Anonymous
Post 10/20/2014 19:31     Subject: "Homecoming Dresses"
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:18: 32

This is what I would consider ugly/ill designed

http://www1.macys.com/shop/product/teeze-me-juniors-lace-strapless-dress?ID=1739738&CategoryID=18109#fn=SPECIAL_OCCASIONS%3DParty/Cocktail%26sp%3D1%26spc%3D250%26ruleId%3D%26slotId%3D9

Whereas I don't mind this one so much.

http://www1.macys.com/shop/product/emerald-sundae-juniors-ruffled-peplum-bodycon-dress?ID=1418976&CategoryID=18109&LinkType=#fn=SPECIAL_OCCASIONS%3DParty/Cocktail%26PAGEINDEX%3D2%26sp%3D2%26spc%3D250%26ruleId%3D%26slotId%3D77


Funny - both are strapless, show the same amount of cleavage and the same amount of leg.


One has a zipper all the way down the back and it's label is "Teeze Me." Interesting...
Anonymous
Post 10/20/2014 19:19     Subject: "Homecoming Dresses"
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes, some of them are very short. What I don't get is how their mothers let them out of the house like that?


My daughter is tall and has long legs. She's also athletic. Basically, she's got a great body. As long as her butt won't show, I don't mind her wearing a short dress. I told her you either show off cleavage or leg but not both. She chose to show off her legs. I made her jump up with her hands over her head both facing me and facing away from me in dressing rooms. Then I had her bend over as if writing something leaning on a table, and I took a picture of her ass and showed it to her and said "are you really comfortable showing this much?" It turned out to be a brilliant idea - she picked a dress two inches longer because of that pic.

But she's got a great body, knows it, and dresses for it. She likes how she looks in the shorter dresses. There is zero correlation between skimpiness of dress and having sex.


Then why did you go such great lengths to encourage her to gat a longer dress?
Anonymous
Post 10/20/2014 19:14     Subject: "Homecoming Dresses"
Anonymous wrote:Yes, some of them are very short. What I don't get is how their mothers let them out of the house like that?


My daughter is tall and has long legs. She's also athletic. Basically, she's got a great body. As long as her butt won't show, I don't mind her wearing a short dress. I told her you either show off cleavage or leg but not both. She chose to show off her legs. I made her jump up with her hands over her head both facing me and facing away from me in dressing rooms. Then I had her bend over as if writing something leaning on a table, and I took a picture of her ass and showed it to her and said "are you really comfortable showing this much?" It turned out to be a brilliant idea - she picked a dress two inches longer because of that pic.

But she's got a great body, knows it, and dresses for it. She likes how she looks in the shorter dresses. There is zero correlation between skimpiness of dress and having sex.
Anonymous
Post 10/20/2014 19:10     Subject: "Homecoming Dresses"
Anonymous wrote:18: 32

This is what I would consider ugly/ill designed

http://www1.macys.com/shop/product/teeze-me-juniors-lace-strapless-dress?ID=1739738&CategoryID=18109#fn=SPECIAL_OCCASIONS%3DParty/Cocktail%26sp%3D1%26spc%3D250%26ruleId%3D%26slotId%3D9

Whereas I don't mind this one so much.

http://www1.macys.com/shop/product/emerald-sundae-juniors-ruffled-peplum-bodycon-dress?ID=1418976&CategoryID=18109&LinkType=#fn=SPECIAL_OCCASIONS%3DParty/Cocktail%26PAGEINDEX%3D2%26sp%3D2%26spc%3D250%26ruleId%3D%26slotId%3D77


Funny - both are strapless, show the same amount of cleavage and the same amount of leg.
Anonymous
Post 10/20/2014 19:00     Subject: "Homecoming Dresses"
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I need some perspective. I took my oldest son to his first homecoming event where pictures were being taken. There must have been over forty couples there in various groups. I expected to see some "sexy" dresses but I was taken aback. The first 30% looked appropriately dressed in pretty dresses, the second 30% were dressed in dresses I would say are "too short" or "too low cut" but at least not both, and the third category of 40% of the girls, in my opinion and please excuse the harshness, looked like they were dressed as hookers -- super-tight ("bandage"), crazy-short (how can they sit?), strapless or very low-cut dresses with four-inch heels. Is my opinion regarding the third category out-of-date? Anti-feminist? Too prudish When my daughter gets to that age, will I "mellow out" about it? It felt so weird, because I was actually shocked and no one else seems to be.


You may or may not mellow out about it, when your daughter gets to that age.

But what you need to be very careful about, right now, is giving the message to your oldest son that girls/women who wear revealing clothing have less worth as human beings than girls/women who wear less revealing clothing.


