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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Teacher has no children and I think a brief note (just one sentence) doesn't hurt her time. I'm not a tight ass, I've been helping her in the classroom as volunteer, have two children, a husband, a profession, a house, my health to take care of. Every time I receive a gift, even if it's simple, write a brief thank you note the following day or the same week.

Wow. Aren't you perfect? Since she doesn't have kids, she surely has nothing else to do. Stop giving gifts. Please.

Don't worry. That was the last gift. You sound like zone of those teachers.

Please let it go. There were times when we didn't get thank you notes and I just assumed that something had come up where the teacher was too busy to send them out. That has happened to me before so I totally understand. Giving a gift of appreciation is nice (and usually warranted for our teachers) but please don't assume the worst of someone if they don't send you a thank you note in return.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Teacher has no children and I think a brief note (just one sentence) doesn't hurt her time. I'm not a tight ass, I've been helping her in the classroom as volunteer, have two children, a husband, a profession, a house, my health to take care of. Every time I receive a gift, even if it's simple, write a brief thank you note the following day or the same week.

Wow. Aren't you perfect? Since she doesn't have kids, she surely has nothing else to do. Stop giving gifts. Please.

OP here. Teacher has no children and I think a brief note (just one sentence) doesn't hurt her time. I'm not a tight ass, I've been helping her in the classroom as volunteer, have two children, a husband, a profession, a house, my health to take care of. Every time I receive a gift, even if it's simple, write a brief thank you note the following day or the same week.

Anonymous wrote:My DC K teacher received a Christmas gift from us early this week and I didn't hear a thank you. She didn't bother sending a quick note. Do some teachers assume parents HAVE to send gifts and they don't need to give thanks for that?

Wow. Teachers are really busy. Heck, I'm really busy - I don't usually get thank you notes out within a week.

If the teacher opened the gift in front of the kid, and thanked the kid right there, no thank you note (or separate thank you directly to you, the parent) is required. (read up on your Miss Manners for the guidance on this one)

If the teacher opened it outside of school/later (as several on this thread have said they would), a thank you at some point would be nice. But I wouldn't be put out if I didn't get one.

OP, you need to get over yourself. Oh, and get into the spirit of the season.

My mom taught for 40+ years and wrote thank you notes for all gifts -- over the break. she was usually ready to collapse after school stuff and getting ready at home. Expecting someone to drop everything to write a thank you note immediately is as obnoxious as not sending a thank you note.

I don't expect a written thank you, the teacher thanks my child verbally when they receive the gift at school and that's quite enough.

Goodness, OP. I'm all for etiquette but come on.

Anonymous wrote:As a teacher, I usually wait until after the holiday the gift is for to send a thank you, even if the child insists I open it right away. So, I pretend that I opened it on Christmas and send a card on Boxing Day.

I had no idea this was wrong.

It's not wrong, OP is just a tight ass.

She's probably waiting till she has all gifts and doing all thank you cards in one go. Or, when your child presented the gift, she said, "thank you." (Seems ok to me, is a card required?)

As a teacher, I usually wait until after the holiday the gift is for to send a thank you, even if the child insists I open it right away. So, I pretend that I opened it on Christmas and send a card on Boxing Day.

I had no idea this was wrong.

Teacher here:
I have spent all week preparing lessons for your child and taking care of my own family. I always write my thank you notes over the break. My students love getting mail.

I think bean counting is unproductive. I also think you need to assume that this is a busy week for teachers and that most just wait until winter vacation to send notes. Also my mom wasa teacher and she put all her gifts under the tree and opened them on Christmas.

I assume teachers are so busy this week trying to wrap things up as well as controlling 20 + kids who are so excited for Hanukkah / Christmas that it takes every bit of energy to get through the day.

And if they have children - they are trying to get their own holiday cards and gifts out.

It hasn't even been a week! She will probably send one in the next couple of weeks.

My DC K teacher received a Christmas gift from us early this week and I didn't hear a thank you. She didn't bother sending a quick note. Do some teachers assume parents HAVE to send gifts and they don't need to give thanks for that?