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Anonymous wrote:Call the police. Tell them you want them to be there while you gather your things and leave.

If not, can you leave quietly now? Can a relative come pick you up?

You have a job it sounds like. That's good.

Leave him, you can do it.

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New poster and genuinely curious. What do you suggest she do about the kids?

If you do nothing, you're saying this is acceptable treatment.

You can:
Call the cops
Go file a police report
Get a protective order
File for divorce
Ask him to leave
Leave
Marriage counseling (not a good idea when one partner is abusive)

Anonymous wrote:Call the police. Tell them you want them to be there while you gather your things and leave.

If not, can you leave quietly now? Can a relative come pick you up?

You have a job it sounds like. That's good.

Leave him, you can do it.

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Been there twice. Divorced the 1st man, he put his hands on me several times. Called the police but ended up in jail with him (he had managed to scratched his elbows when throwing me around the house).
Still living with my 2nd partner.He dragged me around the house when I refused to leave 5 am after 12 hour work shift. He was drunk too. Later cried his eyes out and hasn't drank since or put his hands on me.
I don't think OP is BS. It's hard to call the police and at times they can make the situation even worse.Specially when you live in DC.

Fake. Has the tone and semantic style of similar fake posts.

Was this a drunken shove or a hard punch?

How long have you been married and was this the first time?

I don't have a knee-jerk reaction to calling the cops unless I know more. Neighbors will ask why they are there, etc.

Given the nature and circumstances not sure if this is repetitive. Does he always have anger issues? Was this isolated? Is he a drinker and alcohol does this?

There is a lot to consider.

OP, for custody reasons you should call the police and report it. If there's a mark on your face, take a picture of it and if you have a smartphone email the picture to yourself in case he deletes it from your camera somehow.

I'm so sorry. Please call for help. Keep us updated please.

If this is true, your husband obviously can't handle liquor and needs an intervention. The only way that's going to happen is if you separate from him. He needs to go to rehab.

You got hit and you are on dcum,I call bs

If you leave quietly there will be no evidence on the record of what happened. If you call the police there will be. I can't say if I were in your position you I'd call. But as an outside observer, I can tell you that is absolutely what you should do and you should do it now--not after a few minutes or hours but now. Everything the other PPs have written about what will happen if you don't call or at least leave quietly is depressingly inexorable.

So sorry OP.

Leave quietly now, or call a friend or family member to come get you. I'm sorry this happened to you. Pp is right - it will happen again.

I guess his career in the NFL is over. Sorry for the joke.

Back to reality, you need to call the police and report the incident. Domestic violence usually escalates and if you don't intend to leave immediately, then you need to have the evidence for a restraining order, or to press charges if/when you decide to do so. Also, the evidence is protection so that if/when you leave or he leaves, that you have the evidence to assure that you retain custody of your children since he is unstable and violent. Finally, you need to start thinking about a backup plan of what you are going to do if anything even remotely like this happens again. For example, if he goes out drinking and comes home verbally violent, you need to figure out how you are going to get your children and you out of the house or get him out of the house before it escalates to the point that your or the children are severely hurt. Plan now. The more you plan now, the better it will be for you, even if you don't have to use the plans.

If you aren't sure how to plan an escape, the national domestic abuse hotline is 1-800-799-7233 and they can walk you through what you need to plan. Good luck.

Call the police. The more time that passes the more you will be willing to let the incident go, until it happens again that is (and it always happens again).

Having been in your situation, I can't tell you how many times I thought in the immediate aftermath of the abuse "I need to get out". But I wouldn't, and the next day it seemed like less of a big deal, and my husband would apologize or try to convince me it wasn't as bad as I remembered. And this cycle would continue for years.

Spare yourself and your children the years of torture to come. Call the police, have him arrested, file for an order of protection, and whatever you do, don't change your mind. It will all happen again and again. I wish I could go back in time and get myself to do just that. Maybe then I wouldn't wake up in a cold sweat after having a flashback nightmare of the marriage I left 7 years ago.

Call the police. Tell them you want them to be there while you gather your things and leave.

If not, can you leave quietly now? Can a relative come pick you up?

You have a job it sounds like. That's good.

Leave him, you can do it.

My husband came home drunk (at 11pm) and got really mad because I didn't want to give him any attention. I tried to calmly explain to him that I was too tired to talk and needed to sleep so I could get up on time for work. He started to curse at me then turned the tv up super loud and told me to get out of our room and sleep somewhere else if it was bothering me. I told him he was being immature and that I wasn't leaving. He got more aggravated and started threatening me so I picked up my cell phone to call his mom (hoping she could talk some sense in to him), but before I could dial the number he came over to my side of the bed and hit me in the face and the phone flew out of my hand. After he hit me he continued with more threats of violence and said he didn't care who I called or who I told.

I am so upset. I did leave our room and am now in our child's room with the door locked...I didn't want things to escalate any further. I didn't call the police, but I really want to... I feel humiliated and so violated. I also feel trapped because I need him to get our kids to/from school so I can work. Our kids were sleep so thankfully, they didn't witness/hear the incident, but I'm so shaken up that I'm sure they'll sense something is wrong when they wake up in the morning.

I need advice that anyone who has been in such a situation before can offer. I also want to get out asap, so any information on housing resources would be appreciated.