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Anonymous wrote:At 4 when he started school. Wasn't in daycare prior. PreK teacher told us that he has problematic behaviors - would not engage or play with other children.

DS is at an immersion language school and we don't know the language and DS had no prior exposure. After the first month or so, he was singing songs, naming colors, body parts, etc in the target language but could not name a single person in the room including his teachers

New poster here: that's particularly interesting, your part about not knowing names. I'm in the process of getting my three-year-old evaluated. I read a book to her the other month and she instantly memorized it (it was a simple book, but still, I haven't memorized it!); so she can seem brilliant; yet she doesn't know the names of her classmates.

I mentioned it b/c not knowing the names of his classmates is obviously not a memory issue.

DS would not acknowledge when people especially other kids greeted him. Speech therapy for pragmatic issues helps.

Now that DS is older he knows the names of his classmates, teachers and greets people. He has friends even a BFF but people in general are of little interest. Interestingly, he is not shy at all and has zero stage fright. He really could not care less about what other people think probably b/c he has no idea what others are thinking... but he's only 7 so I am hopeful.

9 year old DS is like this too! No stage fright, never remembers names nor has a great interest in friends. Has never been formally diagnosed, but DH's nephew has, and DH also has Asperger tendencies.

My DH and his father and brother are like this too. My mother and brothers and nephews - nephews have an official diagnosis like DS. My mother and father-in-law have the worst symptoms of the bunch. It got better as they got older probably b/c adults can choose their environment and expectations are not as rigid for adults.

For me, Asperger's seems "normal"

NP here but I definitely relate to this - my DS was diagnosed (ASD, not AS, as that had recently been eliminated from the DSM) just after turning 4, flagged in preschool for lack of engagement. The funny thing was that I did notice a few things before preschool expressed concerns, like he would be super in the zone with playing and not respond to me - I'd have to get right in front of him to get his attention sometimes... but my reaction wasn't that there was anything out of the ordinary, but only that he was that he's just like his dad! DH isn't formally diagnosed with anything, and wouldn't necessarily qualify for a formal disorder diagnosis, but he's definitely in the AS neighborhood - incredibly spacey and in his own world, an engineer of course, and the stuff that comes out of his mouth sometimes is so blunt or just something that I can't believe he would say out loud, it's been known to make me choke. But, it's kind of a helpful lens to look at DS through, helps me feel a little less anxious about his future.

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Anonymous wrote:At 4 when he started school. Wasn't in daycare prior. PreK teacher told us that he has problematic behaviors - would not engage or play with other children.

DS is at an immersion language school and we don't know the language and DS had no prior exposure. After the first month or so, he was singing songs, naming colors, body parts, etc in the target language but could not name a single person in the room including his teachers

New poster here: that's particularly interesting, your part about not knowing names. I'm in the process of getting my three-year-old evaluated. I read a book to her the other month and she instantly memorized it (it was a simple book, but still, I haven't memorized it!); so she can seem brilliant; yet she doesn't know the names of her classmates.

I mentioned it b/c not knowing the names of his classmates is obviously not a memory issue.

DS would not acknowledge when people especially other kids greeted him. Speech therapy for pragmatic issues helps.

Now that DS is older he knows the names of his classmates, teachers and greets people. He has friends even a BFF but people in general are of little interest. Interestingly, he is not shy at all and has zero stage fright. He really could not care less about what other people think probably b/c he has no idea what others are thinking... but he's only 7 so I am hopeful.

9 year old DS is like this too! No stage fright, never remembers names nor has a great interest in friends. Has never been formally diagnosed, but DH's nephew has, and DH also has Asperger tendencies.

My DH and his father and brother are like this too. My mother and brothers and nephews - nephews have an official diagnosis like DS. My mother and father-in-law have the worst symptoms of the bunch. It got better as they got older probably b/c adults can choose their environment and expectations are not as rigid for adults.

For me, Asperger's seems "normal"

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Anonymous wrote:At 4 when he started school. Wasn't in daycare prior. PreK teacher told us that he has problematic behaviors - would not engage or play with other children.

DS is at an immersion language school and we don't know the language and DS had no prior exposure. After the first month or so, he was singing songs, naming colors, body parts, etc in the target language but could not name a single person in the room including his teachers

New poster here: that's particularly interesting, your part about not knowing names. I'm in the process of getting my three-year-old evaluated. I read a book to her the other month and she instantly memorized it (it was a simple book, but still, I haven't memorized it!); so she can seem brilliant; yet she doesn't know the names of her classmates.

