Anonymous wrote:I honestly wouldn't waste the time digging through public records on some old boyfriend. I guess I wonder how I would feel if my husband spent several hours (?) looking through all the public records he could on an old girlfriend when she wrote him. I'd be a little pissed, frankly. Your happiness with your husband doesn't have to come at the expense of another boyfriend's misery.

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Anonymous wrote:We dated in our late twenties, now both 40. I am married. He sent an email telling me how I was his one regret in life, made the biggest mistake by letting me go and that he is sorry for how things ended. He said he still thinks about me and wanted to apologize for being dumb and immature and not appreciating me more. This is the 3rd time in 10 yrs he's done this. This time I wrote him back. I thanked him and asked him how things were going.

He told me about how successful he was now (high earner, big house, etc). He was pretty aimless and irresponsible when I knew him. What he doesn't realize is that I already how things are going. I know that he's been divorced and remarried for the 3rd time, had his home foreclosed, filed for bankruptcy, and as recently as May received an eviction notice on his rental. He is also STILL married.

It's pretty easy to pull public court records online these days.

I wrote him because I knew this and knew that he has not changed at all. I wrote him because I knew he would lie. I wrote him because every time I get annoyed by small things my husband does or am tempted to flirt back with a stranger, I want to remind myself that things could've turned out much differently for me. I'm lucky to have met my husband and to have found such a great man. He is an awesome husband and a great father and I hope I never take him for granted.

If your ex contacts you don't be flattered that you were the one who got away. Be glad that you were the one who dodged a bullet and appreciate what you have. The grass isn't always greener.

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Anonymous wrote:I honestly wouldn't waste the time digging through public records on some old boyfriend. I guess I wonder how I would feel if my husband spent several hours (?) looking through all the public records he could on an old girlfriend when she wrote him. I'd be a little pissed, frankly. Your happiness with your husband doesn't have to come at the expense of another boyfriend's misery.

It wasn't hours it was minutes. I never said I was happy about this guy's situation I said it reminded me of how lucky I am. I told my husband all about it. You missed the point entirely but I guess it's more popular to trash your husband and ask how to start an affair on DCUM.

I still think it's a waste of time. I don't see why you need to check public records on someone who you had no intention of talking with in the first place.

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Anonymous wrote:I honestly wouldn't waste the time digging through public records on some old boyfriend. I guess I wonder how I would feel if my husband spent several hours (?) looking through all the public records he could on an old girlfriend when she wrote him. I'd be a little pissed, frankly. Your happiness with your husband doesn't have to come at the expense of another boyfriend's misery.

It wasn't hours it was minutes. I never said I was happy about this guy's situation I said it reminded me of how lucky I am. I told my husband all about it. You missed the point entirely but I guess it's more popular to trash your husband and ask how to start an affair on DCUM.

Anonymous wrote:I honestly wouldn't waste the time digging through public records on some old boyfriend. I guess I wonder how I would feel if my husband spent several hours (?) looking through all the public records he could on an old girlfriend when she wrote him. I'd be a little pissed, frankly. Your happiness with your husband doesn't have to come at the expense of another boyfriend's misery.