming to me. I really try and push myself to make sure these visits happen because I want my DH and my children to have a relationship with them but the anxiety is terrible. It stays up until the visit is over. I don't even realize at times that the weeks leading up to their visit I get more migraines and have less patience than normal but as soon as the visit passes those things go away.

Anyone else get like this? Anything help?