Anonymous wrote:"Madge/Mom:
I/We heard you tell Larla that she "would become a fatty" if she ate whipped cream. We are not raising our child to have an eating disorder, body image issues or unhealthy relationships with food. If you choose to make any comment related to any of us or our children about our bodies and/or what we eat, you will no longer be invited to be part of our lived. We're that serious."

My response to someone who said that to me " just try and stop me "

Anonymous wrote:I would tell her in no uncertain terms that she would not be allowed in your house if she makes such comments like that.

And if I were she I would conclude that you are a very bad and obnoxious daughter in law.

Anonymous wrote:I would have filled up large bowls with whipped cream for myself and the kid and gone to town.

You are an idiot. It is your kind of attitude that causes people - including children - to be obese.

What an utterly asinine response!

Sometimes it helps to have someone play the 'bad cop' to deliver a direct message.

I would tell her in no uncertain terms that she would not be allowed in your house if she makes such comments like that.

Anonymous wrote:Are you or your daughter overweight? While it's not her place to say anything, maybe she feels justified for some reason.

OP here. No. I'm of normal weight. Athletic build and not skinny but not fat. There was a time when I weighed less, though. DD is at 90th percentile height and 75th weight.

Are you or your daughter overweight? While it's not her place to say anything, maybe she feels justified for some reason.

Big deal. It's the truth.

I would have filled up large bowls with whipped cream for myself and the kid and gone to town.

But is she right?

"Madge/Mom:
I/We heard you tell Larla that she "would become a fatty" if she ate whipped cream. We are not raising our child to have an eating disorder, body image issues or unhealthy relationships with food. If you choose to make any comment related to any of us or our children about our bodies and/or what we eat, you will no longer be invited to be part of our lived. We're that serious."

You are doing the right thing to talk to your husband to discuss a response to that comment Your house your kids your rules.

Ugh. So sorry. I wouldn't know where to begin.

meanwhile, my MIL talks ALL THE TIME about how her husband is so fat (he is, and has terrible health consequences as a result of his dietary choices- but still) andencourages my daughter to do the same.

i don't know what to do.

Limit contact with assholes.

I truly have no words. My husband was there, too, and said nothing. We are at our house and they are visiting from out of town.
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I know I should have said something at that moment, but I was just caught so off-guard. She often makes comments about what I eat (I weigh about 12 pounds more than I did when I got married 13 years ago) and what other adults eat, but this is the first time she said anything about my kids. According to my MIL, I always make waaayyy too much food and, once, when I told her the chicken piccata I was making was Ree Drummond's recipe (Pioneer Woman) she looked at me and smirked and said, "Ewww. Her food is so fatty and so gross."

I'm going to go and have a talk with my husband right now.

The saddest part of all of this is that my mother who was just incredible passed away a few years ago. My kids and I are now stuck with this.