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Anonymous wrote:Eww. Once she starts showing, no sex.

Eww, you're gross.

Anonymous wrote:Eww. Once she starts showing, no sex.

Anonymous wrote:DW is 20 weeks and our sex life is non-existent. We have had exactly one attempt at sex since the time we conceived. I'm horny and unhappy about it.

As PPs have said, every man is different, but I am a man who has known I have a kind of pregnancy fetish since I was in college. DW is pregnant with twins and pretty huge already (looks almost full term), and I find her very sexy and would love to have sex. I had heard stories about pregnancy hormones kicking up sex drive, and fantasized that our somewhat lackluster sex life would get a turbo boost.

DW is super-uncomfortable though - and penetration has been painful for her. She's self-conscious about her size - she was plump before pregnancy, and although I found that attractive too, she does not and has not-great body image issues which interfere. So, she's not really even comfortable doing non PIV things.

I'm not really interested in going down the path of constant rejection and feeling like I'm begging. Also, I realize at this point that her physical discomfort is only likely to increase. I feel bad about her pain and discomfort and I don't want to be pushy. So...I'm kind of thinking it's going to be 6-12 months before sex is really on the table again, and it's a bummer.

I really love her and would never do anything to hurt her (cheat) but I have a hard time controlling the wandering eye.

Anonymous wrote:PP@11:36 here.

Yes, a lot of men cheat on their pregnant wives, and it does seem over the top horrible (you did this to her - made her this way - how can you then cheat on her for that!) but really: I do not find it weird that spouses (husbands or wives) who are cut off from a sex life wind up cheating. Better to cheat than to leave! If I wanted sexual celibacy, I would have entered a cult/religious order, and "married jesus" and not gotten married to a woman. I am not so judgemental about affairs.

I'm not cheating myself because: 1) I don't want to look in the mirror and see myself that way and 2) I expect this to be temporary. I can pull a stint if I know there is an end in site in the future. If it seemed indefinite, I'd probably already be cheating. I feel shame about "you couldn't make do for a year or two?" but I would not feel shame about "hey, we're not and never will, so I found some elsewhere".

re: shopping for lingerie, candles, etc. Look, I'd be happy if we were sleeping in the same bed again. Right now I'm working on making the bed comfortable enough for her to sleep in, so she's not propped up in a bunch of pillows in a recliner in the TV room. I bought her a couple of sexy pregnancy nighties for Christmas...and she liked them, but no, this is way past that.

Right now I'm focussing on pampering my wife while she's enduring this very uncomfortable pregnancy.

Anonymous wrote:DW is 20 weeks and our sex life is non-existent. We have had exactly one attempt at sex since the time we conceived. I'm horny and unhappy about it.

As PPs have said, every man is different, but I am a man who has known I have a kind of pregnancy fetish since I was in college. DW is pregnant with twins and pretty huge already (looks almost full term), and I find her very sexy and would love to have sex. I had heard stories about pregnancy hormones kicking up sex drive, and fantasized that our somewhat lackluster sex life would get a turbo boost.

DW is super-uncomfortable though - and penetration has been painful for her. She's self-conscious about her size - she was plump before pregnancy, and although I found that attractive too, she does not and has not-great body image issues which interfere. So, she's not really even comfortable doing non PIV things.

I'm not really interested in going down the path of constant rejection and feeling like I'm begging. Also, I realize at this point that her physical discomfort is only likely to increase. I feel bad about her pain and discomfort and I don't want to be pushy. So...I'm kind of thinking it's going to be 6-12 months before sex is really on the table again, and it's a bummer.

I really love her and would never do anything to hurt her (cheat) but I have a hard time controlling the wandering eye.

Anonymous wrote:DW is 20 weeks and our sex life is non-existent. We have had exactly one attempt at sex since the time we conceived. I'm horny and unhappy about it.

As PPs have said, every man is different, but I am a man who has known I have a kind of pregnancy fetish since I was in college. DW is pregnant with twins and pretty huge already (looks almost full term), and I find her very sexy and would love to have sex. I had heard stories about pregnancy hormones kicking up sex drive, and fantasized that our somewhat lackluster sex life would get a turbo boost.

DW is super-uncomfortable though - and penetration has been painful for her. She's self-conscious about her size - she was plump before pregnancy, and although I found that attractive too, she does not and has not-great body image issues which interfere. So, she's not really even comfortable doing non PIV things.

I'm not really interested in going down the path of constant rejection and feeling like I'm begging. Also, I realize at this point that her physical discomfort is only likely to increase. I feel bad about her pain and discomfort and I don't want to be pushy. So...I'm kind of thinking it's going to be 6-12 months before sex is really on the table again, and it's a bummer.

I really love her and would never do anything to hurt her (cheat) but I have a hard time controlling the wandering eye.

MikeL wrote:Some guys get real turned off by it.
I, on the other hand. have a thing for pregnant women. I'm not talking 8+3/4 months, ready to drop any day, that just seems uncomfortable for all concerned.
I'm talking from 2-3 months to 7-8 months. I love the way the female body looks at that time!