We have been together for 17yrs. We have two little girls and yes, our marriage has been on the rocks but I never saw this coming. I trust this guy with my life but my gut told me something was wrong when his gym trip didn't end by midnight. So I checked his phone log and sure enough, he had been texting a number I didn't recognize fairly consistently. He lied and told me some story but I pushed and he confessed. They kissed once. But it was the calculated nature of their encounter that has me shaken up. This is crushing to me but I'm so committed that I want to move past this. Is it possible? What will it take? How can I trust him again? Our house is full of guests so this is tough to concentrate when I feel paralyzed. He told me he had lied to the girl and told her he was separated but called to tell her the truth today. Apparently she was pissed. I don't care about her but I don't know what to focus on.