Anonymous
12/24/2014 13:55
Subject: Re:ILs constantly comment about my toddler's "schedule"
Our kids (3 in 3 years) always went to bed at 7:30 and got up about 6:30. It was an excellent schedule for us and we've pretty much kept to it. The oldest is now 11. Everyone goes to bed @8:15 pm and gets up @6:30. Your ILs need to STFU.
Anonymous
12/24/2014 13:54
Subject: ILs constantly comment about my toddler's "schedule"
Anonymous wrote:My kids were 7pm sleepers as toddlers. I stuck to it and was disciplined even though my parents think that starting dinner prep for a 2 yr old at 8pm is normal and that I had a control issue. They eventually got over it.
I am now reaping the benefits of a disciplined bedtime. My oldest is now 8. She is allowed to stay up until 8 and then can lay in bed and read until 8:30. Lights out at 8:30. Her friends parents are amazed that she goes to bed like this every night. They want to know how to get their child to sleep before 11. In the morning, my child showers before school, gets herself breakfast and than watches tv until it's time to leave. I can't tell you how many mornings her friends have arrived late to school because Larla couldn't get up. Of course she couldnt, she was up until 11!
OP-- you are doing the right thing. You are setting your kids up for a successful day and a sucessful future routine. Hold your ground.
I am 100% supportive of OPs gripes with the in laws and totally agree with the normalcy of her schedule, but your comments rub me the wrong way. I've met quite a few parents who pat themselves on the back for their A+ parenting attributed to "sticking to the schedule, schedule, schedule!" Guess what? A lot of them just ended up with good sleepers. I religiously followed a schedule and strict bedtime routine and still ended up with a 10 pm toddler. Doesn't matter when I put him down, that's when he falls asleep. You get who you get.
Anonymous
12/24/2014 13:41
Subject: ILs constantly comment about my toddler's "schedule"
My toddler has always gone down no later than 9pm and gotten shit in the opposite direction of you. I just shrug and say "Yeah, everyone does their kids differently; you did what worked for you, we do what works for our family."
Anonymous
12/24/2014 13:41
Subject: ILs constantly comment about my toddler's "schedule"
My kids were 7pm sleepers as toddlers. I stuck to it and was disciplined even though my parents think that starting dinner prep for a 2 yr old at 8pm is normal and that I had a control issue. They eventually got over it.
I am now reaping the benefits of a disciplined bedtime. My oldest is now 8. She is allowed to stay up until 8 and then can lay in bed and read until 8:30. Lights out at 8:30. Her friends parents are amazed that she goes to bed like this every night. They want to know how to get their child to sleep before 11. In the morning, my child showers before school, gets herself breakfast and than watches tv until it's time to leave. I can't tell you how many mornings her friends have arrived late to school because Larla couldn't get up. Of course she couldnt, she was up until 11!
OP-- you are doing the right thing. You are setting your kids up for a successful day and a sucessful future routine. Hold your ground.
I am now reaping the benefits of a disciplined bedtime. My oldest is now 8. She is allowed to stay up until 8 and then can lay in bed and read until 8:30. Lights out at 8:30. Her friends parents are amazed that she goes to bed like this every night. They want to know how to get their child to sleep before 11. In the morning, my child showers before school, gets herself breakfast and than watches tv until it's time to leave. I can't tell you how many mornings her friends have arrived late to school because Larla couldn't get up. Of course she couldnt, she was up until 11!
OP-- you are doing the right thing. You are setting your kids up for a successful day and a sucessful future routine. Hold your ground.
Anonymous
12/24/2014 13:32
Subject: ILs constantly comment about my toddler's "schedule"
Oh for sure... I agree with pp. After tours is in bed smile and comment on how much you enjoy your evenings and it's too bad she doesn't have that.
Anonymous
12/24/2014 13:30
Subject: ILs constantly comment about my toddler's "schedule"
That schedule is totally normal. Just tell them you're good with it.
Anonymous
12/24/2014 13:29
Subject: Re:ILs constantly comment about my toddler's "schedule"
Anonymous wrote:"I see DC was up before 7 again. I'm so sorry for you." Every damn time we talk to them or see them. Thanks for the reassurance that my kiddo is "normal" - makes you question it when all you hear on repeat is how sorry everyone is for you!
-OP
Shut her down with "I can't believe your kid is still awake at 10 pm! Must be tough getting so little time to yourself or to be productive in the evenings!"
~ mother of 10 pm sleeper.
Anonymous
12/24/2014 13:29
Subject: ILs constantly comment about my toddler's "schedule"
You 're normal and they're awful . That's your mantra OP
So sorry !
So sorry !
Anonymous
12/24/2014 13:27
Subject: ILs constantly comment about my toddler's "schedule"
"I see DC was up before 7 again. I'm so sorry for you."
OP - Only assholes say this. You need to put a stop to this ASAP.
OP - Only assholes say this. You need to put a stop to this ASAP.
Anonymous
12/24/2014 13:25
Subject: Re:ILs constantly comment about my toddler's "schedule"
"I see DC was up before 7 again. I'm so sorry for you." Every damn time we talk to them or see them. Thanks for the reassurance that my kiddo is "normal" - makes you question it when all you hear on repeat is how sorry everyone is for you!
-OP
-OP
Anonymous
12/24/2014 13:22
Subject: ILs constantly comment about my toddler's "schedule"
OP - If you don't nip this shit in the bud, it will go on for years. Tell your DH to tell his relatives to STFU. If he won't tell them, you need to stop being a doormat and tell then to STFU.
Good luck.
Good luck.
Anonymous
12/24/2014 13:21
Subject: Re:ILs constantly comment about my toddler's "schedule"
I would also find those comments annoying, especially since your toddler has a perfectly normal schedule. I would go crazy if my kids stayed up until 10:00. Every time your MIL says something say "it works for us" and repeat as needed. If you REALLY can't handle it ask her why the schedule bothers her so much, but then you are opening yourself to a discussion...
Anonymous
12/24/2014 13:21
Subject: ILs constantly comment about my toddler's "schedule"
No advice but your schedule sounds great. Just tell them things are much more pleasant if your child sticks to the schedule and is well-rested. I have a 10 pm sleeper and would give anything to have him go to sleep at 8! What kind of pitying statements could she possibly make? 10 pm bedtime gives very little alone time in the evening.
Anonymous
12/24/2014 13:21
Subject: ILs constantly comment about my toddler's "schedule"
Jeez...my 19-month-old often goes to bed around 9:30 or 10 and it makes me feel like a total failure because I think she should be going down around 8. I think an earlier bedtime is preferable, and it's certainly more "normal", so I'm not sure why your in-laws would have a problem with it.
Anonymous
12/24/2014 13:16
Subject: ILs constantly comment about my toddler's "schedule"
My 22 month old toddler currently sleeps about 8 pm - 6:30/7 am with one nap at around 12:30/1 pm. I think this is a perfectly reasonable schedule for a toddler, yet my in laws always comment about the "early bedtime" and "early wake ups." (In fairness, toddler went through a 5:30 am wake up phase, which sucked, but is over for now). Maybe I am being over sensitive to the CONSTANT commentary, but please help me not lose my sh*t with them over the holidays. This is aggravated by SIL who has a toddler same age as mine, but who has a more "adult" schedule and sleeps 10 pm - 7:30 am or later - if I have to deal with one more pitying look or comment from her, I may go insane. Please help, I don't want to ruin Xmas.