Anonymous
Post 09/05/2014 05:55     Subject: S/O: Why did you decide not to cheat?
Anonymous wrote:Did the thought that you might hurt your spouse or the spouse of OM/OW play a part in your decision?


The feelings of my spouse did not enter into the decision. She is from a foreign culture in which sex is seen as more a bodily function than an act of love or commitment. Roughly, it would be as if she found out I and another woman burped together. She would rather I not, but monogamy not that big a deal to her.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2014 05:34     Subject: S/O: Why did you decide not to cheat?
Most men over the age of 29 just are not that attractive, especially men. They are fat, bald, and dumpy. If more men looked like James Franco, I bet more women would cheat.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2014 04:41     Subject: S/O: Why did you decide not to cheat?
Because as much as I've been tempted, I've only ever had sex with my DH of 25+ years, and I could never live with myself.

I think if I'd had sex with other men before DH, having sex with another guy wouldn't be as great a moral impediment, but who knows.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2014 03:49     Subject: S/O: Why did you decide not to cheat?
Because fiction is much more interesting than reality?
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2014 21:25     Subject: S/O: Why did you decide not to cheat?
my kiddos. I didn't want to break up their home. And I could not have been with that man just once...I would have filed for divorce.

Dh did start treating me better and we are doing very well. Guy is with a girl who treats him like crap-he thinks she's the one...I dodged a freakin bullet!
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2014 21:02     Subject: S/O: Why did you decide not to cheat?
Anonymous wrote:Did the thought that you might hurt your spouse or the spouse of OM/OW play a part in your decision?


I was very very close one time to cheating on my DH with an ex. We were going through a rough time, ex had just gotten divorced, ran into him while we were both drinking (not a common occurrence - hadn't been drunk in years and hadn't seen ex in over a decade). I didn't though because I knew it would devastate my DH and mean the end of my marriage.
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2014 20:54     Subject: S/O: Why did you decide not to cheat?
Anonymous wrote:I have been tempted, very tempted. I find monogamy pretty awful. I do not have a lack of opportunity either. I work in a male dominated, high earning industry and I'm attractive and fit. Kind of like sharks and the minnow.

At the end of the day, I'd feel horrible. I would not want to live with the guilt and jeopardize my marriage. I'm also afraid that I might hook up with a guy, the sex be horrible or his dick small, and then I would have ended up "going there" for a bad fuck. Too much risk.


Not married but I have thought that too!
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2014 20:46     Subject: S/O: Why did you decide not to cheat?
Anonymous wrote:I have been tempted, very tempted. I find monogamy pretty awful. I do not have a lack of opportunity either. I work in a male dominated, high earning industry and I'm attractive and fit. Kind of like sharks and the minnow.

At the end of the day, I'd feel horrible. I would not want to live with the guilt and jeopardize my marriage. I'm also afraid that I might hook up with a guy, the sex be horrible or his dick small, and then I would have ended up "going there" for a bad fuck. Too much risk.


the way you approach it, you must be an attorney
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2014 20:41     Subject: S/O: Why did you decide not to cheat?
Anonymous wrote:I have been tempted, very tempted. I find monogamy pretty awful. I do not have a lack of opportunity either. I work in a male dominated, high earning industry and I'm attractive and fit. Kind of like sharks and the minnow.

At the end of the day, I'd feel horrible. I would not want to live with the guilt and jeopardize my marriage. I'm also afraid that I might hook up with a guy, the sex be horrible or his dick small, and then I would have ended up "going there" for a bad fuck. Too much risk.



THIS. The "temptation" for me was a very petite guy. I did the math. No way was this guy going to meet any kind of fantasy I had in my head. My DH is a pretty good lover, so the odds were I'd be very disappointed. So chose not to go there. But it's a weekly self-talk bec I work
Closely with said petite guy. But, yeah, 99.999% sure it would be dosappointing and reality would never match up to the fantasy.
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2014 20:10     Subject: S/O: Why did you decide not to cheat?
Anonymous wrote:I have been tempted, very tempted. I find monogamy pretty awful. I do not have a lack of opportunity either. I work in a male dominated, high earning industry and I'm attractive and fit. Kind of like sharks and the minnow.

At the end of the day, I'd feel horrible. I would not want to live with the guilt and jeopardize my marriage. I'm also afraid that I might hook up with a guy, the sex be horrible or his dick small, and then I would have ended up "going there" for a bad fuck. Too much risk.


You made me laugh! Never in a million year this thought would have crossed my mind. Hilarious!

Anonymous
Post 09/04/2014 20:01     Subject: S/O: Why did you decide not to cheat?
Did the thought that you might hurt your spouse or the spouse of OM/OW play a part in your decision?
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2014 18:40     Subject: S/O: Why did you decide not to cheat?
I have been tempted, very tempted. I find monogamy pretty awful. I do not have a lack of opportunity either. I work in a male dominated, high earning industry and I'm attractive and fit. Kind of like sharks and the minnow.

At the end of the day, I'd feel horrible. I would not want to live with the guilt and jeopardize my marriage. I'm also afraid that I might hook up with a guy, the sex be horrible or his dick small, and then I would have ended up "going there" for a bad fuck. Too much risk.
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2014 18:16     Subject: S/O: Why did you decide not to cheat?
Scared of STDs, too lazy to sneak around effectively, too stressed to choose illicit sex over nap or a bubble bath.
Waited out the run of marriage and now with awesome guy.
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2014 17:48     Subject: S/O: Why did you decide not to cheat?
See thread: s/o Men who want to abort the child should not pay child support.
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2014 17:21     Subject: S/O: Why did you decide not to cheat?
Has this ever happened to you?
You have been married a long time and life is comfortable. You get a chance to have a discreet one-night-stand with a person who you find alluring - no string attached and nobody will know about it - ever. You are very attracted to this person, strongly infatuated, feeling giddy like a teenager - and you decide not to sleep with them. Why?