Yes maybe trying to make it easier for you but be thankful you do not have to host them right now

I definitely bet they are trying to make things easier for you!

I would die of happiness to not have to host my in-laws.

Be Thankful! (that they are not staying at your house)

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Anonymous wrote:They probably also think they are doing you a favor- house guests and 1 kid is much easier to deal with than house guests plus 3 kids. Don't borrow trouble!

Agree- this would 100% be my MIL thought process too, she would feel it was being nice actually. I promise it's not a big deal and they aren't judging your "control". I'm sure they love you all.

Agree. I think they are being considerate of the OP and themselves.

Anonymous wrote:They probably also think they are doing you a favor- house guests and 1 kid is much easier to deal with than house guests plus 3 kids. Don't borrow trouble!

Agree- this would 100% be my MIL thought process too, she would feel it was being nice actually. I promise it's not a big deal and they aren't judging your "control". I'm sure they love you all.

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Anonymous wrote:I always feel more comfortable staying with my own family (and I think daughter kind of trumps son in that case). I also get exhausted being around the real little guys.

I don't think it is a slight in any way. If you generally get along with your in-laws, just accept that staying with their daughter was an easier, more relaxed choice.

Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and you are just a little disappointed. I think that's normal.

I am going to say that you don't sound at all like a typical whack-a-do DCUM poster. So enjoy the holidays!

OP here. I agree with this but I do want to clarify that my husband has one brother so my SIL is not my inlaws daughter. However I do think its just an easier more relaxing choice and that makes sense.

As an “older” woman, I can relate. OP, you will understand when you get older. I don’t mean this as condescending in any way - I totally understand your disappointment. But, as people get older and get in routines, being in a house with 3 little ones can be disruptive to their usually calm, predictable lives. I know. I am there. Be grateful that your inlaws still enjoying traveling away from home. As people age, staying in the comfort of their own homes takes priority for some.

They probably also think they are doing you a favor- house guests and 1 kid is much easier to deal with than house guests plus 3 kids. Don't borrow trouble!

Anonymous wrote:I always feel more comfortable staying with my own family (and I think daughter kind of trumps son in that case). I also get exhausted being around the real little guys.

I don't think it is a slight in any way. If you generally get along with your in-laws, just accept that staying with their daughter was an easier, more relaxed choice.

Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and you are just a little disappointed. I think that's normal.

I am going to say that you don't sound at all like a typical whack-a-do DCUM poster. So enjoy the holidays!

OP here. I agree with this but I do want to clarify that my husband has one brother so my SIL is not my inlaws daughter. However I do think its just an easier more relaxing choice and that makes sense.

I think you are incredibly lucky. Enjoy it.

I always feel more comfortable staying with my own family (and I think daughter kind of trumps son in that case). I also get exhausted being around the real little guys.

I don't think it is a slight in any way. If you generally get along with your in-laws, just accept that staying with their daughter was an easier, more relaxed choice.

Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and you are just a little disappointed. I think that's normal.

I am going to say that you don't sound at all like a typical whack-a-do DCUM poster. So enjoy the holidays!

Not a big deal. Three kids under five is a LOT of noise.

OP, I agree with the pp. But my question is, do you think you have control of your kids?

I think you are making a big deal out of this. I would not want to say in a house with 3 kids under 5 as well.

I feel kinda disappointed/sad because I found out today my inlaws would rather stay with my sister in law and her husband/child than my family over Tgiving wknd. Its totally reasonable as to why. We have three kids under 5 and its just insane around here. As much as a try to keep peace and calm and plan adult activities its probably terribly crazy for them here. My SIL has one daughter who is a bit older (8) and her house is just more calm. They were very polite about it and I am not offended at all just feel slightly disappointed. I try really hard to make our home somewhere our family wants to stay and its just not right now. I also can't help but feel they may think I don't have control of my kids. Any outside insight?