Op you aren't the one one we have a relative that does stuff like this but she has been diagnosed medically, can't re,ember what the diagnosis was though. I'm sorry it's really really stressful.

OP, you mom is operating at a child-like level to get some attention. When a child "cries wolf," you can punish the child over and over and despair about why the child is so bad, or you can ask why the child so desperately needs attention that she is willing to do this. I'm not advocating that you show up with flowers and chemo-support for her. I'm just saying that it sounds like she's desperate for attention. Either give her that attention -- which it sounds like you've ruled out, for good reason, or accept that this is what she does and don't click on pictures, links, etc. This is either a problem or it isn't.

You say you are "pretty sure" she is faking cancer, so maybe you have some doubt? If so, assuage your doubt. If not, move on.

That was supposed to be "unfriendl" the cousin.

Unfriendly the cousin.

OP, hide your cousin's feed. Hell, just get off Facebook.

It's time to grieve the mother you always wanted her to be. Let her go. She's never going to be that person. Step away from the crazy. I'm sure there are people in your life that fill you with love and joy. Turn to them, and let that be enough. YOU can fill yourself with love and joy and acceptance.

Why do people keep arguing points to try to bolster the mother's case? It's clear from OPs post that her mother is an attention seeking nut-job who almost certainly does not have cancer.

OP, I had a family member like this (not my mother) who was always faking terminal illnesses. He would go and on about how he was dying and then after a few months, he'd just stop talking about it and everyone was just suppose to pretend nothing happened. You just can't rationalize that kind of crazy.

Anonymous wrote:My sister had chemo and it did NOT fall out in two days. And she certainly never had her surgeries and chemo in the same week. PP's read the entire post.

There are many different chemo drugs and routines. I am the PP who pointed out that my eyebrows didn't fall out. I do think the mother is mentally ill, but wanted to note that it was possible to not be entirely bald. And mine fell out within a week.

Hugs op. It is painful to realize you didn't get the mom you should have. She sounds horrible and so mentally unbalanced that you should stay far away. It sounds like she was very little of a mother to you anyway. So sorry.

Anonymous wrote:I see your point. At the same time, eventually the boy who cried wolf DID get attacked by the wolf. Are you going to be okay with your mom dying without you there when it happens? Just make sure you will be. And hide your cousin. It's not healthy to watch too many trainwrecks.

Yes. It's sad but true. She didn't raise me and only popped in and out if my life to wreak havoc. I will hide the feed and pretend my real mother is somewhere out there and normal.

My sister had chemo and it did NOT fall out in two days. And she certainly never had her surgeries and chemo in the same week. PP's read the entire post.

I see your point. At the same time, eventually the boy who cried wolf DID get attacked by the wolf. Are you going to be okay with your mom dying without you there when it happens? Just make sure you will be. And hide your cousin. It's not healthy to watch too many trainwrecks.

Ive also had chemo and my eyelashes and eyebrows didn't fall out. They definitely thinned out but looked normal.

Anonymous wrote:FYI, I had chemo and all my hair fell out except my eyebrows!

In two days?

FYI, I had chemo and all my hair fell out except my eyebrows!

We are estranged to put it lightly. Every few years she will reach out to me with a story about some terminal illness. One year it's congestive heart failure, the next it's various types of cancer. Eventually the truth comes out but she still sticks to her story and everyone just shakes their head. This time she's telling everyone via facebook that she has stage 3 colon cancer. I know this because my cousin delivered a message for her and because my cousin 'likes' all of her posts so they show up in my feed. Her page is public of course because why be a crazy person without an audience. I'm perplexed on how it could be undetected for so long given the number of times she claims to have gone to the hospital for various tests.

On the night before Election Day she posted that she was going in for surgery that morning and later that day posted she had voted. Now apparently this week she had surgery AND chemo on Tuesday and chemo again yesterday. Tonight she posts a pic of herself with a scarf around her head and tears in her eyes. She apparently forgot to shave her eyebrows to make it look real. Before I get flamed for being insensitive you should know that she's cried wolf many times and many times I have tried to reconcile with her, even doing family therapy. The therapist basically told me to cut bait and run. She is toxic and dysfunctional on so many levels and I don't want my children to be exposed to this craziness.

She has also done some pretty evil shit and refuses to take responsibility. I don't want to debate whether this really is the big one this time. Just please someone tell me I'm not the only one with a mother this bad. She is one disturbed human being and I want to hide my cousin from my feed but I just can't turn away from the train wreck. In a way I think I watch just to remind myself to stay far far away.

None of my friends know about my crazy mother and I sometimes wonder if she stole me from a sane person.