I mentioned it b/c not knowing the names of his classmates is obviously not a memory issue.

DS would not acknowledge when people especially other kids greeted him. Speech therapy for pragmatic issues helps.

Now that DS is older he knows the names of his classmates, teachers and greets people. He has friends even a BFF but people in general are of little interest. Interestingly, he is not shy at all and has zero stage fright. He really could not care less about what other people think probably b/c he has no idea what others are thinking... but he's only 7 so I am hopeful.

9 year old DS is like this too! No stage fright, never remembers names nor has a great interest in friends. Has never been formally diagnosed, but DH's nephew has, and DH also has Asperger tendencies.

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Anonymous wrote:At 4 when he started school. Wasn't in daycare prior. PreK teacher told us that he has problematic behaviors - would not engage or play with other children.

DS is at an immersion language school and we don't know the language and DS had no prior exposure. After the first month or so, he was singing songs, naming colors, body parts, etc in the target language but could not name a single person in the room including his teachers

New poster here: that's particularly interesting, your part about not knowing names. I'm in the process of getting my three-year-old evaluated. I read a book to her the other month and she instantly memorized it (it was a simple book, but still, I haven't memorized it!); so she can seem brilliant; yet she doesn't know the names of her classmates.

I mentioned it b/c not knowing the names of his classmates is obviously not a memory issue.

DS would not acknowledge when people especially other kids greeted him. Speech therapy for pragmatic issues helps.

Now that DS is older he knows the names of his classmates, teachers and greets people. He has friends even a BFF but people in general are of little interest. Interestingly, he is not shy at all and has zero stage fright. He really could not care less about what other people think probably b/c he has no idea what others are thinking... but he's only 7 so I am hopeful.

Anonymous wrote:At 4 when he started school. Wasn't in daycare prior. PreK teacher told us that he has problematic behaviors - would not engage or play with other children.

DS is at an immersion language school and we don't know the language and DS had no prior exposure. After the first month or so, he was singing songs, naming colors, body parts, etc in the target language but could not name a single person in the room including his teachers

New poster here: that's particularly interesting, your part about not knowing names. I'm in the process of getting my three-year-old evaluated. I read a book to her the other month and she instantly memorized it (it was a simple book, but still, I haven't memorized it!); so she can seem brilliant; yet she doesn't know the names of her classmates.

My nephew was 12. It happened when he switched from Private to public school.

16 and 9.

At 4 when he started school. Wasn't in daycare prior. PreK teacher told us that he has problematic behaviors - would not engage or play with other children.

DS is at an immersion language school and we don't know the language and DS had no prior exposure. After the first month or so, he was singing songs, naming colors, body parts, etc in the target language but could not name a single person in the room including his teachers

at 10 years old, for years everyone said she was to happy, and social to have aspergers

We're on the bubble OP. Might be Aspergers for our seven year old, or at least social communication disorder.
A piece of advice-if you can deal with it early, so much the better. My DS is in second- we did not know how delayed he was socially until this year. He was well behaved and awkward- the well behaved part got him a pass from his teachers until second grade.
This year has been bad- DS has been bullied, he doesn't have friends, all of it has heightened his anxiety and contributed to him acting out in class.
It would have been so much better if we had acted earlier- I suspected he was immature but made the mistake of waiting/hoping he would "catch up."
You're good for getting on top of this- it will be fine OP- there is so much that can be done for kids nowadays. Just play on you DC's strengths. My DS is a genius (literally) and many HFA folks are exceptionally intelligent. Best of luck to you.

Anonymous wrote:What was the concern ? Had it manifested at home?

I'm 14:28. Were you talking to me? The teacher's concern was his lack of appropriate interaction with his classmates. Prior to that he had been in a preschool with teachers who were disinclined to see anything "wrong" with any child. Since he was my first, I didn't know how typical preschoolers interact with their peers. (Now that I see with his younger brother how typical preschoolers interact, I can see that I missed all the signs.)

We started seeing differences at home at around 3. He was flagged as a problem at age 5 or so. He was diagnosed with HFA just before his 8th birthday.

What was the concern ? Had it manifested at home?

5. We might have been diagnosed earlier if we had been in a different educational setting earlier. That is to say, teachers expressed concern within a month of starting school.

We may be headed down that road...