Can you wear a mask when you see your mom? I don't think that you should have to go to a hotel but I also don't think that you should cancel your in-laws visit b/c of this unless your MIL comes down with a major infection. Sounds sort of minor right now unless I am missing something...

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Anonymous wrote:I would let the ILs know that you will be staying in a hotel near your mom so that you do not pass germs back and forth from home to hospital. Tell them that you are worried that you won't be there to look after them and they will be stuck with babysitting and housesitting duties with DH. And then do it.

Why should OP have to go to a hotel?

New poster, because then OP gets a break from all of the work of hosting and child care while her mother is sick in the hospital. If her DH is so set on having his parents come down even thought his mother is sick, he can do the work while OP relaxes with a glass of wine in a quiet room.

Yeah, yeah, I get it. We should all just be happy to hang out in a hotel room alone for a week during Christmas.

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Anonymous wrote:If they are not going to be under the same roof, I think it will be fine. You have to be extra careful that you observe the best hygiene - wiping down doorknobs and light switches, washing your hands a lot, keeping your hands away from your face, etc.

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I have to agree with this. When you are out in the world you are interacting with people and picking up germs, and you can't really avoid it. You don't quarantine yourself just because you have a sick relative. Instead, you take extra special precautions and you make sure your own hygiene is impeccable. Don't share your mother's drink or kiss her hello. Wash your hands constantly. That should do it.

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Anonymous wrote:I would let the ILs know that you will be staying in a hotel near your mom so that you do not pass germs back and forth from home to hospital. Tell them that you are worried that you won't be there to look after them and they will be stuck with babysitting and housesitting duties with DH. And then do it.

Why should OP have to go to a hotel?

New poster, because then OP gets a break from all of the work of hosting and child care while her mother is sick in the hospital. If her DH is so set on having his parents come down even thought his mother is sick, he can do the work while OP relaxes with a glass of wine in a quiet room.

Anonymous wrote:I would let the ILs know that you will be staying in a hotel near your mom so that you do not pass germs back and forth from home to hospital. Tell them that you are worried that you won't be there to look after them and they will be stuck with babysitting and housesitting duties with DH. And then do it.

Why should OP have to go to a hotel?

I wouldn't worry about the transmission to your mother. However, I wouldn't want her to come bc then you and hubby may get sick. If you are sick then you def can't go see your mother.

Anonymous wrote:If they are not going to be under the same roof, I think it will be fine. You have to be extra careful that you observe the best hygiene - wiping down doorknobs and light switches, washing your hands a lot, keeping your hands away from your face, etc.

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If they are not going to be under the same roof, I think it will be fine. You have to be extra careful that you observe the best hygiene - wiping down doorknobs and light switches, washing your hands a lot, keeping your hands away from your face, etc.

If MIL is sick, she shoukd stay home, even without factoring in your mother. Let them come for New Years if MIL is all better.

Call your mom's doctor and have him/her make the decision for you. He/she is in the best place to make that call. Get the exact temperature of your MIL. "Low grade fever" has a wide range of interpretations.

I would let the ILs know that you will be staying in a hotel near your mom so that you do not pass germs back and forth from home to hospital. Tell them that you are worried that you won't be there to look after them and they will be stuck with babysitting and housesitting duties with DH. And then do it.

DH wants ILs to come I think, but doesn't say so outright.

Tough call

What does DH say?

My mom just got diagnosed flu and pneumonia and is in the hospital. She is elderly and I am worried about her.

MIL is sick, coughing, low grade fever. They were supposed to drive down for Christmas and stay with us.

I am worried about passing back germs from home if MIL is here (from whatever she has) while my mom is still recovering. Is it reasonable to ask in laws not to come for Christmas? I feel like a jerk, but not sure what to do, or how much real risk there is?