Anonymous wrote:You lost me when you claimed you, your husband and infant would all be in a twin bed. Something isn't believable. Wouldn't you get the couch over your niece and she'd be in the floor in a sleeping bag? Wouldn't you have all known the sleeping logistics issues beforehand and brought sleeping bags for kids and a pack n play for your infant, order an air mattress?

Yeah, I'm with you PP. This caught my eye as being unbelievable.

OP, why do you let this happen? Don't be a doormat? Either get a hotel room, or say "Larla, that's not going to work for us." Every single time.

Solve this with air mattress or hotel. You'll be together all day, no need to sleep under the same roof.

Your lost me when you claimed you, your husband and infant would all be in a twin bed. Something isn't believable. Wouldn't you get the couch over your niece and she'd be in the floor in a sleeping bag? Wouldn't you have all known the sleeping logistics issues beforehand and brought sleeping bags for kids and a pack n play for your infant, order an air mattress?

I think it's nuts that you all are staying in a house that can obviously not accommodate so many people. We're staying in a hotel for the same reason.

Your sister sounds like an epic bitch, though.

Oh please, this is a no brainer: stay somewhere else. Get a hotel room, do AirBNB, rent a home through VRBO. Just do not stay under the same roof with her. You will be so much happier. You can visit and then when she starts annoying you, just leave.

Don't give in to the "just appease her"

Kids don't get a bedroom over adults

Ever.

Put your foot down.

You and husband in the bedroom where the kids are. Brother in the single bed.

Kids on the couch or floor or air mattresses wherever it suits the respective parents.

Don't ask. Just do.

Kick her in the crotch.

Sorry, I've got nothing.

She sounds like she has a chip on her shoulder. She's probably cranky from having all those kids. Next time bring your own blow up mattress. I hope she doesn't get her way after acting like that.

Anonymous wrote:I think the issue is with your parents, especially if they are showing obvious favoritism to one set of grandchildren. With that being said, it's incredibly rude to buy cookies for just her kids, not to mention cheap and pathetic looking. If I were you I would have turned up my nose at how "broke" she must be to only be able to afford a couple cookies. Seriously, thats just incredibly rude, bad manners in my opinion.

It isn't obvious favoritism. My parents helped raise her after my brothers wife died. They are very close, and they saw her more than she saw my children or my sisters.

Also, my parents are just trying to get through the holidays as well. They don't want to challenge her because she will make it hell. It is just easier to appease her. My parents just want us all under one roof for one time a year. We all deal, but it just gets harder to keep my mouth shut.

DH thinks she has NPD.

If I were you, I would stay in a hotel. And yes that would all piss me off too. For a minute I thought you were my sister complaining about me. I made an additional dish for tomorrow and she was not happy about it.

I think the issue is with your parents, especially if they are showing obvious favoritism to one set of grandchildren. With that being said, it's incredibly rude to buy cookies for just her kids, not to mention cheap and pathetic looking. If I were you I would have turned up my nose at how "broke" she must be to only be able to afford a couple cookies. Seriously, thats just incredibly rude, bad manners in my opinion.

Sucks.

Expect NOTHING from her.

And do what you can to be kind and fair.

"make my parents do this", "make my parents do that".

The issue is with your parents.

My sister seems to think because she has five children everyone should have to sacrifice to accommodate her family. I have two children (4 months and 3) and our brother has a 8-year-old girl. Her children range from two to nine, including her 4-year-old twins. We all just arrived at our parents house and these are the things she has demanded.

-She and her DH get our parents master bedroom and her two oldest get their own bedroom. Which means my brother and his daughter on in the living room on the couch. Myself and DH and our infant in a twin bed. My parents in the small guest bedroom with a crappy bed (my parents are in their 80s). My son has to share a fold out couch in the basement with her twin boys. I am sure he will end up on the floor because all of her children share her sense of entitlement.

-Refuse to help prepare food because she was tired from travel (she lives an hour from my parents, I live four hours away, my brother had to fly from California). Sat on her butt as her three youngest ran wild and her husband watched Tv.

-Make my parents put their dog outside because she is "allergic" (they have two dogs).

-Complained that we weren't making ham, yet put no effort into getting or making a ham

-Went to get lunch, came back with cookies for her children. Mine for mine or my brothers. My brother had bought donuts for all the kids this morning. When he called her out she got smug and said she has to worry about five children and my brother has more disposable cash. My brother makes good money, but he is a single dad. My sisters DH does really well, her oldest can afford to go to a high end private school and go on several big vacations a year. I think she just does this to be spiteful. My parents do favor my brothers daughter over her children, because they were very involved in her life as an infant and toddler. They still all love and cherish all the grandkids. My sister just can handle that it isn't all about her and her children.

I love my sister, but I don 't like her... I hate being around her, I despise time with my family because she makes it unbearable. I wish I didn't feel the way i do about her, she just isn't a good person. She is so selfish and entitled. She uses my parents and then turns around and treats them poorly.

I am so glad we do Christmas with DH husband. I want to invite my brother and parents to come but not her and her family. I won't because that would make me worse than her but I feel so angry.