this is why we don't have kids yet. I don't want to feel lesser because I'd have to take 12 weeks unpaid leave for a baby and he doesn't have to. It seems unfair, like I'm valued less

Oh sweetie, watch out for this. If your husband, and you are this inflexible ~ a family is about love, not competition

Anonymous wrote:It's not something we say in polite conversation, but my DH is 100% NOT okay with women not working. He doesn't respect them. He has said numerous times that he wouldn't have married someone who didn't want to work.

Which is all well and fine because we both work and contribute and feel equal in our relationship, but this is why we don't have kids yet. I don't want to feel lesser because I'd have to take 12 weeks unpaid leave for a baby and he doesn't have to. It seems unfair, like I'm valued less

So, if he gets sick someday and has to take unpaid medical leave, will he value himself less?

It's not something we say in polite conversation, but my DH is 100% NOT okay with women not working. He doesn't respect them. He has said numerous times that he wouldn't have married someone who didn't want to work.

Which is all well and fine because we both work and contribute and feel equal in our relationship, but this is why we don't have kids yet. I don't want to feel lesser because I'd have to take 12 weeks unpaid leave for a baby and he doesn't have to. It seems unfair, like I'm valued less

Anonymous wrote:As a woman Id take a woman with a job over a man without a job.......

ha! I would take an independently wealthy man with no job. But he had better have varied interests!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who want's anyone - male or female - without a job?

If that's the case, then there wouldn't be a 30+ point gap between the sexes on that question.

It surprises you that unemployed, unmarried men think their unemployment should not be an issue to women?

no it does not - I was responding to the poster that said 'who wants anyone male or female without a job'.

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Anonymous wrote:Who want's anyone - male or female - without a job?

If that's the case, then there wouldn't be a 30+ point gap between the sexes on that question.

It surprises you that unemployed, unmarried men think their unemployment should not be an issue to women?

I think more men are comfortable with the non-working spouse than women, because (a) it's traditional and some people are traditional, (b) men are more comfortable with being the more powerful person/breadwinner in the relationship than women (generally), and (c) a woman who stays home is often going to be more productive around the house and with kids than a guy is. Yes, it's stereotypical, but in most of the families I know, if the wife is home, she is probably spending that time more productively.

I'm ok with a guy who makes a little less than I do as long as he's working full-time, but I can't date guys who are unemployed (unless it's very short-term). It would piss me off to work a long day and then come home and the guy's been sitting around watching sports all day.

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Anonymous wrote:Who want's anyone - male or female - without a job?

If that's the case, then there wouldn't be a 30+ point gap between the sexes on that question.

I don't think it is a feminist issue though. Some guys are ok with the idea of a house wife/stay at home mom. I'm not quite understanding the tie to feminism though.

Anonymous wrote:As a woman Id take a woman with a job over a man without a job.......

+1!

We don't want no scrubs.

Anonymous wrote:As a woman Id take a woman with a job over a man without a job.......

hahaha!

As a woman Id take a woman with a job over a man without a job.......

Anonymous wrote:Who want's anyone - male or female - without a job?

If that's the case, then there wouldn't be a 30+ point gap between the sexes on that question.

Has nothin to do with feminism. If a single man or woman isn't working, there is a problem. I bet the women surveyed are all working....it only stands to reason they want employed people to date.

Who want's anyone - male or female - without a job?

Not surprising, if one takes a non-feminist, traditional view of the world, but here is an article that 78% of never-married women say that a man having a job is "very important" versus only 46% of never-married men. The article then goes on to analyze the ratio of women to employed men in various cities to find the "best" and "worst" cities for women who want to get married.

http://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2014/10/02/the-best-and-worst-cities-for-women-looking-to-marry/

San Jose (114 single employed men for every 100 single women) and Denver (101:100) are pretty good. An employed man in Memphis, TN has it good though, 59 employed young single men for every 100 young single women.