Hope you guys are still in therapy because you are headed down the road for another separation and possibly divorce. This time taking two kids along for the ride!

You can't be so sensitive about this stuff. In a healthy relationship this would not even register.

Not mean-spirited or a moron, just not thinking. The mean-spirited one here is you, for only wanting to take the most uncharitable view of your FIL, and your implicit put-downs of your DH in your efforts at martyrdom.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are a moron for using the word preggers.
Your husband is a moron for letting his pregnant wife cook an elaborate dinner for five after a full day of work.
Your father in law is an absent-minded moron.

Mostly the first one. Your father-in-law's comment just sounds like he wasn't thinking. You sound overly sensitive and whiny with your long explanation about how you worked and have sciatica blah blah blah. Totally irrelevant to the question about your FIL's comment. If you don't want to cook, don't.

Ding!Ding!!!!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Neither?

Sounds like an absent minded comment. .
Your moron husband should have cooked, though.

+1
You're angry at the wrong dude.

Yup. DH is still a jerk, OP.

Clueless and thoughtless, not deliberate and mean.

You completely overreacted! I hope you are kidding.

He sounds like he may be showing signs of early senility if he got your name that wrong, OP. Bite your tongue next time. And tell your DH to cook the damn dinner since you're 6m pregnant, FT, and sciatic!

His comment was silly-rude.
Your response was overreactive-rude.
Your DH was insensitive-rude to you.

Of the three of you, I find FIL the least offensive, frankly.

All of you -- all of you -- need to give each other a break.

Anonymous wrote:Neither?

Sounds like an absent minded comment. .
Your moron husband should have cooked, though.

+1
You're angry at the wrong dude.

Your father-in-law was trying to make conversation.
Your husband should not have been upset after you went out of your way to have a nice dinner for his parents.
Next time, just laugh and give your FIL a wink whenever he makes a silly suggestion.

Anonymous wrote:You are a moron for using the word preggers.
Your husband is a moron for letting his pregnant wife cook an elaborate dinner for five after a full day of work.
Your father in law is an absent-minded moron.

Mostly the first one. Your father-in-law's comment just sounds like he wasn't thinking. You sound overly sensitive and whiny with your long explanation about how you worked and have sciatica blah blah blah. Totally irrelevant to the question about your FIL's comment. If you don't want to cook, don't.

Neither?

Sounds like an absent minded comment. .
Your moron husband should have cooked, though.

You are a moron for using the word preggers.
Your husband is a moron for letting his pregnant wife cook an elaborate dinner for five after a full day of work.
Your father in law is an absent-minded moron.

I will put this down to moron.

Here's the story: DH and I reconciled after a separation and I am now 6 months preggers with our second child. My in-laws arrived today and it is my first time seeing my FIL since the reconciliation. They are staying with us, and I went out of my way to cook an elaborate meal and be a gracious hostess, despite the fact that I worked today while DH did not and I have unbelievable sciatica that makes all activity painful. During dinner, my FIL essentially said that since my DH and DS both have names that are one syllable and end in the same letter, we should name our incoming child with a one-syllable name ending in that letter (he provided specifics on all of the names) "so that the whole family matches." My name is not one syllable and does not end in that letter. I am too tired and in pain to hold my tongue, so I replied, "Don't worry about me, FIL, I'm just the one carrying the baby." I think my MIL understood my feelings and chimed in "he forgot to say that you would have to change your name to match too" but obviously that was ridiculous. DH is upset that I said anything, and said I should have just gone along. Was I being rude?