I have talked to a lot of women who were seeing players and they were getting into endless discussions of "does he love me?" and "what motivates the things he does?" I could see their behavior and I wondered why they would stay in that situation. I thought I was immune to the effects of having a relationship with a "player" because I wasn't asking for fidelity. What I failed to recognize was that I was exactly like those women, thinking I was somehow different. In the end, what you are to a player is a woman to have sex with. They do not see you as different from the others. In fact, if they have chosen you, it is probably because they see you as passive, sweet, and more likely to put up with a lot of crap. So if you happen to last a little longer than the average woman does with a player, don't assume that this means he will miss you when you're gone. You are a piece of ass to him and pieces of ass are expendable.

He is your ex... Move on.

You know that players are gonna play and that haters are gonna hate, right??

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone have experience with a man that pretended to want a relationship, marriage, etc then found out later this guy was sleeping around with many women? I think my now ex was sleeping with me and 4-5 women at the same time. All ex girlfriends, some one night stands. Disgusting

I just want to know how what his secret for finding women is?

He travels for work, so I know of two possible women on his travels, two others here plus me. I had no idea he had this many women around. He kept it all very secret until I found out about the others. Agree with a PP that being this persons partner would be its own level of hell.

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Anonymous wrote:Let me guess. You all thought you were the ONE who could change him. You knew deep down inside that he was a player. That's what attracted you to him.

this^ is 100% spot on

there are plenty of attractive guys out there who aren't players and who will treat you well - so stop sleeping with assholes like that and you'll be in a far better place.

Women LOOOOOVE bad boys.

Anonymous wrote:Anyone have experience with a man that pretended to want a relationship, marriage, etc then found out later this guy was sleeping around with many women? I think my now ex was sleeping with me and 4-5 women at the same time. All ex girlfriends, some one night stands. Disgusting

I just want to know how what his secret for finding women is?

Anonymous wrote:Anyone have experience with a man that pretended to want a relationship, marriage, etc then found out later this guy was sleeping around with many women? I think [/b]my now ex[b] was sleeping with me and 4-5 women at the same time. All ex girlfriends, some one night stands. Disgusting

It's over now. Why stress about something no longer in existence. Open your mind open your eyes and move on.

I have "dated" a few. I have never asked anyone for monogamy but the thing about players is that they seem to be missing the heart. Women who are drawn to them enjoy the fantasy that they will be the only ones to achieve a "special place" in the heart of a player. But what they fail to recognize is that, even if you do become that "special" person to a player, you are going to find yourself in a much worse position than the ones who are quickly discarded.

Anonymous wrote:Let me guess. You all thought you were the ONE who could change him. You knew deep down inside that he was a player. That's what attracted you to him.

this^ is 100% spot on

there are plenty of attractive guys out there who aren't players and who will treat you well - so stop sleeping with assholes like that and you'll be in a far better place.

And you "think" he was with 4-5 other people?

Thinking is one thing. Knowing is another. You may be just making shit up to feel better about being dumped

Let me guess. You all thought you were the ONE who could change him. You knew deep down inside that he was a player. That's what attracted you to him.

I think some players DO want those things... someday. Eventually. In the abstract. In the meantime, they haven't found anyone they like well enough to pull the trigger.

I'm sorry about your ex, OP. Some people have issues. He might also have a sexual addiction. I hope you've gotten tested for STD's, just in case.

why should desirable men give up their harems?

Don't hate the player...hate the game.

Anyone have experience with a man that pretended to want a relationship, marriage, etc then found out later this guy was sleeping around with many women? I think my now ex was sleeping with me and 4-5 women at the same time. All ex girlfriends, some one night stands. Disgusting