Anonymous wrote:Am I the only person who thinks this is ridiculous. If you left me over a punch to your leg I would find you and make you pay.

That sounds about right for most abusers, you asshole.

What an abusive asshole. You should have kneed him in the face. Jk kind of. Leave him.

Am I the only person who thinks this is ridiculous. If you left me over a punch to your leg I would find you and make you pay.

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Anonymous wrote:A person forms a fist with their hand, pulls back and thrust forward strongly with that fist in order to cause harm to another. The fist makes contact with another person's body - inflicting pain.

That's assault.

Assault by your husband is abuse.

Good for you for leaving before any more fists flew, anywhere near you.

Thank you. OP here. I really appreciate this post and all others in support. Thank you, strong women.

you also say that H is emotionally abusive. emotional abuse is as bad as physical abuse, it does not leave physicals marks but destroys a person from the inside. you did the right thing. and you are the strong woman, you were able to make the hard decision to pack and leave, it is easy for us to just write a post on an anonymous board. stay strong...

Anonymous wrote:A person forms a fist with their hand, pulls back and thrust forward strongly with that fist in order to cause harm to another. The fist makes contact with another person's body - inflicting pain.

That's assault.

Assault by your husband is abuse.

Good for you for leaving before any more fists flew, anywhere near you.

Thank you. OP here. I really appreciate this post and all others in support. Thank you, strong women.

A person forms a fist with their hand, pulls back and thrust forward strongly with that fist in order to cause harm to another. The fist makes contact with another person's body - inflicting pain.

That's assault.

Assault by your husband is abuse.

Good for you for leaving before any more fists flew, anywhere near you.

Leave. You know its the right thing to do for you. With that said I wouldn't go around town (or even within family, esp his side) giving details of why you guys are splitting up. Damaging someones name isn't going to help anyone and the people who love him regardless (like his sister) aren't joining your side of view anytime soon.

Abuse is abuse. What if he swung and missed? Would that get him off the hook? No way. Anyone who even attempts to punch me gets a one way ticket out of my life, and my childrens' lives. I'm sorry SIL is an idiot. Do not second guess yourself here. You did the right thing.

Even without the punching I would leave an "emotionally abusive relationship".

People want to apply what happened to you to their own situation and life to reassure themselves that "It couldn't happen to me." The mental calculus goes like this:

You: I left DH because he punched me.
SIL: He punched you! (shock, horror that a normal stable marriage could fall to domestic violence -- it could happen to anyone including her -- she is at risk. She must, psychologically, find some way to differentiate you from her to make herself "safe.")
SIL: What happened?
You: He punched me in the leg.
SIL: Just in the leg? (Relief, relaxation of all her fears. Her husband and marriage are safe from "real" violence).

This is HER denial.

trust your first instinct. abuse is abuse.

I think he struck you in anger and I'm glad you weren't hurt physically worse. That's all.

Maybe you shouldn't share the details with your family since they're proving they can't be supportive.

You are doing the right thing. I know the decision to leave is always subject to second and third and fourth thoughts and reconsiderations, but listen to me: you deserve so much better.

Anonymous wrote:I recently left an emotionally abusive relationship after my H punched me in the leg (because he was sitting and I was standing when it happened my leg was directly aligned with his eyes/fist.) I have been asked from several people, most recently my SIL, "just in the leg?" As if being punched in this part of my body were less serious than other parts. I too sometimes wonder if it's abuse LIGHT, but then remind myself that a punch is a punch and abuse light is still abuse.
But I'd really like to know what people think.

Abuse is abuse. You do not need to stick around to find out if it escalates. I hope that you have other family or friends to provide support to you. And if not, please know this anon is thinking of you and wishing you well.

I recently left an emotionally abusive relationship after my H punched me in the leg (because he was sitting and I was standing when it happened my leg was directly aligned with his eyes/fist.) I have been asked from several people, most recently my SIL, "just in the leg?" As if being punched in this part of my body were less serious than other parts. I too sometimes wonder if it's abuse LIGHT, but then remind myself that a punch is a punch and abuse light is still abuse.
But I'd really like to know what people think.