Anonymous
Post 09/04/2014 12:03     Subject: Crazy Ass Grandmother
I think you did the right thing by blocking her and changing your phone number. You don't need that stress and bad people in your life. Best wishes to you.
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2014 11:26     Subject: Crazy Ass Grandmother
How is your grandma getting any details on the current happenings in your life enough to criticize them? Is she seeing your posts on Facebook or is she hearing info second hand through your mom? If it's FB or other social media, block her so she can't see your posts. If the harassing calls and texts continue after you've cut off her source of info on you, then call up your provider and have your grandma's number blocked. Be polite and brief at family gatherings - just a "hello, how are you?" with a quick exit to the next relative to chat up.

If your mom is passing on details of your life to your grandma, then you need to talk to your mom and ask her to stop. It's up to your mom if she wants to keep grandma in her life, but it's not fair for her to pass along details on your life and family.

Lastly, yes, some one should take grandma to a doctor, but it probably should be one of her children, not you. So, see if your mom or a level headed uncle has seen the red flags for what they are and cares enough to act on it.
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2014 11:19     Subject: Crazy Ass Grandmother
OP, your grandmother sounds very, very cruel. I would definitely block her too. Can you or have you talked to your mother to get some perspective on her, like was she always like this, and does anyone know why? Not that there's any excuse for her mistreatment, but I know my grandmother has always been very acerbic and kind of cruel to people too, and my mother told me some things about her past, how both her parents died when she was a child and it helped me to see the lost scared little girl she probably feels like when she says some of the things she does. Any perspective on people is helpful in my opinion just to maintain your cool when they start up.
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2014 11:12     Subject: Crazy Ass Grandmother
Anonymous wrote:Altzheimers or dementia. Someone needs to take her to a Dr. now.

Seriously ---- she needs to see a doctor.
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2014 10:02     Subject: Re:Crazy Ass Grandmother
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If your grandmother is in her early 60s, how old are you? Too young to be hanging out on DCUM...go to a happy hour or join a kick ball team down on the Mall with all the other 20 somethings.
Don't answer Crazy Ass, she can go bug your mother.


Why does my age matter? I'm married with children. You're also off on your calculations and your advice is trash


If you're in your 20s or 30s with an early 60s grandmother it sounds like your family are the ones who are trash.


OP asked for advice and then got attacked. People need to stop thinking about what situations "sound like" and offer advice or go elsewhere. Family's are blended due to adoptions, remarriages , etc. Calling someones family trash is ridiculous of course one would get the balls to on an anonymous forum.
Anyhow OP keep doing what you're doing and ignore her it doess seem like she has serious issues.
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2014 09:43     Subject: Re:Crazy Ass Grandmother
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If your grandmother is in her early 60s, how old are you? Too young to be hanging out on DCUM...go to a happy hour or join a kick ball team down on the Mall with all the other 20 somethings.
Don't answer Crazy Ass, she can go bug your mother.


Why does my age matter? I'm married with children. You're also off on your calculations and your advice is trash


If you're in your 20s or 30s with an early 60s grandmother it sounds like your family are the ones who are trash.
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2014 09:43     Subject: Re:Crazy Ass Grandmother
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If your grandmother is in her early 60s, how old are you? Too young to be hanging out on DCUM...go to a happy hour or join a kick ball team down on the Mall with all the other 20 somethings.
Don't answer Crazy Ass, she can go bug your mother. [/quote

Why does my age matter? I'm married with children. You're also off on your calculations and your advice is trash


If you're in your 20s or 30s with an early 60s grandmother it sounds like your family are the ones who are trash.
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2014 09:40     Subject: Re:Crazy Ass Grandmother
Anonymous wrote:If your grandmother is in her early 60s, how old are you? Too young to be hanging out on DCUM...go to a happy hour or join a kick ball team down on the Mall with all the other 20 somethings.
Don't answer Crazy Ass, she can go bug your mother. [/quote

Why does my age matter? I'm married with children. You're also off on your calculations and your advice is trash
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2014 09:36     Subject: Crazy Ass Grandmother
Altzheimers or dementia. Someone needs to take her to a Dr. now.
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2014 09:00     Subject: Crazy Ass Grandmother
Tell her to tell all of this to your mother and block her number from your phone. Have zero contact.
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2014 08:58     Subject: Crazy Ass Grandmother
Has she always been like this, or is this new behavior? If the latter, it could be a sign of dementia or some other medical problem. Sad, but it happens.
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2014 08:34     Subject: Crazy Ass Grandmother
Early signs of dementia.
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2014 06:06     Subject: Re:Crazy Ass Grandmother
If your grandmother is in her early 60s, how old are you? Too young to be hanging out on DCUM...go to a happy hour or join a kick ball team down on the Mall with all the other 20 somethings.
Don't answer Crazy Ass, she can go bug your mother.
Anonymous
Post 09/04/2014 06:02     Subject: Crazy Ass Grandmother
I think you need to say to her flat out that she's really mean and her comments are hateful and hurtful. You don't like it and you don't want it in your life.

Good for you for blocking her and changing your number. She sounds horrible.

Stare at her and walk away when she starts talking at family events. Do not engage in any way. Do not respond.
Anonymous
Post 09/03/2014 23:57     Subject: Crazy Ass Grandmother
My grandmother who is in her early sixties has been texting me out of the blue for the past two years hurling insults. We do not speak regularly or hardly ever when I see her at family functions she does not try to initiate conversation. This past Tuesday on my way to work I received three pages of text from her calling me a " nasty twit, saying I look anorexic and couldn't swat a fly, talked about my mother for having two different fathers of her children (my mother is her daughter) the list goes on. I am fucking sick of it. In the past when she does this I will ignore it and if i do reply would say I am not initiating an argument over text messages and she is free to call if she has needs to talk. The one time she said something to me was in December when she approached me on Christmas and asked me to find her wrapping I obliged and wrapped the whole gift for her. SHe then came back to the location I was in and said she was upset over a non related commented I had made. "I said okay grandmother lets be adults " She then began to mimic me in front of my face. MY GRANDMOTHER! She says she texts me because I need a reality check and its her job to do this. THis past time I messed up and went back and forth with her which I can tell she loved and got her off. Today I blocked her and changed my number. Her actions disgust me she does this to my other two girl cousins as well she will say they look like drag queens, are ignorant, etc. I truly think she has mental issues two of her six children. How can I get this woman out of my life and how do i continue to act dignified at family events when I am past my limit?