New poster here. I have an unrelated question but don't want to start a new thread.

I am a Male and have scheduled a 7pm dinner date. The previous dates were very casual. I'm taking her to a nice restaurant where better dress / heels would be appropriate.

Should I just assume she knows to dress well for a dinner date, or should I tell her to dress up ? Seems awkward to tell a woman how to dress !!!

good lord. Must we overanalyze everything? Just go, order your food, and see if you enjoy spending time with him.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe he has a dinner date first, or some other reason he will not be eating. Ask during the date and if you don't like the answer, you'll know.

Oh for pete's sake, don't do that. It's a second date! He's still trying to decide if he's interested in you. Just do what he says, if he planned this. Eat something first, go and see how it goes. And please report back!

Just eat first and go. See what happens. You'll know if the reason is because he's cheap.

he doesn't have a date first. he's stuck in traffic coming from baltimore because he said the weather is terrible. he won't have eaten either. well, i will just order expecting to pay for myself.

Maybe he has a dinner date first, or some other reason he will not be eating. Ask during the date and if you don't like the answer, you'll know.

well we met online and met for coffee. was supposed to be a short meet and greet and we stayed 2.5 hours. we have texted and talked on the phone a few times in the past 2 weeks. i hinted that i'd like to see him again and here we are

Honestly, I wouldn't even go.

Eh first date is usually better for drinks anyways.

well i asked him because he was asking for bar suggestions. but i can't drink and not eat. i guess i will order food anyways and he can offer to pay or not.

OK so it's a date at 7 p.m. and it's not a movie and he told you to get dinner first? That just seems weird. Not because he is being cheap (if that's what the point is), but why would he need to tell you that. Unless you are going to a specific place where he knows there isn't food and he can't make the date any earlier.

So what is it that you're doing? For example, if it's a concert or something and he has to work until 5:30-6:00, it makes sense to tell you to eat first.

it's not a movie but it is a first date (we met once)

What are you doing at 7? If it's a movie I wouldn't assume dinner. More and more people are opting out of expensive first dates.

My date told me to grab dinner first. That seems really lame or cheap. Or maybe he's broke? None of these are good options.