My inlaws are Jehovah's Witnesses so they don't celebrate birthday, Christmas, etc. Sometimes they'll say: "enjoy your special day" but never "Happy birthday." In turn and out of respect we don't acknowledge their birthdays either. More $$ in our pockets b/c no buying them gifts. My mom does send my husband a bday gift/card and calls him. She even asks specifically what he wants for his bday.

Anonymous wrote:My IL's don't acknowledge my DH's birthday, and he's their son. I'm definitely not on their radar.

+1 MIL/FIL never acknowledged birthdays, not even DHs or our kids. Really bugged me, especially when my kids asked if their grandparents didn't love them. MIl and FIL have both died now . Usually BIL will call DH on his birthday.

My IL's don't acknowledge my DH's birthday, and he's their son. I'm definitely not on their radar.

Yes. They care more about my birthday than I do. And that's with my dd having her bday five days before mine.

Never ever.

They are like clockwork, my in laws never forget. I wouldn't really care either way, because I'm not so good with that kind of thing myself. Unless of course they never acknowledged it at all.

In fact, I wish they'd be more laid back about it because it makes me feel pretty guilty - they literally give a nice gift and card for every special occasion you can imagine without missing a single one- birthdays, anniversaries, valentine's day, easter, halloween, and then christmas is a whole another deal with like an entire car full of gifts for each of us. It's overkill.

They send an E-card.

Don't take it personally

No. They always forget.

My feelings would be hurt too, especially if I consistently acknowledged their birthdays. But for some families - wrongly, I believe - birthdays are only to be celebrated for children, while maybe they include you in festivities for another holiday, such as Mother's Day or Christmas/Hanukah?

Nope. That's okay with me.

My MIL & FIL are dead, but I'm pretty sure my BILs and their wives don't know when my birthday is. And I don't think my parents know when DH's birthday is, either.

Sometimes, but always late. I'd be fine if they didn't acknowledge it.

Usually something, yes.

Curious. My birthday has come and gone with no call or card. No big deal--just a little odd I think. A package arrived today from mil with a package of princess undies and cookies for my dd, and I thought she might have included a card for me, but no. My parents give my spouse $200 every year and everyone calls and wishes him well. I guess it's just different families, different cultures.