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Anonymous wrote:I had a friend back in my 20s who loved pursuing engaged and married men. She said she did it for the "challenge" and, as another PP said above, she really got off on the ego boost of taking a man away from another woman. Guess why I stopped being friends with her?

It's a really appalling attitude.

Same. My friend thought she must be some shit to steal away a married man. I remember her once sleeping with two different married men on the same night. Had sex with one in her bed. Got a booty call from the other and drove to the Eastern Shore to do him too. Left the other guy sleeping in her apartment.

I had a friend who was like this. She had a couple of long-term relationships with married men. The first was just cheating, he never left his wife, they eventually split. He was also her boss. The next guy did leave his wife, but then went back to her, but then dumped them both for (several) someone else(s). She kept trying to get that one back for a couple years. When I asked her why, she said that if he'd had a wife, and was willing to leave her, and then all these other women, but still chose her in the end, it would mean she'd 'won'.

After the married guys stopped hurting her, she switched to a guy who is an on-and-off-the-wagon alcoholic. It's been years, the doctor has told him he has liver damage from the drinking, and he hasn't managed to stay sober for more than about 6 months at a time. Yet she stays off-and-on with him because, if he could give up the drinking, it would mean he really loved her most of all.

I think she just has a really screwed up idea of what love is, in that if it doesn't overcome some major obstacle (e.g. a pre-existing relationship, addiction, whatever) it isn't 'real love.'

Anonymous wrote:If he'll cheat WITH you, he'll cheat ON YOU . Good luck to the sad pathetic whores that would willingly , and gleefully insinuate themselves into someone else's marriage. You think you've " won" some great prize ? Congratulations , you've won a lifetime of mistrust .... And you're welcome to it.
You think you're " special" and he won't do it to you , think again.
There's a website to out those whores , they have a FB page too........ Shesahomewrecker.com

Lol you sound bitter

Anonymous wrote:I had a friend back in my 20s who loved pursuing engaged and married men. She said she did it for the "challenge" and, as another PP said above, she really got off on the ego boost of taking a man away from another woman. Guess why I stopped being friends with her?

It's a really appalling attitude.

Same. My friend thought she must be some shit to steal away a married man. I remember her once sleeping with two different married men on the same night. Had sex with one in her bed. Got a booty call from the other and drove to the Eastern Shore to do him too. Left the other guy sleeping in her apartment.

If he'll cheat WITH you, he'll cheat ON YOU . Good luck to the sad pathetic whores that would willingly , and gleefully insinuate themselves into someone else's marriage. You think you've " won" some great prize ? Congratulations , you've won a lifetime of mistrust .... And you're welcome to it.
You think you're " special" and he won't do it to you , think again.
There's a website to out those whores , they have a FB page too........ Shesahomewrecker.com

Anonymous wrote:I had a friend back in my 20s who loved pursuing engaged and married men. She said she did it for the "challenge" and, as another PP said above, she really got off on the ego boost of taking a man away from another woman. Guess why I stopped being friends with her?

It's a really appalling attitude.

Not your friend, but engaged and married men pursued me in my early to mid 20s. I never initiated a relationship, I never wanted a relationship with someone already taken, but there was something about me, I guess, that attracted these men. One managed to break my heart, then went on to marry his fiancé. I still have PTSD from that period of my life.

I had a friend back in my 20s who loved pursuing engaged and married men. She said she did it for the "challenge" and, as another PP said above, she really got off on the ego boost of taking a man away from another woman. Guess why I stopped being friends with her?

It's a really appalling attitude.

Anonymous wrote:Don't be so sure there's no end game. My married man is now getting a divorce.

And I would trust him as far as I could throw him.

Don't be so sure there's no end game. My married man is now getting a divorce.

OW here. I'd never been attracted to a married man before meeting this particular man. In fact, I, too, used to judge and criticize women who were in relationships with married men. In my case, I met a man to whom I found myself extremely attracted. It seems it was mutual. I know there's no future here, but he gives me something other men haven't in a long time.

For the same reason married women are attracted to married men (not own husband), single women are attracted to single men or married women are attracted to married men.
Hetrosexual women like men they are attracted to.

So if your question is really about attraction it just happen sometimes. We have seen a few posts recently from married women attracted to male colleagues (married and single).

Now if you are asking why a single woman would date a married man, I am sure they are several answers. I think married women want to assume it is low self esteem but personally I can see the allure of a relationship that isn't going anywhere. All of the fun none of the committment. That said it is completely selfish on the part of both the woman and the man knowing the relationship has a third person who is being completely disrespected.

I think there is also a group of women who like to be "fixers". You know what I mean...oh poor married John, he is so unhappy b/c his wife is mean and never sleeps with him. I can be a hero and fix that.

Some other reasons have been mentioned above. We can't assume everyone enters a relationship with the best intentions.

Women are attracted to men who seemed to be desired by other women. Being married means that at least one other person found you attractive enough to marry.

Insecure and it's validation for them.

For some, there is an end game. That either hoping to experience great taboo sex with a married man, establish a no strings attached relationship or, in some circumstances, they meet their future husband.

Fear of commitment for some, ego boost for others. Some are gold diggers and use the fools for $ or jewelry, whatever.

I don't get it. What's in it for them? Don't they realize that there's no end game?