What does it say?
Anonymous
Post 10/20/2014 18:57     Subject: "Homecoming Dresses"
Anonymous wrote:I need some perspective. I took my oldest son to his first homecoming event where pictures were being taken. There must have been over forty couples there in various groups. I expected to see some "sexy" dresses but I was taken aback. The first 30% looked appropriately dressed in pretty dresses, the second 30% were dressed in dresses I would say are "too short" or "too low cut" but at least not both, and the third category of 40% of the girls, in my opinion and please excuse the harshness, looked like they were dressed as hookers -- super-tight ("bandage"), crazy-short (how can they sit?), strapless or very low-cut dresses with four-inch heels. Is my opinion regarding the third category out-of-date? Anti-feminist? Too prudish When my daughter gets to that age, will I "mellow out" about it? It felt so weird, because I was actually shocked and no one else seems to be.


You may or may not mellow out about it, when your daughter gets to that age.

But what you need to be very careful about, right now, is giving the message to your oldest son that girls/women who wear revealing clothing have less worth as human beings than girls/women who wear less revealing clothing.
Anonymous
Post 10/20/2014 18:54     Subject: "Homecoming Dresses"
Anonymous wrote:Yes, some of them are very short. What I don't get is how their mothers let them out of the house like that?


Ah yes, those mothers who let the girls in skimpy clothes out of the house. Always the mothers. Either the girls have no fathers, or the fathers aren't home, or the fathers are too busy mowing the lawn, or something.
Anonymous
Post 10/20/2014 18:38     Subject: "Homecoming Dresses"
A lot of times these girls are borrowing their skimpy clothes from their moms. It's awkward when an admin calls home about dress code infractions and mom replies that she wears that top all the time and lent it to Larla. Happens more than you think...
Anonymous
Post 10/20/2014 18:35     Subject: "Homecoming Dresses"
18: 32

This is what I would consider ugly/ill designed

http://www1.macys.com/shop/product/teeze-me-juniors-lace-strapless-dress?ID=1739738&CategoryID=18109#fn=SPECIAL_OCCASIONS%3DParty/Cocktail%26sp%3D1%26spc%3D250%26ruleId%3D%26slotId%3D9

Whereas I don't mind this one so much.

http://www1.macys.com/shop/product/emerald-sundae-juniors-ruffled-peplum-bodycon-dress?ID=1418976&CategoryID=18109&LinkType=#fn=SPECIAL_OCCASIONS%3DParty/Cocktail%26PAGEINDEX%3D2%26sp%3D2%26spc%3D250%26ruleId%3D%26slotId%3D77
Anonymous
Post 10/20/2014 18:32     Subject: "Homecoming Dresses"
You need to relax. Is there an innate problem with strapless dresses? Short dresses?

Personally, I am more concerned that they are simply in bad taste (ugly) than if they show skin. High schoolers aren't little girls, despite our cherished memories of them as such.
Anonymous
Post 10/20/2014 18:17     Subject: "Homecoming Dresses"
Women's magazines, media images in People and the trashier US magazines, music videos (or whatev the equivalent is)... The goal is to look "appealing" and "trendy" and that's what's that.
Anonymous
Post 10/20/2014 17:34     Subject: "Homecoming Dresses"
Yes, some of them are very short. What I don't get is how their mothers let them out of the house like that?
Anonymous
Post 10/20/2014 17:32     Subject: Re:"Homecoming Dresses"
Your opinion isn't out of date. There will always be some girls who don't know any better.
Anonymous
Post 10/20/2014 17:29     Subject: "Homecoming Dresses"
Soooooo glad that my DD is done, graduated and has taste! I'm embarrassed for some of those girls and where the EFF are their parents?! If you have to wax to wear it, it's too short!
Anonymous
Post 10/20/2014 17:19     Subject: "Homecoming Dresses"
I need some perspective. I took my oldest son to his first homecoming event where pictures were being taken. There must have been over forty couples there in various groups. I expected to see some "sexy" dresses but I was taken aback. The first 30% looked appropriately dressed in pretty dresses, the second 30% were dressed in dresses I would say are "too short" or "too low cut" but at least not both, and the third category of 40% of the girls, in my opinion and please excuse the harshness, looked like they were dressed as hookers -- super-tight ("bandage"), crazy-short (how can they sit?), strapless or very low-cut dresses with four-inch heels. Is my opinion regarding the third category out-of-date? Anti-feminist? Too prudish When my daughter gets to that age, will I "mellow out" about it? It felt so weird, because I was actually shocked and no one else seems to be.