Two issues here: The teacher is rude.

Second: Your child was told not to wave, but did it again. Maybe it is disruptive.

I wouldn't go to anyone with this however. Tell your child not to wave anymore. That should pretty much end her interaction with this teacher.

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Anonymous wrote:She is exercising her right to free speech in the manner she sees appropriate. It is a very civil thing to do. The teacher can go to hell.

Kids don't have a right to free speech!

The teacher has a right to tell your DD not to wave but does not have a right to belittler her with "you always have to be seen, don't you." That's the kind of thing that is meant to break the spirit of a self confident, outgoing kid -- and it works, too.

OP, I would talk to the principal or your own DD's teacher about that comment. It's not okay. Also talk to your DD and let her know that the way the teacher made her feel is wrong.

+1 on all of this. That is a very cutting and inappropriate remark meant to embarrass your child in front of her peers. I remember a couple of teachers like that - harsh people who clearly didn't like kids and considered it their job (and pleasure) to diminish them. I would definitely address this with the school. It was barely a step away from publicly calling her an attention whore.

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Anonymous wrote:Parent of an extroverted child, this would piss me off. My child is friendly, social and yes "likes to be seen" not sure what the problem is.

The problem is your kid is obnoxious.

Nope. You are obnoxious. And I'm not even the PP with the outgoing child.

Agree. Nasty post.

Anonymous wrote:She is exercising her right to free speech in the manner she sees appropriate. It is a very civil thing to do. The teacher can go to hell.

Kids don't have a right to free speech!

The teacher has a right to tell your DD not to wave but does not have a right to belittler her with "you always have to be seen, don't you." That's the kind of thing that is meant to break the spirit of a self confident, outgoing kid -- and it works, too.

OP, I would talk to the principle or your own DD's teacher about that comment. It's not okay. Also talk to your DD and let her know that the way the teacher made her feel is wrong.

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Anonymous wrote:Parent of an extroverted child, this would piss me off. My child is friendly, social and yes "likes to be seen" not sure what the problem is.

The problem is your kid is obnoxious.

Nope. You are obnoxious. And I'm not even the PP with the outgoing child.

She is exercising her right to free speech in the manner she sees appropriate. It is a very civil thing to do. The teacher can go to hell.

In this situation I would tell my kid to keep waving. As long as she is not going up to her friend to talk, there is no harm in a simple wave. The teacher has controlling issues.

Anonymous wrote:Parent of an extroverted child, this would piss me off. My child is friendly, social and yes "likes to be seen" not sure what the problem is.

The problem is your kid is obnoxious.

Yup. Some teachers are mean. Not everyone is going to like your kid. It is one of the hardest things about sending them to school. My child had a teacher who did not like her very much and we had a terrible year. Tell your kid not to wave.

Your child is being disruptive to her trying to organize her students and get them into the classroom. I don't think that she handled it well, but your child is not the center of the universe.

Parent of an extroverted child, this would piss me off. My child is friendly, social and yes "likes to be seen" not sure what the problem is.

Just tell your child not to wave. The teacher sounds mean, and she probably doesn't want her kids to act up while they are in line

How do you know the teacher said exactly that? Kids are not necessarily the most reliable narrators.

Are you paying for this school?

My DD sees her friend (who is in another class) lining up at the playground, and waves to her.

Friend's teacher says to DD, "You always have to be seen, don't you? Don't wave to my students."

DD waved again a week later, and teacher reminded her of the warning not to wave. I told DD to be happy the teacher is not her teacher, and for the sake of peace, skip the wave and move on. But now that I think about it, is she supposed to just ignore her friend?

I know there are much more pressing things going on in the world, but I'd love to hear how other people would handle this.