Anonymous
Post 12/21/2014 08:16     Subject: Best way to turn down an invitation to church?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Say, "thank you for the invitation but we like to spend weekends doing xyz - spending time with family, going somewhere, etc..."

- signed a person who goes to church


This rely didn't sit well with me. I know what you meant but it can come off very condescending. It could sound like it demeans the decision to go to church services and implies that the people issuing the invitation are not taking the time for those other things.


No it didn't. You're being sensitive. Many people feel compelled to offer a reason when turning down an invitation. That is all this poster suggested.


It's a dumb explanation/justification, though. Church is an hour out of your day on a Sunday morning. It IS spending time with family, and few places are open on Sunday morning anyway. So, it's sort of a goofy excuse.
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2014 07:45     Subject: Best way to turn down an invitation to church?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Say, "thank you for the invitation but we like to spend weekends doing xyz - spending time with family, going somewhere, etc..."

- signed a person who goes to church


This rely didn't sit well with me. I know what you meant but it can come off very condescending. It could sound like it demeans the decision to go to church services and implies that the people issuing the invitation are not taking the time for those other things.


What if someone invited you to go hiking on sunday and you said "no, we prefer to spend sunday morning going to church" -- would that be condescending?

Or is it just condescending to suggest that something might be important to someone OTHER than going to church?
Anonymous
Post 12/21/2014 00:17     Subject: Best way to turn down an invitation to church?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Say, "thank you for the invitation but we like to spend weekends doing xyz - spending time with family, going somewhere, etc..."

- signed a person who goes to church


This rely didn't sit well with me. I know what you meant but it can come off very condescending. It could sound like it demeans the decision to go to church services and implies that the people issuing the invitation are not taking the time for those other things.


What if someone invited you to go hiking on sunday and you said "no, we prefer to spend sunday morning going to church" -- would that be condescending?

Or is it just condescending to suggest that something might be important to someone than going to church?
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2014 23:39     Subject: Best way to turn down an invitation to church?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Say, "thank you for the invitation but we like to spend weekends doing xyz - spending time with family, going somewhere, etc..."

- signed a person who goes to church


This rely didn't sit well with me. I know what you meant but it can come off very condescending. It could sound like it demeans the decision to go to church services and implies that the people issuing the invitation are not taking the time for those other things.


No it didn't. You're being sensitive. Many people feel compelled to offer a reason when turning down an invitation. That is all this poster suggested.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2014 23:36     Subject: Best way to turn down an invitation to church?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Say, "thank you for the invitation but we like to spend weekends doing xyz - spending time with family, going somewhere, etc..."

- signed a person who goes to church


This rely didn't sit well with me. I know what you meant but it can come off very condescending. It could sound like it demeans the decision to go to church services and implies that the people issuing the invitation are not taking the time for those other things.


+100
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2014 22:58     Subject: Best way to turn down an invitation to church?
Anonymous wrote:Say, "thank you for the invitation but we like to spend weekends doing xyz - spending time with family, going somewhere, etc..."

- signed a person who goes to church


This rely didn't sit well with me. I know what you meant but it can come off very condescending. It could sound like it demeans the decision to go to church services and implies that the people issuing the invitation are not taking the time for those other things.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2014 14:52     Subject: Best way to turn down an invitation to church?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Thanks, everyone! We went with the "no thanks but we would love to do xx with you soon". We don't have to explain ourselves, but we like to see them for other things! Thanks for all the good advice!


If that is the cases, why did you come on here to ask how to simply say "No Thanks"????


Not the OP, but sometimes under the pressure of the moment getting a third party opinion can help.

Now, as far as the PP is concerned, the question is, since the OP was polite enough to come back and say thank you, why are you being an ass?
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2014 13:57     Subject: Best way to turn down an invitation to church?
Anonymous wrote:No thank you, but we'd love to have you over for dinner/go see Christmas lights with you/go to a swinging party with you/get together for hot chocolate.



Anonymous
Post 12/19/2014 13:56     Subject: Best way to turn down an invitation to church?
Anonymous wrote:Thanks, everyone! We went with the "no thanks but we would love to do xx with you soon". We don't have to explain ourselves, but we like to see them for other things! Thanks for all the good advice!


If that is the cases, why did you come on here to ask how to simply say "No Thanks"????
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2014 13:53     Subject: Best way to turn down an invitation to church?
Thanks, everyone! We went with the "no thanks but we would love to do xx with you soon". We don't have to explain ourselves, but we like to see them for other things! Thanks for all the good advice!
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2014 13:49     Subject: Best way to turn down an invitation to church?
No thank you, how kind of you to offer .

Just like you would politely turn down any offer
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2014 13:45     Subject: Best way to turn down an invitation to church?
No thank you, but we'd love to have you over for dinner/go see Christmas lights with you/go to a swinging party with you/get together for hot chocolate.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2014 13:43     Subject: Best way to turn down an invitation to church?
"Thanks, we're not religious."
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2014 13:40     Subject: Best way to turn down an invitation to church?
Say, "thank you for the invitation but we like to spend weekends doing xyz - spending time with family, going somewhere, etc..."

- signed a person who goes to church
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2014 13:38     Subject: Best way to turn down an invitation to church?
Neighbors who we like socially are very religious and have invited us to come to church with them. We are not religious. What is the nicest way we can say no without offending them?